I am so lost!

[DaNcErGurL]

Okay...i have a dillema!! I have been searching for the "perfect guy" (which i don't think there is such thing) but it seems to be in all the wrong PLACES!!

My idea of a "perfect guy" is a guy that is sweet, great personality, has to be able to make me laugh (whenever) and has to be cute!

No guy in this whole world is like that...There is no such thing and if you think there is such thing...SHOW ME or better yet POST ME!!

[sSsflamesSs]

[sSsflamesSs]

Sweetie, you're only 15. Aren't you a little young to be having a "dilemma" over the perfect guy?

I think I was scared of boys at your age, hahaha.

[violette829]

Seriously...if you think you're having problems now..wait til you're 22, single, and waiting for A man....not even the Perfect one..LOL


Alright, time for my Zoloft!

[ckBejug]

Re: I am so lost!

Originally posted by violette829 Seriously...if you think you're having problems now..wait til you're 22, single, and waiting for A man....not even the Perfect one..LOL


Alright, time for my Zoloft!

Haha, Violette, I love you! hehe.

Originally posted by DaNcErGurL Okay...i have a dillema!! I have been searching for the "perfect guy" (which i don't think there is such thing) but it seems to be in all the wrong PLACES!!

Hey Dancer, how about if you stop 'searching'? Even disregarding the fact that you're only 15 and your idea of the 'ideal' 'perfect' guy is definitely going to change (Sure, the basic things are going to stay the same, but I bet if you took a moment to write down on a peice of paper what you want out of a guy and look at it even just 6 months from now, you'll find that you are looking for different things.) Think about this, almost every person that I know who is with someone they like/love/etc has the same story... 'he/she came along when I least expected it'. So go out with your friends and have fun and enjoy the fact that you're NOTapproaching middle-age and your biological clock is ticking so you have to land Mr. Right right now! He'll come along, you can be sure of that. But if you spend unnecessary time worrying about it (even a second of worry is time unnecessarily wasted) you're just putting a wrinkle on what I am sure is your pretty little head. So go enjoy yourself, seriously, be 15! and forget about this 'perfect' guy dilemma. Believe me, time is better spent getting to know your family and friends better, than making a connection with a guy this early on that might or might not last!

Originally posted by DaNcErGurL My idea of a "perfect guy" is a guy that is sweet, great personality, has to be able to make me laugh (whenever) and has to be cute!

No guy in this whole world is like that...There is no such thing and if you think there is such thing...SHOW ME or better yet POST ME!!

As for this part... There ARE plenty of guys out there that fit the bill. I know a few myself. This is why you have to spend time getting to know YOU more before you can find HIM. Appearances and great personalities can be decieving, everything might look great on the surface but when it really comes down to it you need to be with someone who is going to click with you on deeper levels than that. The kind of person where you can just look into his eyes and KNOW what's going on in his head. I think maybe 15 might be a little too early to even find a guy you are SO in-sync with. (But I never judge such things outright, because who am I to say how old the limit is for actually understanding and being in love, right?). Anyway, like I said before, enjoy the freedom, love is a bit more work than a lot of people realize, it should be great and all smiles and happiness but even that must be worked on, that's why a lot of relationships fail. Because people are either too young to realize it or too lazy to put in the work that being in love deserves. That's my two cents.


Hope it helped!

[violette829]

Always with perfect advice. Now I know where to go with all my problems! HAHA...Prepare urself honey!

[ckBejug]

Originally posted by violette829 Always with perfect advice. Now I know where to go with all my problems! HAHA...Prepare urself honey!

You're welcome to try me. I don't know how much of a help I'd be! Like I said, I know a few of those 'perfect' guys myself and I'm 21 so you'd think I'd just go for it already?! But it seems I am still trying to find what it is that I am and until I do, I try my best to preserve my friendships so that they won't just hate me for keeping them at bay until I KNOW what I want. I did the whole jumping into a relationship thing and it was great and terrible and awesome all rolled into one, and it taught me some lessons I won't soon forget.... =)

[SagGal]

Re: I am so lost!

Originally posted by DaNcErGurL Okay...i have a dillema!! I have been searching for the "perfect guy" (which i don't think there is such thing) but it seems to be in all the wrong PLACES!!

My idea of a "perfect guy" is a guy that is sweet, great personality, has to be able to make me laugh (whenever) and has to be cute!

No guy in this whole world is like that...There is no such thing and if you think there is such thing...SHOW ME or better yet POST ME!!

You are too young to be thinking about that. You still have time.....don't be in a hurry to grow up and get serious or even worry about finding the right guy. Honestly though, do you think at 15 you will meet the perfect boy/man? I doubt it. It takes time and when that time comes, you will be, laughing at this thread. hehe.

uh oh, I just sounded like an old woman....I'm only 17...

[Hogg]

Hi, my name is R. Kelly. PM me.

[violette829]

Originally posted by Hogg Hi, my name is R. Kelly. PM me.

LMAO Will you pee all over her face?