Dating your friend's crush??

[Crimson Glow]

hey, if it's meant to be it will happen! no one is 'sacrificing' anything...but when i KNOW a friend is interested in a guy that guy automatically becomes off limits to me... it's that simple...

If this person was the right one, and "it's meant to be", but he's off limits because your friend likes him, how exactly "will it happen?"

[hyebruin]

If this person was the right one, and "it's meant to be", but he's off limits because your friend likes him, how exactly "will it happen?"

great question! glad you asked! it's called fate and if it is meant to be perhaps that friend will realize something (like he and the guy are not for each other) and may be the vehicle that brings the two people together, or it might turn out that the friend who has a crush meets someone else who sweeps her off her feet and then the guy and the friend end up together...the possibilities are endless, that's the beauty and the mystery of life...we never know how things will turn out

[spiral]

you gotta ask yourself what is more important to you?

friends are extended family! and should be treasured as they are gifts from God! i love mine

hahahaha

That's funny.

[hyebruin]

hahahaha

That's funny.

do you love yours? some people really know how to "love" their friends!

what is amusing to me is 20somethings acting like teenagers... which is displayed throughout this forum...

[spiral]

do you love yours? some people really know how to "love" their friends!

what is amusing to me is 20somethings acting like teenagers... which is displayed throughout this forum...

Can you please elaborate. I'm not sure what you mean by either part of your reply.

[hyebruin]

Can you please elaborate. I'm not sure what you mean by either part of your reply.

don't worry about it

[Inna]

Thankx for your input guys and gals...I really needed to hear different peoples views and opinions on this thing.
The thing is this not so close friend, but someone I would never want to hurt told me a few months ago that she has had a crush on this guy throughout high school...I didnt think that I should have told her that I liked him ever since high school too b/c I never see the guy anymore and she apparently sees him more often then I do since they go to the same college..I figured I had no chance with the guy and there would be no point in telling her about my past crush. As it turns out he shows up at my door and asks me to the movies one day and we've been "hanging out" ever since...I saw the friend a week ago and I just couldnt bare to tell her about what has been going on between me and the crush. I keep wanting to call it off with the guy, but everytime he wants to go out I just cant stop myself from saying yes. How do I tell the friend that I'm interested in her crush?...and shes had a crush on him for a longggg time. I just feel so bad about it b/c I know I would be angry at my own friend if she did the same thing to me...but then again this friend is not someone I talk to often and not someone I'm close with...but it stills feels like I'm betraying a friendship.

[hyebruin]

a past crush is one thing! and having the hotts for someone right now is a different matter! try asking her if she's seeing anyone or if there's someone she's interested in right now (hopefully she won't mention this guy's name!
i've had a crush on a guy in high school (he was hot ) but after hearing that he's married it doesn't affect me one bit cuz that was in the past; you've got to find out if this crush is also history as far as your friend is concerned! good luck let us know what happens

[Tres Bien]

If my friend started to date the guy i have a crush on, i would liek to know if she is being serious with him and not only "playing" with the guy, if she s just playin
then id be very disspointed at her. But if Youre serious with this guy, and your intentions are good then you shoulnt feel bad about it.

[SagGal]

Tell her that you've had a crush on this guy also and that you two are in the same position. The only difference is that the guy asked you out. She'll understand. Well, she SHOULD understand because this is not your fault or anything. If the guy would have asked her out, she would have said, "Yes." Just let her know (tell her!) that you wanted to come to her and tell her because you knew that she has a crush on the same guy also. She'll respect you for that and tell her to put herself in your shoes. I mean, she has no idea that you have a crush on this guy for a while also, so she'll be reasonalble when you tell her about it.