Long Distance Relationships

[Hogg]

bottome line: don't get involved with pigs and losers, and only put in as much effort as the other person does! no one is as special as YOU!! and they have to EARN your attention and love

Stop throwing salt on my game.


I was going to come in here and say what ck did but there's no point now. If you've been together and then one moves away, it's a lot easier than if you meet someone and you're already living far away and the relationship has to grow that way.

[Genuine_Stud]

Long distant relationships tend to not work, but it all depends on the person you're with.

See their are three key factors in order for a relationship to work.

First stage is trust.
Second stage is respect.
Third stage is love.

If you've successfully been through these three stages and so has the other person, then it could possibly work because the commitment is there.

But long distant relationships aren't too cool, because there's only so much a person can take from missing their partner or spouse. Stay away from it if you can.

[gevo]

looks like we have come to an agreement that it depends on the individuals involved .... and HyeBruin.. your view is making it seem like girls need to be more self reliant in everything.. and self-pleasure in a sense.. lol.. (that kinda sounds wrong.. but oh well

[angelik22]

hmm l do think that long distance relationships can work, anything is possible as long as both people in the relationship understand eachother..but it also depends on how long the distance is between them-- like in the states-- i think its possible- but for example between the states and somewhere in europe- where its harder to see eachther- i think it becomes more difficult-- also depends on what people expect out of a relationship-- and how far theyre willing to go with it.

[hyebruin]

I never got this idea that people have to EARN your love. What??? I know we're all special in our own way blah blah blah but why does a guy have to do all the work? Sheesh. I hate hard to please and hoity toity high maintenance girls. It's like they want a slave insead of a boyfriend. I think if you want good thing and if you expect good things then you have to give just as much in return. None of this walking all over guys bull.

it's not high maintenance hun --you can't just give your love away! you have to make sure the person is worth it! i'd say the same about a guy too! so what's the problem here? no one's talking about 'slavery' or 'high maintenance' but a girl's gotta know that she can do better than some loser, or someone who is there whenever he feels like it and doesn't put in the effort into the relationship! don't you think?--it's NOT about being high maintenance, rather it's avoiding the pitfall most girls fall into, which is becoming very low maintenance and "thanking their lucky stars that SOMEONE find them attractive and 'lovable' ..." jeeez, gimme a break! --these desperate girls ruin it for the rest of us by needlessly pumping up guys' egos...

if you read carefully what i wrote, i said to not put in more effort than he does..meaning give as you receive, how is THAT treating the guy like a slave?
of course with many girls a b/f is like a revered deity! sadly...so i am not surprised that guys are the way they are...that's cuz girls take all the crap the guys dish out

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[gevo]

Come to think of it.. for younger adults.. those who want to but would be better if they didnt go into a full out relationship and get real close to early.. for those who can find some way to live with the problem of not seeing there significant other too often.. etc... it can in some ways even be good for that person.. ... given both parties stay dettermined and faithfulLL .!!!! that must be stressed in its purest essnence!!

[hyebruin]

Come to think of it.. for younger adults.. those who want to but would be better if they didnt go into a full out relationship and get real close to early.. for those who can find some way to live with the problem of not seeing there significant other too often.. etc... it can in some ways even be good for that person.. ... given both parties stay dettermined and faithfulLL .!!!! that must be stressed in its purest essnence!!

ayyyy googo! HOW can you know for sure the other person is as committed as you? ---it's a scary situation!! it's a gamble! you never know!---ok, i won't say anymore...you're young and impressionable...never mind me...lalala.....

[angelik22]

i dont think anything is "impossible" anythig the human mind ca afthom is rather possible... it can be that both people could be as commited, and it can also work the other way around-- people are capable of both good and bad- and when they are put in a situation which yields temptations- people act differently- u just gotta know how to handle yourself and stay within your means-- whatever those means may be

[ckBejug]

Come to think of it.. for younger adults.. those who want to but would be better if they didnt go into a full out relationship and get real close to early.. for those who can find some way to live with the problem of not seeing there significant other too often.. etc... it can in some ways even be good for that person.. ... given both parties stay dettermined and faithfulLL .!!!! that must be stressed in its purest essnence!!

I know what you mean dand I know what you meant in your post before. I was simply stating that I don't like the kinds of relationship where there seems to be the master (the girl) and the puppy (the guy). Don't tell me you've never seen relationships like this! You're right, it should be a give and take. He will earn your love in a sennse just like you have to work to earn and keep his. That's all I meant

[Hogg]

it's NOT about being high maintenance, rather it's avoiding the pitfall most girls fall into, which is becoming very low maintenance and "thanking their lucky stars that SOMEONE find them attractive and 'lovable' ..." jeeez, gimme a break! --these desperate girls ruin it for the rest of us by needlessly pumping up guys' egos...

It's funny you say that because it seems as though a lot of girls who ain't worth a damn think they're better than they are because a lot of guys pump their ego up just because they want ass.