How to forget ...

[jahannam]

I know that you guys know me as this bitter evil person here in the forums, but when it comes to love, it sux how fragile we all are.
so guide me please.
what are some ways that help us forget about people who have had big influences on our lives, and who we still have feelings for?
it's not even "forgetting" that I'm suggesting here. I just wanna STOP thinking about this one person as constantly as I have been.
sigh.

[Aphrodit3]

A few tips from personal experience:

~Distract yourself any way you can. Go out with friends, watch TV, read a book, blah blah. Keep yourself busy for as long as you can so that your thoughts don't wander. Eventually, you think less and less about it.

~Try to get out and see your friends as much as possible. Especially ones who you're close with and care about. Friends help you move on. Be around people. Go visit family. I spent a lot of time at my uncles house and it was very comforting to be with people who love me.

~Don't see this person or even talk to them at least until you're okay.

~Talking about it helps but be careful not to talk about it too much. That not only annoys your friends but it makes it harder for you to forget about it.

I'll think of more and post later. Hope it helped a bit.

[jahannam]

Originally posted by Aphrodit3

~Don't see this person or even talk to them at least until you're okay.

haven't really been able to do that.
not talking.
I can't help it.
i can't tell him to stop calling me, which he does once in a while.

[Aphrodit3]

Tell him to stop calling you. The not talking/not seeing part is really really important. It will take you much longer to get over it the more you talk. And every time you do, you'll relapse.

[PASAMONSTER]

jahnamm all the stuff that aphrodite listed are ways to prolong the inevitable.

Listen to me, its sad to say but i know much about loves bitter end.

You must motivate yourself to move on, its hard but you must.
don't concentrate on forgetting the other person, but consentrate on healing yourself.


you can always do as aphro said it... but you would be hurting yourself more because you're really denying yourself things in order to forget another person. xxxx. why should you make sacrifices for them. and when tommorow comes today becomes yesterday, so don' t worry time heals all wounds(and they leave heavy scars).

[patlajan]

Re: how to forget ...

Originally posted by jahannam I know that you guys know me as this bitter evil person here in the forums, but when it comes to love, it sux how fragile we all are.
so guide me please.
what are some ways that help us forget about people who have had big influences on our lives, and who we still have feelings for?
it's not even "forgetting" that I'm suggesting here. I just wanna STOP thinking about this one person as constantly as I have been.
sigh.

If they were so great they would treat you nice. Think about that.

[Aphrodit3]

Originally posted by PASAMONSTER jahnamm all the stuff that aphrodite listed are ways to prolong the inevitable.

Listen to me, its sad to say but i know much about loves bitter end.

You must motivate yourself to move on, its hard but you must.
don't concentrate on forgetting the other person, but consentrate on healing yourself.


you can always do as aphro said it... but you would be hurting yourself more because you're really denying yourself things in order to forget another person. xxxx. why should you make sacrifices for them. and when tommorow comes today becomes yesterday, so don' t worry time heals all wounds(and they leave heavy scars).

Forgetting is part of moving on. It takes time and a lot of will power. Healing will come with time...just time, nothing else.

[dstyle]

Jah just drink your ass off until u forget everything, its worked for me.

[loseyourname]

The first ex-girlfriend I ever had told me "the best way to get over one guy is to get under another."

[sSsflamesSs]

J, adding on to what Aphro said...

...the most important thing is to associate less and less with this person. Every time that you see him, talk to him, are reminded about him (through a song, or a place, or whatever), you go back to where you started. Avoid him at all costs until you're over him.