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  • #21
    Originally posted by DvlzAdvocate
    True, I don't think it's any of the parents business. However it is nice to go and tell the parents "I asked for your daughters hand" or "I'm going to ask for your daughters hand." But mostly it should be up to the daughter. Although in some cases I think the parents should step in...

    1. If the daughter is too young 16-19
    2. If the guy is an abusive, controling, dushbag.
    3. I can't think of anything else maybe you guys can...

    Other than that I think the girl decides, although "telling" the parents is not a bad idea.
    I totally agree. Well said.

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    • #22
      Originally posted by Siggie
      Or if he's *gasp* non-armo!#$

      Awww...I'm sorry honey. Thank God my parents gave me the "OK" to marry whoever, whatever, I want. Unfortunately, I've never been attracted to any guy who's non-armenian....Isn't it strange? I can go to a club and out of the BIZZILLION men who are there, I'll pick the ARMENIAN in the crowd!! Janaaaa...I've been programmed well che?

      Siggie: Give it some time. If it true love, your parents will understand.

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      • #23
        Well about this "daughter's hand in marriage thing"...I was talking about that stupid tradition where the guy promises to marry the girl BEFORE THEY EVEN DATE!!!!!!! As far as the actual proposal...WHAT THE FLOCK OF SEAGULLS HAPPENED TO THE GETTING DOWN ON BENDED KNEE AND PROPOSING IN THE MOONLIGHT? I agree that the parents should be informed about the engagement...but ASKING THEM FOR HER HAND? LOL Anyway, I guess my fiance has to ask my brothers then...LMAO!!! That would be 1 funny event. I'm selling tickets starting today! Thank God my family isn't really too traditional..woohoo! But, whoever likes this idea, then go ahead. Let no-one tell you how to live your life!

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        • #24
          Originally posted by Emil
          I don't get why a guy HAS to ask permission from the girls parents? The guy and girl are getting married, not the parents.
          On the contrary. In Armenian culture, it's the parents of the girl that are getting married to the parents of the guy. You have to ask permission because you need to find out if the girls parents will put up their house on another mortgage to finance the $50K engagement ceremony.

          Then you have to go talk to your parents and several loan sharks to finance the 100K wedding ceremony that will follow a few months later.

          ... yup ... that's how it goes ... well, at least that's how it seems to go in Glendale. So before the two dumb-arse youngsters make any stupid decisions on their own, they better ask premission from the financial sources that are going to back this "holy" union.
          this post = teh win.

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          • #25
            Originally posted by Seapahn
            On the contrary. In Armenian culture, it's the parents of the girl that are getting married to the parents of the guy. You have to ask permission because you need to find out if the girls parents will put up their house on another mortgage to finance the $50K engagement ceremony.

            Then you have to go talk to your parents and several loan sharks to finance the 100K wedding ceremony that will follow a few months later.

            ... yup ... that's how it goes ... well, at least that's how it seems to go in Glendale. So before the two dumb-arse youngsters make any stupid decisions on their own, they better ask premission from the financial sources that are going to back this "holy" union.

            Another beautiful post by Seapahn!!!!!!

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            • #26
              [QUOTE=violette829]... I can go to a club and out of the BIZZILLION men who are there, I'll pick the ARMENIAN in the crowd!! Janaaaa...I've been programmed well che?

              awww you can always be de-programmed seriously though, as long as both have similar ways of thinking and believing and praying and have the same faith, who cares if he's armenian or not...it's preferable that the guy would be armenian...however...never mind!! don't wanna open that can of worms!!

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              • #27
                Originally posted by violette829
                Siggie: Give it some time. If it true love, your parents will understand.
                well in my situation they don't! they dont want me to be with him.

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                • #28
                  when it comes to the marriage/relationship armenian families make it big deal.
                  they talk talk talk talk sooooooo much that they ruin ur life and they want to control ur every move!!!!!!!! i hate it sometimes i wish i was guy. things would be so much easier!!!!!

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                  • #29
                    I usto say "I'm not getting married, ever" as a joke or sometimes just to get on peoples nerves because whenever you go to a wedding all the grown-ups seem to say is "taros@ kez" or if they are saying it to your parents they say "taros@ ko erexekin" ANNOYING. It's like what are you trying to do jinx me! But NOW I have this bad feeling that what if I don't get married, it's getting a little scary.

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