The intelligence factor

[ara87]

Does general intelligence matter to you when you're considering a potential bf/gf? I do not think I could be with someone incredibly stupid,

For instance, there was a girl who attended school with me(in college) and still did not understand/comprehend how the native Americans got here. When someone near her attempted to explain it to her, and spoke of the land bridge, she asked if they meant Pangaea...........

Likewise, I don't think I could be with someone that was immensely superior in intellect than I, because I would always feel astonishingly stupid.

[Vigilante]

Re: The intelligence factor

Personally. Intelligence matters alot.

I hate ignorance.

But besides intelligence, communication is a big deal in a relationship too.

Like, I was talkin to this 1 girl who was russian/armenian or something, but she couldn't really speak well, and she was hot too, but i stopped talking to her, just cause of that, cause I knew it wouldn't have worked out.

But having a girl smarter then you? I don't mind. I think its cool if she is. I'll be the creative talented one, she'll be the smart one. It works out.

[ara87]

Re: The intelligence factor

But having a girl smarter then you? I don't mind. I think its cool if she is. I'll be the creative talented one, she'll be the smart one. It works out.

I didn't mean smart as in, "I went to Ivy league school smart," I could live with that, it would probably even come in handy.

I meant more on the lines of genius, like "≥ Steven Hawkings" smart.

[Vigilante]

Re: The intelligence factor

If you're doubting your intelligence, then i highly doubt that a female genius in the same league as steven hawkings would even waste her time with a guy like you.

Not saying you're dumb, but I'd think that a girl with that high of a caliber would want to be with someone just as smart as her.

But then again, opposites do attract, so yeah.

[ara87]

Re: The intelligence factor

but I'd think that a girl with that high of a caliber would want to be with someone just as smart as her.

I realize that, I was just stating that even if it was a possibility I don't think i would take a chance on it. Also I did not want to sound like an ass for saying I would most likely not date an unintelligent girl, so I needed something to balance the statement out

[Vigilante]

Re: The intelligence factor

I think your statement is fine the way it is without even mentioning a smarter girl.

But I know what you mean fool.

What about communication. How much of that matters to you?

I mean, i think communication is worth so much more then intelligence. But then, one can say that intelligence and communication go hand in hand, you know what I mean?

[ara87]

Re: The intelligence factor

What about communication. How much of that matters to you?

I mean, i think communication is worth so much more then intelligence. But then, one can say that intelligence and communication go hand in hand, you know what I mean?

Communication, as well as trust and all that good stuff are key. As far as communication and intelligence going hand in hand though, it all depends. I mean if a person has the i.q. of a cinder block, that's most likely going to hinder the communication, but you could have 2 geniuses paired up and they could still have trouble communicating as well. So I guess communication is worth more than intelligence.

[Mizzike]

Re: The intelligence factor

Intelligence is important. I found out first hand. My dad is intelligent and logical, my mom really is not. She is well educated (masters in education), but is still stupid, and has a ditzy personality. Creates friction. Mom can't listen to dad when it comes to simple things, like how to budget money, etc.
They still get along fine, but things could be a lot better. If you want a spouse or partner that you really want to feel united with, one that you'll possibly be raising children with, it's important to stay on the same page and be able to rationally discuss things if you want a stable household, or a stable relationship for that matter.

[Sip]

Re: The intelligence factor

Whoever said "communication" is key, was either a woman, or was a man that had never been with a woman in a serious and long relationship.

It's also not really a matter of dumb vs smart when it comes to communication. A lot of times you, as a man, should just keep your mouth shut and not say what is on your mind. That is the TRUE key to a successful relationship and true happiness.

Some guys make the mistake of telling the women they are with a lot of what they really think and end up living miserable lives for it.

Now to answer the question, I think there is a tradeoff to be made between looks and brains. Of course if you can find looks AND brains, then it's the best situation. Otherwise, men tend to put up with, and ignore a lot of stupid crap as the looks level goes up. For a girl that is both ugly and dumb, there is pretty much no chance.

[Crimson Glow]

Re: The intelligence factor

I am reminded of this thread:

http://forum.hyeclub.com/showthread.php?t=5103