In love with the Concept or...?

[jahannam]

I've been thinking about this a lot lately...
this goes specially to the girls in this forum.
has there been a time in your life when you didn't have any guys in mind??
my point is that when it comes to love, do we look for people ALL the time cuz it makes us feel better about ourselves? the feeling of safety... of belonging...? or IS it about that one person??

think about it. even if it were a simple crush you had on some guy in junior high, haven't you just ALWAYS had SOMEone in mind everyday of your life since you discovered the feeling??

[jilbagh]

Originally posted by jahannam I've been thinking about this a lot lately...
this goes specially to the girls in this forum.
has there been a time in your life when you didn't have any guys in mind??
my point is that when it comes to love, do we look for people ALL the time cuz it makes us feel better about ourselves? the feeling of safety... of belonging...? or IS it about that one person??

think about it. even if it were a simple crush you had on some guy in junior high, haven't you just ALWAYS had SOMEone in mind everyday of your life since you discovered the feeling??
is it the CONCEPT of love we're looking for? or is it love(the person)?

well i've deal with the concept issue because i have a cousin, and he would look for a GF. When he didn't have one, thats all he would whine, moan and groan about...now he found someone, and he feels alot better about himself...i dont know if he's in love for the true def of love...or love cause he wants to be loved and wants to love...

as far as i go...im too laid back to look for it...i just take what comes and let go of what goes...if that sounds bad, it wasn't meant negativaly...if it was meant to be it would happen...forcing the issue may cause regrets

[sleuth]

They come and go LOVE stay...:)..its not about person its about feeling..personally i enjoy the feeling..love never changes..it's pleasure close to pain...we connect this greatest feeling to someone,because it needs to be shared more than anything else in this word.

[jahannam]

see... I didn't mean a "gilrfriend"... not necessarily.
you're saying you're single, right?
but don't you have at least ONE person in mind that you wouldn't mind being with?
or say when you're having casual sex, you wish it was with her??

:D

[jilbagh]

Originally posted by jahannam see... I didn't mean a "gilrfriend"... not necessarily.
you're saying you're single, right?
but don't you have at least ONE person in mind that you wouldn't mind being with?
or say when you're having casual sex, you wish it was her??

:D

xxx tawkin tue me main?

i'm single, of course there are people in mind...but see i have this receeding hair line thats started, so i get shy...

[jahannam]

yes i was talkin to YOU.
and that's exactly what I mean.
there's ALWAYS someone in mind.
and I think that makes you weak.

and by the way, my question has nothing to do whether or not you would make any moves on that person. I just want to know if people DO actually think about someone all the time.

[jilbagh]

Originally posted by jahannam yes i was talkin to YOU.
and that's exactly what I mean.
there's ALWAYS someone in mind.
and I think that makes you weak.

and by the way, my question has nothing to do whether or not you would make any moves on that person. I just want to know if people DO actually think about someone all the time.

ya there are people that i feel a connection with, that have the possibility of something special...but i ain't gonna just push it just cause i feel insecure, cause i really dont...except for this problem i have with my receeding hair like....AND im sure u know which cousin im talking about too lolol cause he was complaining around this time last year to you about it lol

but i do have good news, i saved a lotta money by switching my car insurance to geico :D

[jahannam]

lol
you have 2866664980 cousins.
I truly don't know which one you were referring to lol

[jilbagh]

Originally posted by jahannam lol
you have 2866664980 cousins.
I truly don't know which one you were referring to lol

the human chimney lol

[jahannam]

cool.. now I know lol
and STOP going off topic lol (and taking me with u)
I can't wait to hear flames, Anon's and feliz's thoughts on my question!

[Hogg]

In my opinion, you always have to be looking.

About always having someone on your mind, I disagree. I haven't had someone in mind forever. Well, there was that one girl a few weeks ago I thought about for an hour or 2 until she mentioned her boyfriend.

[dstyle]

More then not i have someone on my mind. but it just helps the day go faster when your bored at work.

[spiral]

I've been thinking about this a lot lately...
this goes specially to the girls in this forum.
has there been a time in your life when you didn't have any guys in mind??
my point is that when it comes to love, do we look for people ALL the time cuz it makes us feel better about ourselves? the feeling of safety... of belonging...? or IS it about that one person??

think about it. even if it were a simple crush you had on some guy in junior high, haven't you just ALWAYS had SOMEone in mind everyday of your life since you discovered the feeling??..

No actually, I don't always have someone in mind everyday.

That's for people who have jack xxxx to do, so they go off in lala land, day dreaming.
(as yourself)

[jahannam]

did I say anything about ME having someone in mind all the time?
I merely started a thread about it.
and I dunno if you've noticed, but I also called someone "weak" for being like that.
so don't assume stuff in that little brain of yours.
just go take pictures that make u look hot with your hair done. thats all you're good at.

[spiral]

Haha,



you asking the question obviously implies that the issue has to do with you, you are asking because you are going through whatever you mentioned, so don't act like it was a completely objective question.



=)~~~~~~~~~

[jahannam]

not that I find it inevitable to share this with you, but the reason I posted this is an arguement I was having with a girlfriend.

anything else I could help you with?

:rolleyes:

[ckBejug]

Originally posted by Hogg In my opinion, you always have to be looking.

About always having someone on your mind, I disagree. I haven't had someone in mind forever. Well, there was that one girl a few weeks ago I thought about for an hour or 2 until she mentioned her boyfriend.

I don't think you always have to be looking... the best things come along when you aren't looking, you know, when you least expect it. :)

[whitelotus]

Originally posted by jahannam yes i was talkin to YOU.
and that's exactly what I mean.
there's ALWAYS someone in mind.
and I think that makes you weak.

and by the way, my question has nothing to do whether or not you would make any moves on that person. I just want to know if people DO actually think about someone all the time.

yes, i actually do think about someone all the time....
same person runs through my mind....whenever i look at anyone, anything...

its hard to forget :| it hurts

[PASAMONSTER]

you know you're right jahnamm

now that i think about it someone is always on my mind, even when i don't think i'm thinking about someone, i actually am because i'm thinking about not thinking about them.

damnnn and those thought do hurt, thanks for bringing this up jahhnamm

[jahannam]

Originally posted by PASAMONSTER

damnnn and those thought do hurt

yup. the getting hurt part is what made me start this thread.
now teach yourself to NOT have anyone in mind for a certain period of time.
you'll be FREE!
I can't even describe how good it feels;)

and I'm not suggesting to stay like that forever.
but enjoy your freedom while you're single is what i mean.
cuz I'm sure none of you would be surprised to know how much of a slave one person can turn you into!!

[PASAMONSTER]

that last sentence, trust me i know....ohhh do i ever.....



hold the horses i'm the one that should be telling you advice about forgetting, infact as i remeber i did a while back LOL

the student exceeds the teacher Bravo Bravo

[sleuth]

Guys do you know how to toss out old furniture? Same with men...just toss them out from your mind...mental housclean lol...:( easy to say hard to do..don't tell me i know that.....

[Hogg]

Originally posted by ckBejug I don't think you always have to be looking... the best things come along when you aren't looking, you know, when you least expect it. :)

Well, it depends on what you mean by always looking. I'm not very proactive in my pursuit of a girlfriend so I think my next one will just "come along" when I least expect it.

[violette829]

Originally posted by jilbagh well i've deal with the concept issue because i have a cousin, and he would look for a GF. When he didn't have one, thats all he would whine, moan and groan about...now he found someone, and he feels alot better about himself...i dont know if he's in love for the true def of love...or love cause he wants to be loved and wants to love...

as far as i go...im too laid back to look for it...i just take what comes and let go of what goes...if that sounds bad, it wasn't meant negativaly...if it was meant to be it would happen...forcing the issue may cause regrets


Wow..we think alike....except for ur receding hair line. I'm sorry about that. But, u know, some women find it attractive when a man has a defined hair line?:rolleyes:

Just trying to make u feel better. If ur tall, then ur in! I'm sorry allt he guys 5'11 or shorter, but it's harder for u.

[violette829]

I just noticed that I sound like a PRICK in the last post. Sorrryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!:)

[loseyourname]

Originally posted by violette829 I just noticed that I sound like a PRICK in the last post. Sorrryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!:)

Why? You should prefer guys that are tall. Preferably 6'2" and under 200 pounds. No blondes, either.

[PASAMONSTER]

hey I'm 5'6

thats considered short, but having a 42 inch chest aand shoulders like a bull, not to mention the equiptment, i get no complaints from girls even tall ones.


I love tall women, because i aint gotta look em in the eye.

[spiral]

bayts inchkan es sirum du kez goval.

lol



Heehe I'm 5,6" too.

reminds of the erku kor enk erkusel mi boyi song..

[PASAMONSTER]

jannn

bayts es mi tgex kur klnem

LOL

trashov, 8:20 bexerov(thats handlebar mustache)

not to mention other parts

LOL

yes? indz goval? to inch govalu ban asi vor

asetsi vor kolot yezem, et inch govatsox baner?

[felizitation]

Originally posted by jahannam yup. the getting hurt part is what made me start this thread.
now teach yourself to NOT have anyone in mind for a certain period of time.
you'll be FREE!
I can't even describe how good it feels;)

and I'm not suggesting to stay like that forever.
but enjoy your freedom while you're single is what i mean.
cuz I'm sure none of you would be surprised to know how much of a slave one person can turn you into!!

I call this "fixation" (the translation seems to be the same word)

I don't know if it's the age ... When I was young, I was always thinking to one girl. Most of the time, the girl was either a classmate or a neighbor.
Now, I have many girls in mind ! :D I think it depends on the character, i know i'm pretty sensitive and i'm always thinking about my ex, and what i actually lived with them. For the girls I would like to be with, it fills my mood with fickleness, but on the other hand, the smell of the failure is always there.



All this, it's... natural. It's the hope, concerning our situation, we are associating with ppl we know or we fanstasm on. This hope vanish as soon as we find someone that we like. The person who we are thinking to doesn't really matter, contrary to the wish of being with someone. We associate all these feelings with so. we know, but it could be so. else.

You're talking about "slave". I think personaly that some ppl need to loose their freedom, and this is the reason why they can't bear remaining single. Besides the wish of entrusting their freedom to so., these ppl act by personal "need", which is in the most cases egoistical.

I'm sure that many ppl experienced that before: you have someone in mind, and so. else come in your life (i mean a real one, not just for an hour). You just stop think about the first person. When you think again about it, it amaze you how easy it was to stop thinking about this fixation.

[sleuth]

i don't like to keep someone in my mind..if he doesn't give a xxxx about me... I am suffering from narcissizm LOL

[PASAMONSTER]

no you're actually doing good sleuth

people should be a little more selfish