Long Distance Relationships

[hyebruin]

why why why...did you know that the number one thing that is absolutely essential for a marriage to stay viable is SEX?? yes siree!! that is right! it is NOT everything, but without it the foundation of the marriage starts to crumble!

why is it men? CUZ IT IS MEN!! ...you'd find verrryyy few women who'd only do it just for fun, and if they do chances are that's all they've seen from a man so they come to lower their expectations..(sad really)...anyways, i'm not passing judgment; just laying out the facts...and in most people's opinion it is a sad way to be...

[Sip]

1) We are not talking about marriage but a long distance relationship
2) I strongly disagree with you about verrrrryyy few women who'd only do it just for fun.

I think it is entirely possible that a couple talk more and connect on a much deeper and intimate level when the relationship is long distance than otherwise.

[dstyle]

Man long distance is hard, just being more then friends with a person is hard, imagine an actual relationship. Booooo living far.

[gevo]

It certainly depends on what the individuals in the relationship are looking for from eachother.. if it is sex.. then obviously its not going to work.. lol.. but if it is honest genuine trust and fellowship.. then yes it could very well work .... and i know this.. cause.. ummm.. ummm... i just do ok. lol.. lets say i have "experiance" in this field.. anywho... I think infact in some ways this could be good for the couple.. if like Hyebruin said one or the other cant handle the temptation and does other things with other guy/girls.. eventually the other person will find out and most likely end the relationship.. so the point is if there isnt enough love, trust etc.. between them that such a thing happens.. then its good the relationship fell apart now.. instead of a divorce or something.. and Bruin.. i know lotta girls that can replace the "guys" in your example.. haha...

[dstyle]

Gevo: You Ok mang. It's ok you'll find something better.

[ckBejug]

No way. Well, I guess it can work but I wouldn't want to be involved in one. What's the point?

Agreed.


Supercalafragilisticexpialidocious

[ckBejug]

I think a long-distance relationship could very well work but it depends on a lot of things. How long you've been dating matters because if you date someone for a very short time and they go away before you know everything you need to know about them, then it would be difficult to maintain a relationship because even when you visit eachother you're going to be so happy to see eachother and on your best behavior so it will be difficult to really learn about eachother. Second, how you feel about eachother. I wouldn't give up on a relaionship if I was in love with the guy and wanted to be with him and only him and he felt the same way about me, but if I was with someone I was unsure about, the distance might be good to help clarify how I felt and either result in staying together stronger than before because now you KNOW, or breaking up because it wasn't good enough to sustain the distance. Of course there's another problem there... sometimes we tend to romanticize things when a partner is away for a long period of time. Someone we were having problems with could suddenly become someone you wish would hurry back because you can't stand another day without him/her. Why? Because we always think about the good times, the fun times, never the arguments and problems!

So I guess it depends on who you guys are and where you feel the relationship is going. Nothing more, nothing less.

Look at me, talking like I am such the expert. hehe. I guess I've watched plenty of relationships and gained experience from my own to be able to say what's what...

p.s. I couldn't say how I'd feel about the sex part since I tend to be a bit more judgemental in that regard. But I guess if you're in a relationship based on trust then that shouldn't be a problem because you're willing to stay apart and bear the distance and time until you're together again, then you better be able to control your urges.

[hyebruin]

bottome line: don't get involved with pigs and losers, and only put in as much effort as the other person does! no one is as special as YOU!! and they have to EARN your attention and love

[ckBejug]

bottome line: don't get involved with pigs and losers, and only put in as much effort as the other person does! no one is as special as YOU!! and they have to EARN your attention and love

I never got this idea that people have to EARN your love. What??? I know we're all special in our own way blah blah blah but why does a guy have to do all the work? Sheesh. I hate hard to please and hoity toity high maintenance girls. It's like they want a slave insead of a boyfriend. I think if you want good thing and if you expect good things then you have to give just as much in return. None of this walking all over guys bull.

[SagGal]

Long distance relationships have their pros and cons.

It could work but there's a lot of pain involved if the couple is very close. Doubting their partner's honesty is probably a major thing. Jelousy and etc. Then towards the end it might not work how the couple wants it to work.

Long distance relationships are good to test the couple's commitment to each other. If someone from the relationship begins to be fall for someone else, it's obvious that the love is just not there. If they both call each other everyday, always have something to talk about and are faithful to each other, that's a good sign. This is why a lot of couples tend to stay apart for some time to test their relationshis.

...the distance might be good to help clarify how I felt and either result in staying together stronger than before because now you KNOW, or breaking up because it wasn't good enough to sustain the distance. Of course there's another problem there... sometimes we tend to romanticize things when a partner is away for a long period of time...

True.