What does heartbreak look like?

[hyebruin]

Well I thought I knew the answer to this!!But how wrong was I!! soooo wrong!!

If heartbreak and grief had a face it would be the face of a mother who has lost her child, no matter how old the child, young or adult.

I recently looked into the grieving eyes of one such mother and I knew that her face would never be the same again! Now, after being in her presence and seeing the mountain of pain and anguish and suffering that this poor woman is going through I am convinced that there is no bigger heartbreak than the loss of a child! It was such a powerful experience for me that I can almost fully grasp it without being a mother myself; and the worst part was not having an answer for her as to the endless "why's"...but at least by the end of the visit I could see that our presence there helped lift her up just a little bit, at least where she was not constantly crying and was having a casual conversation; though I knew that once we left she will have pain as her constant companion...

So what do you guys think is the face of heartbreak? (I know it's not a cheerful topic, but life is not always cheerful either, so let's share our views on this )

[Sip]

It's like writing your paper that is due tomorrow and then deciding to take a quick nap before doing the final proofreading to print it and then when you close the word processor and it says "close without saving?" and you thought it said "you want to save?" and answer yes.

Or when the digital camera says "cancel memory format?" (yes no) and you thought it is saying "are you sure you want to format?" and select no ... poof there go all the pictures you will never get back.

Note: I found out there is a way to unformat some memory cards! You can get some pictures back.

[Darorinag]

It's like writing your paper that is due tomorrow and then deciding to take a quick nap before doing the final proofreading to print it and then when you close the word processor and it says "close without saving?" and you thought it said "you want to save?" and answer yes.

Ouch, that would suck majorly, Sip lol.. ohhhh the nightmares!

[SagGal]

To me, a heartbreak is sadness like none other. I'm talking about sadness and grief such as losing something that's as important as one's life. A huge loss. When heartbroken, you feel the pain in your chest, stomach and throat. The throat feels very hard and thick.

Hmm, the face of heartbreak hu? I don't know how to answer that since different people express their grief in different ways. I think one thing that they have in common is tears though. So, to me the face of heartbreak is red and filled with tears.

Such a sad topic.

[Emil]

[HyeJinx1984]

Somehow I knew this would be you when I opened this thread, brooster.. (No, I'm never giving up that name, hahahahahahaha!!!!)

Heart Break is all about expectation/disapointment. Heart break is the emptiness you feel when the dreams you had set to come true don't, or when you think something is one way and it's really completely different... like devoting your heart and soul to a person, only to find out they are cheating on you nightly... to invest in a safe future for your children only to see it explode out of a car right before your eyes... to spend every last bit of credit you had into a independant feature film and see it completely bomb and leave you in debt for the next 40 years...

[Darorinag]

I recently looked into the grieving eyes of one such mother and I knew that her face would never be the same again!

I can imagine how painful it would be to lose one's child. I can't even think about what my mom would be going through if she lost me.. About 7 years ago, a friend of mine committed suicide for reasons that were kept private (because the family was already going through a lot of pain and suffering). I went to his house with my mom. It was such an awful sight. To see the look on his mom's face. She couldn't even speak. Every time she saw someone new coming in, she would go and hug them and break down, crying. A few years later, my best friend passed away. His mom knew all along that he'd die, but it seemed like that reality hadn't really set in when he died. She kept holding him, closed her eyes, and cried, occasionally opened her eyes and gave me this innocent yet painful look, as if she cared for me so much now, as if her son had materialised in me. As if she felt like I was the only one that would remind her of her him, because of all the memories we shared. I don't know how to explain it, really.

In all these expressions, I could see some kind of guilt too. As if they felt they hadn't done enough. That somewhere they went wrong. That if they had done something differently, things wouldn't have ended this way. And I think blaming oneself for the death of someone close is only a natural reaction - one that isn't restricted to the grief of a parent for the loss of their child, but also applies to the grief of a child for the loss of their parent. Small and insignificant memories keep popping up into their minds. And the tears that had stopped for one second would start flowing down their cheeks again and again and again, as they remember all the good and bad times they had with that person, all the things that they regretted and wished they could change, even minor things such as having said "no" to a child's wish for a toy many many years ago.

As for heartbreak, it depends on what type of heartbreak you're talking about. My post is restricted to heartbreak and grief of death.. I don't know.

[HyeJinx1984]

man, I'm usually in a dark and moody kind of mood most of the time, when I'd really be able to contribute to this thread... you guys had to catch me on the one night I was actually giddy and goofy.

[Genuine_Stud]

What does heartbreak look like?

Take a look at this:



Meaning, your heart can break.... but it also has the ability to mend and become better over time.

[Crimson Glow]

What does heartbreak look like?

Take a look at this:



Meaning, your heart can break.... but it also has the ability to mend and become better over time.

Wow! A red X says all that?

The only true love that I know is the love felt by parent for a child.

^ (From the Being in Love thread)

If heartbreak and grief had a face it would be the face of a mother who has lost her child

Hmmmm......InteŽesting.