Aremian/Russian wedding issues..

[sfsculpto]

hello,
This is my first post and my question might be difficult to answer.

My Fiance is a Russian Armenian. Father is Armenian. She lives in Siberia, I live in California.

OK, a bit more background to a very complicated situation.

My girl is modern, her father is not. Her father is also on his death bed with terminal cancer. I wanted to go to her in Siberia to help support her but she absolutely refuses.

This is what she told me... not exactly word for word.. but you should get the idea.

"You can not come to Siberia because my Father is very traditional. Only he can decide who I will marry. If you come now when he is sick and dying my family will hate me and i will never again be able to come in my home town."

Please offer any feedback or thoughts on this situation. Thansk in advance.

[Haykakan]

Re: Aremian/Russian wedding issues..

Either this girl is hiding something or her father is some guy you really dont wanna meet.Either way its her father on his death bed so if she dont want you to be there then you should honor her wish.Once the oldman passes there will no longer be a excuse why you cant go there. Unless you are like me and like icefishing, cold weather and wildlife; it may be a better idea for her to come see you after she has mourned her fathers passing.

[Eddo211]

Re: Aremian/Russian wedding issues..

Either this girl is hiding something or her father is some guy you really dont wanna meet.Either way its her father on his death bed so if she dont want you to be there then you should honor her wish.Once the oldman passes there will no longer be a excuse why you cant go there. Unless you are like me and like icefishing, cold weather and wildlife; it may be a better idea for her to come see you after she has mourned her fathers passing.

I agree Haykakan

Sfsculpto, the best you can do is support her in this difficult situation and arrange for her to come stateside when appropriate. This will give her a chance to get away from it all and do some self-healing. You going there now, as much as you mean well, will complicate matters for her, as she is already overwhelmed with family affairs.

Long distance relationships are hard man……. but I know one thing for sure, it is worth it if it is the one you really want with your heart. This world is smaller than we think.

Sheers