Worth it

[ckBejug]

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question "What kind of man are you looking for?"

"As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man...or woman for that matter.

"I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"" The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life."

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain. She said "I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man.

"I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked... believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.

"I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don't need a financial burden.

"I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.

"I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive... he just has to be worthy.

"God made woman to be a help mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself."

When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, "You are asking a lot."

She replied, "I'm worth a lot."

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Now THAT is what I call a fine, fine Woman.

[dusken]

I do not like that woman much. And it is not because I feel inadequate, so we can avoid those jokes.

[ckBejug]

Originally posted by dusken I do not like that woman much. And it is not because I feel inadequate, so we can avoid those jokes.

No, no jokes. How come you don't like her?

[Crimson Glow]

I have to agree with Dusken, here. Let's take a look at what we got, shall we?

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Women with fake tans, fake breasts, fake nails, fake hair extensions, make-up to create a fake face, fake hair color, etc.....but yet, they want a real man. Men are always hit up with the "what can you bring to the table" question, because women in general seem to be more picky then males from what I've witnessed. Well I'm a tad bit sick of it. How about what do women offer (other then sexual satisfaction) for a change? If the majority of them are always seeking this "perfect man", can someone please explain to me what that perfect man would see in the usual emotionally unstable, don't quite know what they want out of life women?
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[ckBejug]

Originally posted by Crimson Glow I have to agree with Dusken, here....

Let's take a look at what we got, shall we? Women with fake tans, fake breasts, fake nails, fake hair extensions, make-up to create a fake face, fake hair color, etc.....but yet, they want a real man. Men are always hit up with the "what can you bring to the table" question, because women in general seem to be more picky then males from what I've witnessed. Well I'm a tad bit sick of it. How about what do women offer (other then sexual satisfaction) for a change? If the majority of them are always seeking this "perfect man", can someone please explain to me what that perfect man would see in the usual emotionally unstable, don't quite know what they want out of life women?

Obviously this isn't some compensating for her lack of something (probably brains) kind of woman with "fake tans, fake breasts, fake nails, fake hair extensions, make-up to create a fake face, fake hair color, etc.....". Or maybe you missed that? Women seem more picky than men? When it comes to what exactly? All those things you mentioned, you can bet behind every woman who goes through all that just to try to look 'good' there is the affections of a man she seeks to gain. And if you read it closely you would see that it isn't a perfect man she is seeking. It's a man who seeks perfection, whatever the definition is of the word perfect, for HIMSELF. Not to impress her. Funny isn't it, that when it comes right down to how a MAN's mind works the things YOU Crimson dear mentioned are two- LOOKS and SEX. Notice how she didn't ever mention either of those things? It's no wonder plenty of available, smart, determined, know what they want out of life, hard working, pretty women out there are still single...

[dusken]

She is terribly arrogant. I would have said, "I am smarter than you, I am more creative than you, I am sensitive, and I do not want anything to do with you."

She is narrrow-minded and she makes lists. I used to make lists of qualities that I was looking for until I actually had experiences. Compatability is too complicated for lists. Your list maybe denying you the opportunity to see the person that you can love and respect for the rest of your life. "Striving for perfection" is a meaningless phrase to me.

A relationship is not a business deal to me. Bring to the table?

[fIReBuRntInHeLL]

Dusken, that's true!
I dont' think is necessary to list what kind of qualities u looking for in a man, but i think the best way is not to expect when ur going to meet the perfect mate for you. When the time comes u just meet him/her and suddenly u realize that that person is all that u expected to have. Ck girls like you aren't going to stay alone, trust me!!!!! a smart experienced guy will find something in you that he never found in others. u dont need to list and become picky! Go with the flowwwwwwwwwwwwww.

[dusken]

Woman: So what are you looking for in a woman, Armel?

Armel: I am looking for someone that makes me happy.

Woman: Yes but what will make you happy?

Armel: We'll see.

[spiral]

I disagree. She is not putting forth strict guidelines. Nor is she implying that she is in any way superior to him.

She doesn’t ask for specific traits, and/or qualities in the person. She merely wants someone who is as driven as herself. Someone who will be able to walk with her. She does not want her hands held up as she walks, nor does she want to hold his hands up as he walks.