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What should be the parents' role in their children's romantic relationships?

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  • What should be the parents' role in their children's romantic relationships?

    Originally posted by Siggie View Post
    What test is that?
    Does she accept you? If not, it can really tear down a marriage in the long run.
    Մեկ Ազգ, Մեկ Մշակույթ
    ---
    "Western Assimilation is the greatest threat to the Armenian nation since the Armenian Genocide."

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    Re: Engagement Ring Finger

    Originally posted by Mos View Post
    Have you passed the prospective husband's mother test?? You know how Armenian mothers feel towards their sons
    Originally posted by Siggie View Post
    What test is that?
    Aaaand... has he passed the prospective wife's father test.... you know how Armenian fathers feel towards their daughters.
    "Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it." ~Malcolm X

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      Re: Engagement Ring Finger

      There's only one person's test that matters in romantic relationships (that don't involve children) and that's the other partner's.
      [COLOR=#4b0082][B][SIZE=4][FONT=trebuchet ms]“If you think you can, or you can’t, you’re right.”
      -Henry Ford[/FONT][/SIZE][/B][/COLOR]

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        Re: Engagement Ring Finger

        Originally posted by Siggie View Post
        There's only one person's test that matters in romantic relationships (that don't involve children) and that's the other partner's.
        Yes those are the main players, but during marriage you are also marrying into each others families, so it's always good to have good relations with both sides of the family and have acceptance from both sides.
        Մեկ Ազգ, Մեկ Մշակույթ
        ---
        "Western Assimilation is the greatest threat to the Armenian nation since the Armenian Genocide."

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          Re: Engagement Ring Finger

          Originally posted by Mos View Post
          Yes those are the main players, but during marriage you are also marrying into each others families, so it's always good to have good relations with both sides of the family and have acceptance from both sides.
          That may very well be, but one's own happiness with their partner is more important one's mother's or father's satisfaction with their partner. After all, whom is it that will be living with them, building a life with them, raising children with them, etc.? Not the parents.
          [COLOR=#4b0082][B][SIZE=4][FONT=trebuchet ms]“If you think you can, or you can’t, you’re right.”
          -Henry Ford[/FONT][/SIZE][/B][/COLOR]

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            Re: Engagement Ring Finger

            Originally posted by Siggie View Post
            That may very well be, but one's own happiness with their partner is more important one's mother's or father's satisfaction with their partner. After all, whom is it that will be living with them, building a life with them, raising children with them, etc.? Not the parents.
            You're marrying members of their family. That means that even the drunk and gambling brother in law will put a strain on your relationship.
            "Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it." ~Malcolm X

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              Re: Engagement Ring Finger

              Originally posted by KanadaHye View Post
              You're marrying members of their family. That means that even the drunk and gambling brother in law will put a strain on your relationship.
              Sure, and it's good to know about the family members. But you yourself considering the family versus your family needing to approve of your partner and their family, are two different things.
              [COLOR=#4b0082][B][SIZE=4][FONT=trebuchet ms]“If you think you can, or you can’t, you’re right.”
              -Henry Ford[/FONT][/SIZE][/B][/COLOR]

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                Re: Engagement Ring Finger

                Originally posted by Siggie View Post
                Sure, and it's good to know about the family members. But you yourself considering the family versus your family needing to approve of your partner and their family, are two different things.
                Well... if one day you are financially unable to provide a roof over your head and have to turn to the in-laws.... I guess they are stuck with you. You see, there are certain aspects of Armenian tradition that are societal safety nets. Perhaps government has taken that role post industrial revolution but like they say... times they are a changin' and parents should be respected.
                "Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it." ~Malcolm X

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                  Re: Engagement Ring Finger

                  Originally posted by KanadaHye View Post
                  Well... if one day you are financially unable to provide a roof over your head and have to turn to the in-laws.... I guess they are stuck with you. You see, there are certain aspects of Armenian tradition that are societal safety nets. Perhaps government has taken that role post industrial revolution but like they say... times they are a changin' and parents should be respected.
                  So you're suggesting that you should let others dictate your life for fear that one day you might need their help?

                  Let me ask you this then. What would you personally do if your parents weren't crazy about your girlfriend whom you wanted to marry? What do you do when you disagree?
                  [COLOR=#4b0082][B][SIZE=4][FONT=trebuchet ms]“If you think you can, or you can’t, you’re right.”
                  -Henry Ford[/FONT][/SIZE][/B][/COLOR]

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                    Re: Engagement Ring Finger

                    Originally posted by Siggie View Post
                    So you're suggesting that you should let others dictate your life for fear that one day you might need their help?

                    Let me ask you this then. What would you personally do if your parents weren't crazy about your girlfriend whom you wanted to marry? What do you do when you disagree?
                    I didn't bring those ones home to meet the parents
                    "Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it." ~Malcolm X

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