What hurts?

[winoman]

I do too. That's actually very normal.

yeah perhaps - but it would be more "normal" to have a boy/girl/significant other friend etc - to channel these natural desires - not that one still might not diddle and such even so...depends...

[ArmoBarbi]

yeah perhaps - but it would be more "normal" to have a boy/girl/significant other friend etc - to channel these natural desires - not that one still might not diddle and such even so...depends...

Im a college sophomore. It wouldnt be "normal" for me to be married, and I choose to wait until I am. I guess to some people thats not "normal"

[winoman]

...and I choose to wait until I am. I guess to some people thats not "normal"

No - its really not in a sense - it is an artificial self imposed restriction that goes against your biology...and life is only so long you know - only so many days/hours/minutes - and the more time spent in unfun mode - well - that becomes a life - but whatever....I'm not meaning to judge you (we all must make our own choices) - just my perspective (that its not [truly] "normal" - etc)...but what is - eh?

[ArmenianKid]

No - its really not in a sense - it is an artificial self imposed restriction that goes against your biology...and life is only so long you know - only so many days/hours/minutes - and the more time spent in unfun mode - well - that becomes a life - but whatever....I'm not meaning to judge you (we all must make our own choices) - just my perspective (that its not [truly] "normal" - etc)...but what is - eh?

some people dont need to have sex to have fun u know.

i know i dont, it would be nice tho

[ArmoBarbi]

No - its really not in a sense - it is an artificial self imposed restriction that goes against your biology...and life is only so long you know - only so many days/hours/minutes - and the more time spent in unfun mode - well - that becomes a life - but whatever....I'm not meaning to judge you (we all must make our own choices) - just my perspective (that its not [truly] "normal" - etc)...but what is - eh?

If I lived in a society that didnt go against my biology anyway, then I wouldnt either. I would have sex every day, free to have different partners, and be protected,sheltered, and have food brought to me. All I would have to do is take care of the baby and clean the cave. Unfortunately, we dont live in such a society.

Whats "normal" in our conversations, is really whats "normal for our society", and in our society - it is not normal to follow our programming, but to follow social conditioning and self imposed restrictions in order to gain or acheive something.

[winoman]

Whats "normal" in our conversations, is really whats "normal for our society", and in our society - it is not normal to follow our programming, but to follow social conditioning and self imposed restrictions in order to gain or acheive something.

I hope (for your sake) that everything works out the way you have planned it for yourself and that you are (will one day be) happy, content and fulfilled!

Just FYI - I am a Daoist. If I go against what is "natural" for me I am creating much negative energy for myself and for other's around me. Sure - we all make choices (comprimises etc) - but one must often ask oneself who and what one is doing such for. Are these choices (self impositions for instance) because of some ideal or thought that one is having at some point in ones life that may not reflect a future position - is it because of parental influence or peer influence - or such - and so on and so forth. Not that these may not be legitimate factors etc. But one must examine and not just go blindly foreward thinking that they know without reflection (and we are all guilty of such). For when one does go against their Dao - they are stressing themselves and perhaps needlessly. Social conditioning - particularly from a society that is deficient in so many areas - may severly hamper one from achieving oneness with their Dao and may create the conditions for severe regret and pain at some later point in life. I'm not meaning to preach - just an observation/perspective....and yes - we muct make choices - and unfortunatly we have this one life (I'm not a believer in reincarnation or such) - and it is a short one at that...

[ArmoBarbi]

Omg you guys hahaha

wino, I get the idea, dont worry. lol You have your views - I have mine. Btw, you should know, I only believe in one life as well.

[sad_eyes]

Im a college sophomore. It wouldnt be "normal" for me to be married, and I choose to wait until I am. I guess to some people thats not "normal"

Very noble of any woman.

[Siamanto]

Winoman,
Skin is my favorite fabric, but I fear religions and rituals. Beyond sex, there is Passion, Beauty and Soul.

Excitement is but a desperate longing for Passion.
Fun is but a constant denial of the Unhappy!

[Tres Bien]

My advice for people with sleeping problems is
sleeping .be active during the day. be determened and do what you have to do and finish what you started.To write in a diary or so will also help you
or reading a book and put youre mind of troubling things.

Im having trouble sleeping as well nowadays...so much that i feel like jumping out of the window. But im a special case no book in teh world can help me