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One armenians view on interracial marriages:

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  • #11
    Originally posted by Stark Evade
    Better yet: here.
    We are using definition 1.
    Achkerov kute.

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    • #12
      Originally posted by Anonymouse
      We are using definition 1.
      And you're also saying people should not use the others. If an Armenian marries a Swede it can be considered an interracial marriage and it would be incorrect to say it is a misuse.

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      • #13
        [QUOTE=Stark EvadeIf an Armenian marries a Swede it can be considered an interracial marriage and it would be incorrect to say it is a misuse.[/QUOTE]

        Some might say that it is a misuse of a Swede.
        Plenipotentiary meow!

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        • #14
          All I meant was that it is extreamly hard to convince an armenian to marry a non armenian even if they themselves want too. They are always so worried about what their family will think and continueing their traditions amongst many other things.

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          • #15
            Originally posted by sad_eyes
            All I meant was that it is extreamly hard to convince an armenian to marry a non armenian even if they themselves want too. They are always so worried about what their family will think and continueing their traditions amongst many other things.
            Not all Armenians are like this though. Many happily marry Otars and never look back.

            My uncle is married to a Russian woman (my God Mother), and my bf's mother is French. Both of these women are sweeter than their Armenian husbands and fit into their families very well, which leads me to conclude: why put so much focus on such details as long as they are similar enough to have a successful family? Let them be happy with the one they chose.

            There is the question of genetics, and I can understand the desire to keep the Armenian genes unmixed any more than they already have been. At the same time, I have to say, a halfie can be just as Armenian as a "pureblood" and a "pureblood" can be just as antiArmenian as a Turk (yes, I wouldnt have believed it if I had not seen it with my own eyes). So really... its all in the way the couple raises their children - not in the genes.

            Those of you who have read my posts on this before may be surprised, but if you read carefully you will see that I still feel the same way personally. Ive just become more open minded about the issue. I have not strayed.

            Rachel, Im sorry you got so unlucky in this aspect. There are Armenians who are more open to marrying Otars. If you really want to marry an Armenian, its very possible. If its only your bf you want, and he cant marry you because youre not Armenian living in Canada in the year 2005... I really hope you find someone else and forget this one. Its very sad...

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            • #16
              I tried, Armobarbie. I have sacraficed alot for him but it was never enough. Last month I was in Edmonton AB visitng my mother who has cancer and was recieveing treatments at the time. While down there, Levon cheated on me. He used the excuse that he was drunk and that he felt so bad about doing it afterwards. After much much debation I chose to stay with him, but hehe.............he wasnt sure if that was what he wanted anymore. I couldent believe it. After everything I have done for him, he hurt me and then decided that maybe he didnt want to be with me anymore. We were friends for a while, but I informed him today that I do have a new boyfriend. He didnt want me as his girlfriend anymore but he didnt want me to be with anyone else so he wasnt happy. I didnt want to tell him but he told me that he would want to know and now he is being cold towards me. He openly admits that he is jelouse but if I was ever as important to him as he claimed he would never hurt me and I not let me go. It was an ongoing battle with him. I loved him enough to endure through whatever bad time he was going through and stood by his side even though he did bad things to me. I wont say that he isnt a good guy, he is a great person, just lost somehow. I do love him still and will always hold him warmly in my heart...

              I do know that some armenians marry an otar. One armenian here did. Its all about compatibiliy. If you can see yourself having a good life with that individual and that he or she "fits" well with you then it can work. But the problem is is that it takes two to tango so to speak. One can love and commit but the other may not. In my case me and Levon ended our realtionship little less than a month ago I was ready to commit but he wasnt although I was supposingly was the right girl for him. He chose preserving the armenian culture by being with an armenian. By agreeing to marrying an armenian girl. I think that two people can be together no matter what the circumstances, it all depends on the will of the individual. I will never understand his views on that but I have learned to accept it. He is a beautiful person and I have gained many many lovely sweet memmories that I will cherish for the rest of my life and I wish him the happiest in his life.

              Anywayyyys, I will stay amongst you lovely armenians as I still love your culture...and the food....and the dancing....and the jokes.

              Cheers!

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              • #17
                Im sorry you fell in love with an unworthy man. I did it myself as a teen, thank god I was smart enough to get out in time. I wish you luck with your new relationship, and I am glad to hear that Levon is out of the picture. Dont think that its good to be friends with him either. A jerk is a jerk. It was really a spit on love the way he treated you. I really recommend that you spend your love on someone of quality.

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                • #18
                  I have decided that I am right.

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                  • #19
                    Originally posted by Stark Evade
                    I have decided that I am right.
                    I have decided to agree.
                    Saves some unnecessary usage of words such as that which has occured in this sentence.
                    [COLOR=#4b0082][B][SIZE=4][FONT=trebuchet ms]“If you think you can, or you can’t, you’re right.”
                    -Henry Ford[/FONT][/SIZE][/B][/COLOR]

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                    • #20
                      I've always been actively involved in Armenian community. I always thougt i'd marry an Armenian. But I fell in love ourside my ethnicity. There was a lot of bickering and dissing, threats and fights. And that's when I realized that trying to please people who think they're the keepers of culture I lose my own identity. Ethnic identity is important, but we often draw it to such extremes that the identity of an individual in our society is lost completely. I realized that individualism, in any way that you might think of it, is something that's rarely ever appreciated in our culture. Every white raven is looked upon like they're sick or something. We as a nation are very concerned by keeping our national identity, but what about personal identity, should we all be exactly alike?
                      So here's to the crazy ones, the ones that dare to shine, the ones that dare to keep their individuality and look at things from other prospective. It's always hard, but it's harder to do in our culture.

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