Picking up the hint

[Darorinag]

OK, I've been having a problem with someone I've been talking to - I am not sure if he's trying to drop hints that he wants to go out with me, and I don't want to assume anything and jump forward, but he seems to be dropping hints, and I think I'm not picking them up.... how does one KNOW for sure - he didn't say anything bluntly.. I'm assuming he doesn't want to freak me out, but at the same time, I don't want to take the step forward because I'm scared of ruining everything (story of my life....).

Come on guys, help me out a bit here... he's been asking me what I like to do in my spare time, whether I like "chilling" and what not... and I've been answering those questions and waiting for him to take the next step. And he hasn't... so am I being too uhhh "hopeful" or what??!?!

So what should I do?!?! bleh...

[ckBejug]

Hi, How about asking him out yourself? It's a two way street and you don't seem to be taking it....?!

[Hogg]

HAHA Yes, it is a 2-way street for Dan.

[Darorinag]

Hi, How about asking him out yourself? It's a two way street and you don't seem to be taking it....?!

Hmm lol... I guess you have a point here, but still... he's the one who started it?? I thought he might be "brave" enough to make his intentions known......

[Anonymouse]

Haha, I guess the one who asks out the other one is the "female"?

[Darorinag]

Haha, I guess the one who asks out the other one is the "female"?

gee, you're a genius...

[loseyourname]

Ah, Dan, you're so cute. Just ask the guy out. What is it that you afraid of ruining? If he says no, he was never going to ask you out anyway, so what are you losing? Oh, I know, you lose another month wasted wondering whether or not there's anything there.

[SagGal]

Singing:
Danny has a boyfriend................Danny has a boyfriend.
OK OK, I'll stop and get to the point.

If the hints you are talking about are those that you mentioned such as asking you what you like to do in your free time, I'm not sure if that would be a hint of him wanting to date you. Any other hints Dan? Maybe he said something that you two have in common and you can suggest doing that together. Hmm, you're not being very specific on the hints. So......uhm....yea. :-)

[Darorinag]

Singing:
Danny has a boyfriend................Danny has a boyfriend.

lol!! Not yet... hehe

Well, I thought he gave a very obvious hint but then backed away a bit, he said something like:

He: Hey, do you like going anywhere?
Me: Hmm yeah, I like going to the movies, or just chillen...
He: That's not what I meant.
Me: Oh, sorry. What did you mean? Sorry if I'm slow...
He: Oh, never mind. Anyway...

Am I just paranoid or was he indirectly trying to ask me out or something?????? Maybe I'm too paranoid, huh...

Ah, Dan, you're so cute. Just ask the guy out. What is it that you afraid of ruining? If he says no, he was never going to ask you out anyway, so what are you losing? Oh, I know, you lose another month wasted wondering whether or not there's anything there.

lol.. Hmm, I don't know, really... What's there to ruin? Well, maybe he DID want to ask me out, but wanted to take it slowly - and I don't want to freak him out. Besides the fact that I'm too shy to ask someone out, mostly because of the above reason (freaking him out), in addition to feeling so awkward about it. Oh, and not to mention, that we could be "just friends" if he didn't want to ask me out in the first place (I've met many such people, and was glad I didn't ask them out when I was unsure if they were hinting to something, because they later clarified they wanted to be just friends)... But this one, I'm not sure if he's dropping bigger hints, or I'm just being paranoid. I don't know! So yeah, maybe referring to ruining a potential friendship (since I like him lots, the way he talks, etc.).

[Genuine_Stud]

OK, I've been having a problem with someone I've been talking to - I am not sure if he's trying to drop hints that he wants to go out with me, and I don't want to assume anything and jump forward, but he seems to be dropping hints, and I think I'm not picking them up.... how does one KNOW for sure - he didn't say anything bluntly.. I'm assuming he doesn't want to freak me out, but at the same time, I don't want to take the step forward because I'm scared of ruining everything (story of my life....).

Come on guys, help me out a bit here... he's been asking me what I like to do in my spare time, whether I like "chilling" and what not... and I've been answering those questions and waiting for him to take the next step. And he hasn't... so am I being too uhhh "hopeful" or what??!?!

So what should I do?!?! bleh...

You're not alone in this dilemma, I've had this same dilemma with a girl, but on the other end.

I keep hinting her that I want to go out, but she's not picking up on the clues. I want her to pick up on the clues because we've been friends with each other for quite some time and I can feel the attraction starting up on both ends.

I guess the end result would be to pull the person to one side, or when you find some time where you two are alone, to tell each other how you feel and take it from there.