True Value

[Sako]

Hi everyone.

I see that this particular section of the forums are pretty dry lately. Thought I'd start a few interesting threads related to Love/Romance.

Let's forget about sex and good looks and all that for a second...

If you fell in love with someone or simply wanted to find someone and start a normal or perhaps serious relationship with...

As a person, what would you search for? What would grab your interest or make you curious? What is it that pisses you off? And most importantly, what is it that you value the most in a guy/girl other then beauty or good looks? These aren't always easy questions to answer so think about it for a bit and be realistic, most importantly when you answer.

[One-Way]

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I'm in a relationship so can you give me my own custom question?

[Sako]

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Sure, lol. Meki teghu yerkusu !

1. Cheating not included, what would make you end your relationship? What would truly make you stop caring about her?

2. What is it about her that you love the most, good looks and all aside?

[MrHyeSev]

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Saco how come you never answered the question?

[One-Way]

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1. Cheating not included, what would make you end your relationship? What would truly make you stop caring about her?

Wow, what a great question. Cheating is such an easy and obvious answer but with that out of the way, it really makes you think.

Honestly, if she stopped caring about me, I don't think I would stop loving her. That's weird to say, because even if she gave up on me and decided to call it quits, I don't think I'd be able to move on.

I think it all comes down to her changing the way she is. Personally, when I look at her, I see nothing but greatness. There isn't anything I would change, and I'm not bragging, it simply comes down to her being perfect for me. Unfortunently, if she gave up her values and her personality began shifting, that image of perfection would become less in focus. Maybe then, I would realize it's not her I care for and that person is gone.

2. What is it about her that you love the most, good looks and all aside?

Again, I don't want to sound cheesy because in a topic like this, everybody seems to roll their eyes. It's easy to say love doesn't exist and it's man made, and I understand that to an extent. However, I know what my girlfriend and I have and what we share. That's real, to us, and whether or not you choose to accept that is up to you.

With that said, it's her generosity. It's the way she cares, not just about me, but about everything she loves. She's considerate in others and has always shown great respect. In a sense, I look up to her for all these traits. Her ability to stay positive in the worst situation is amazing. The way she can hold onto one string of positive hope and carry that in her heart and battle anything in her way blows my mind. She has become an inspiration in many ways.

[Sako]

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Saco how come you never answered the question?

I asked the question bro, I get that privilege .

Wow, what a great question. Cheating is such an easy and obvious answer but with that out of the way, it really makes you think.

Honestly, if she stopped caring about me, I don't think I would stop loving her. That's weird to say, because even if she gave up on me and decided to call it quits, I don't think I'd be able to move on.

I think it all comes down to her changing the way she is. Personally, when I look at her, I see nothing but greatness. There isn't anything I would change, and I'm not bragging, it simply comes down to her being perfect for me. Unfortunately, if she gave up her values and her personality began shifting, that image of perfection would become less in focus. Maybe then, I would realize it's not her I care for and that person is gone.

Just the answer I was looking for. Nice reply my friend . I especially appreciate that you wouldn't be able to move on. That shows how much you care. Some others might say they would move on, there are hundreds of other hot girls out there. Well that just shows how prepared they are to run off. I don't really respect these kinds of people. I don't know, it's just not in my blood. When I hear talk like these, I can clearly see the difference between a loving, romantic person and a guy searching for a chance to have sex. When I use the word romantic, many different guys even get the nerve to say "This is the 21st Century" and crap I don't have time for. That's what I hated about the US, how much the values of life were being degraded and belittled. Thank you for an honest reply One-Way.

Again, I don't want to sound cheesy because in a topic like this, everybody seems to roll their eyes.

And I have no idea why...

It's easy to say love doesn't exist and it's man made, and I understand that to an extent. However, I know what my girlfriend and I have and what we share. That's real, to us, and whether or not you choose to accept that is up to you.

With that said, it's her generosity. It's the way she cares, not just about me, but about everything she loves. She's considerate in others and has always shown great respect. In a sense, I look up to her for all these traits. Her ability to stay positive in the worst situation is amazing. The way she can hold onto one string of positive hope and carry that in her heart and battle anything in her way blows my mind. She has become an inspiration in many ways.

I'm truly happy for you my friend. I wish you and her all the best and that she never changes and remains an inspiration for you. Thank you for being honest, again. And I don't find anything funny or cheesy. Most who do wish they could experience the same thing, believe it or not. So who cares about them and why should anyone care? Everyone is different and even if love is man created, I'm sure it's worth giving up everything for .

Cheers

[midsummer]

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As a person, what would you search for? What would grab your interest or make you curious? What is it that pisses you off? And most importantly, what is it that you value the most in a guy/girl other then beauty or good looks?

There are many positive traits that would make me interested in a man but the intelligence and good morals are the things that grab my interest immediately. Good looks can matter to me as long as it comes with intelligence otherwise only looks are of no importance to me.

Cheating not included, what would make you end your relationship? What would truly make you stop caring about her?

As to what would make me to move on in the relationship is if I’ve lost my trust and respect towards him. This could happen if he started lying, cheating, loosening up his morals etc. In short if he stops being the person that I fell in love with.

[Siggie]

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Just to throw some values out there...

Intelligence, Rationality, Integrity, and Humor. A tolerance of my sarcasm doesn't hurt either, but that's not really a value per se though it's something I would value.

[Sako]

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There are many positive traits that would make me interested in a man but the intelligence and good morals are the things that grab my interest immediately. Good looks can matter to me as long as it comes with intelligence otherwise only looks are of no importance to me.

Good to hear that

As to what would make me to move on in the relationship is if I’ve lost my trust and respect towards him. This could happen if he started lying, cheating, loosening up his morals etc. In short if he stops being the person that I fell in love with.

Pause there real quick. Let me ask you something. Almost every couple changes in time, they don't end up being the same people they were in the beginning. I'm not saying they become terrible people, I'm just saying they change. Many aren't prepared for that change which is basically a transition from love to mature love. Maybe that's why so many couples break up. You can see that in the states almost every single day, lol. Of course, you might meet a cool guy and eventually realize he was a retard. I'm not talking about these types of cases. What I'm talking about is not being prepared for the next step. So when you say "If he stops being the person that I fell in love with", what do you mean? If he changes A LOT or if he changes slightly and becomes more or less a different person?

[jgk3]

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I've yet to date a girl who would own me at some sport or musical instrument or could kick my ass in martial arts. Maybe that's been my dilemma.