Kiss

[ckBejug]

Hey, its ok...we were just discussing it as a possibility.

A possibility? lol This is the best you could come up with? Maybe a better explanation is necessary if you are going to go so far as to make a claim like that.

[ckBejug]

Well personally, if I don't have feelings for someone I won't do anything with them...
But If I had to chose between kissing (long juicy kiss, lol) and sex, I would prefer sex.

Yes, because that makes sense.

[ArmoBarbi]

I owe noone an explanation for an idea which I am myself considering, hello? That's not called a claim. I have kissed two people in my life, in relationships, and am waiting to have sex for my wedding night. That's as far as I will go with this conversation.

Having a bad day? Smile!

[ckBejug]

I owe noone an explanation for an idea which I am myself considering, hello? That's not called a claim. I have kissed two people in my life, in relationships, and am waiting to have sex for my wedding night. That's as far as I will go with this conversation.

Having a bad day? Smile!

I am actually having a great day, on top of which I find you highly amusing and at the moment very confusing. You claimed that you would have sex with someone you didn't have feelings for before you'd kiss him. This is an idea you are considering?? Not really, since you said you are waiting for marriage. Now, my dear, that is a very big big claim for someone to make, especially someone who doesn't plan on having sex until she gets married. (Which, by the way, is a very good thing in my opinion.) So my question is, why would anyone say they would have sex rather than kiss a person. See why I find that so hard to swallow is because I understand the ramifications of having sex as well as those of kissing and how each can affect a relationship and could never fathom sex being something to be taken more lightly than kissing. Unless I am misunderstanding something somewhere?

[CatWoman]

ohhh so you were being sarcastic when you said what I said makes sense?
Well you said sex affects a relationship, we're not considering having a relationship with people we don't have feelings for! Not that we say sex is okay, but between kissing and sex, sex should be more enjoyable!
Like if someone was holding a gun to my head and I had to choose kinda thing...

[ckBejug]

ohhh so you were being sarcastic when you said what I said makes sense?
Come on ck, admit it... when you don't have feelings for someone, sex will be more enjoyable with them than a long kiss!

Yes, I was being sarcastic. I just can't wrap my brain around this and can't admit having sex with someone would be more enjoyable than kissing them in the absence of feelings because I don't believe it's true! I can kiss someone without having feelings for him because kissing is fun, especially if you're good at it or you're with someone who is good at it. Sex is so much more than that, in my opinion, so so much more that in the absence of feelings I would never even think of it.

[ArmoBarbi]

ck, I actually said something like, "It probably is" and laughed.

The reason I said that is because I can see how a person would have sex without being in love, but not how they would kiss... Havent you noticed how many people have sex just for the "fun" of it? Who is going around being a player by kissing people? This is what I was basing the reasoning on. It is in no way a personal thing. lol

[ckBejug]

ohhh so you were being sarcastic when you said what I said makes sense?
Well you said sex affects a relationship, we're not considering having a relationship with people we don't have feelings for! Not that we say sex is okay, but between kissing and sex, sex should be more enjoyable!
Like if someone was holding a gun to my head and I had to choose kinda thing...

Ok ok so if you have a gun to your head you'd pick sex. I get it now. lol. Not really, but I will try hard. I guess I kind of see what you guys mean now but since I enjoy kissing way too much to deny myself the pleasure just because I don't have feelings for the guy, and consider sex to be on a different level, I would still go for kissing. I don't think there is anything wrong with kissing a guy you find to be very pleasing to the eye and is a good kisser to boot. I've kissed a guy friend or two before without having loving and/or any other mushy feelings for them and then gone right back to being cool friends who partied together at school when all was said and done. Fun times.

[ArmoBarbi]

ck, now that i could not do. Btw, my cousin has your avatar on a t shirt. hehe its cute

[omniscient]

I would have to pick sex over kissing with a random girl. In my partying days I have never kissed a girl I did not care about it's just disgusting to me. On the other hand though, I did have sex with them. I guess for me kissing is more intimate than sex when it comes to a random person. But if you know the person well and have feelings for them, then I can see how sex would be on a more intimate level.

Nowadays though, I won't have sex with a random girl like I used to, it's just not in me anymore. Only exception is if she is Armenian and extremelyyyy hot .