Marriage

[loseyourname]

She was going through opiate withdrawals and losing her apartment because her roommate was on speed. She didn't take it all that well. It lasted about a month and a half.

[sSsflamesSs]

Originally posted by loseyourname She was going through opiate withdrawals and losing her apartment because her roommate was on speed. She didn't take it all that well. It lasted about a month and a half.

Am I to assume that you were not her roommate? And if my assumption is correct, then why weren't you living with her if she was your spouse?

My question brought forth the answer that I was seeking. Although she sounds like she was messed up, just because you don't take marriage seriously, you ended up hurting someone in the process. Is that fair?

That's why all this paperwork is produced...because of people like you who take marriage as just another game.

[whitelotus]

i think she hurt him more then he ever hurt her by getting a divorce, i think she was more selfish then he ever was, by getting a divorce

someone who loves drugs more then there spouse isnt worth it, in my opinion.

[sSsflamesSs]

Originally posted by whitelotus i think she hurt him more then he ever hurt her by getting a divorce, i think she was more selfish then he ever was, by getting a divorce

someone who loves drugs more then there spouse isnt worth it, in my opinion.

Unless you have backgroud information that I'm not aware of, your response is based on groundless assumptions.

[loseyourname]

I was not her roommate. I have not and will never use any addictive substances. She took the marriage no more seriously than I did. She knew what she was getting into. We were both doing it for a thrill. If she got hurt, it's her own damn fault, and yes, she hurt me just as much.

Obviously, Anna, you have never been with a suicidal addict. One night, I had somewhere to go, and she forced me to stay with her by swallowing an entire bottle of Xanax, thereby making me stay with her to keep her awake so that she would not die. That was the last straw.

[loseyourname]

In addition, she would repeatedly insult me and taunt me then forget about it the next morning due to blackouts. She tore my mattress into pieces. She caused me to lose my own apartment. I have forgiven her and am now her friend, because I understand that she was not herself. Nonetheless, I could not stay married to her.

[whitelotus]

yeah i have background info

[sSsflamesSs]

Originally posted by loseyourname In addition, she would repeatedly insult me and taunt me then forget about it the next morning due to blackouts. She tore my mattress into pieces. She caused me to lose my own apartment. I have forgiven her and am now her friend, because I understand that she was not herself. Nonetheless, I could not stay married to her.

Look, I don't blame you for her actions, and maybe yes, she did deserve to be hurt in the process. But marriage for me is a sacred vow between two people that are in love, and taking it lightly is not a virtue in my book. That's what I was trying to say.

[loseyourname]

I don't recall saying I was virtuous. I acknowledge that what I did was impulsive and ill-founded. As I said, I take devotion and committment seriously, not the Clark County Marriage Board or the Little White Wedding Chapel. I do believe my divorce was justified.

[sSsflamesSs]

Originally posted by loseyourname I don't recall saying I was virtuous. I acknowledge that what I did was impulsive and ill-founded. As I said, I take devotion and committment seriously, not the Clark County Marriage Board or the Little White Wedding Chapel. I do believe my divorce was justified.

I don't recall saying if you were or not. Your marriage was not justified to begin with, but at least you realized this early on, when you are young, as opposed to when you're older and you have kids to put in jeopardy.