Being in love

[hyebruin]

"Love, its a mother ****er"

haha...i like that! sooo accurate! you guys are good!!

[HyeJinx1984]

YESSS!!! so true!! sad, but true!

Why are you so jaded? It's not true! Then again I don't know what it's like to be a girl in love with a guy...

[hyebruin]

Why are you so jaded? It's not true! Then again I don't know what it's like to be a girl in love with a guy...

i'm not in love, sooo, don't forget, it's just a sillly phase i'm going through... hahahaaa....hey, f**k love! just do your thing and be happy, that's what matters

[HyeJinx1984]

i'm not in love, sooo, don't forget, it's just a sillly phase i'm going through... hahahaaa....hey, f**k love! just do your thing and be happy, that's what matters

I hope you move through this phase quickly, I gotta deal with and certain other armenian girls that will go unmentioned here about the whole "I should give up on love" crap... Guy's don't go through this stuff, just you nutjobs... *pokes her in the head* Love exists, whether you like it or not, be-atch.

[hyebruin]

I hope you move through this phase quickly, I gotta deal with and certain other armenian girls that will go unmentioned here about the whole "I should give up on love" crap... Guy's don't go through this stuff, just you nutjobs... *pokes her in the head* Love exists, whether you like it or not, be-atch.

my lil jinx troll i was referring to a song there! helllllo you didn't catch my sarcasm ....and you're barely 20, so of course you 'believe in love'....lemme tell you something! even if 2 are sooo in love and all that..most of the time, that "love" lasts only about a month after they're married..a year or 2 being the max..that's it! after that he becomes the rude, unaffectionate sob who rather hang out with his buddies, and she becomes the nagging b*tch who won't let him watch sports..welcome to REALITY!!!

now, i'll give you this much! some marriages actually work out pretty well, a very small percentage of them do...usually this involves people who are not sooo "passionate" and are more low key about their relationship and not so termperamental in general...hey i thought i knew everything too when i was your age we all learn

[HyeJinx1984]

haha nice! while we're at it here's my definition of love: putting the other person's interest first!

it's that simple and who does this better than parents? it can also be found in genuine friends...

Very true, that's what i believe too although I've been saying it differently, I usually say it as "Caring enough about someone to help them achieve their goals rather than shackling them down to serve you"

[hyebruin]

"Caring enough about someone to help them achieve their goals rather than shackling them down to serve you"

i am amazed to hear you say that...amazed and delighted! for there are many men in this world who 'shackle down' and disable women so that they themselves feel macho and manly!
a real man gives his woman room to breathe and encourages her to fulfill and realize her potential, her heart's desire, and who would let a man like that go?

[HyeJinx1984]

i am amazed to hear you say that...amazed and delighted! for there are many men in this world who 'shackle down' and disable women so that they themselves feel macho and manly!
a real man gives his woman room to breathe and encourages her to fulfill and realize her potential, her heart's desire, and who would let a man like that go?

No one yet, so far I've been the one doing all the dumping in my relationships. See, with my ideology comes really high standards, and believe it or not, not all women (at least the ones I've dated) want all that independence and freedom to persue their projects. They all freaked when I told them I want them to have their own careers cause no one should be idle, everyone should pbe persuing something.. if not a career, then an organization, an agenda, etc... they thought they were all gonna stay home and watch opera while Mikey brought home all the fat checks. Oh well.. silly ex-girlfriends...

By the way, the whole shackling thing goes for women towards men too. Women shackle men down in many ways that seem less important, but are just as important.

[hyebruin]

No one yet, so far I've been the one doing all the dumping in my relationships. See, with my ideology comes really high standards, and believe it or not, not all women (at least the ones I've dated) want all that independence and freedom to persue their projects. They all freaked when I told them I want them to have their own careers cause no one should be idle, everyone should pbe persuing something.. if not a career, then an organization, an agenda, etc... they thought they were all gonna stay home and watch opera while Mikey brought home all the fat checks. Oh well.. silly ex-girlfriends...

By the way, the whole shackling thing goes for women towards men too. Women shackle men down in many ways that seem less important, but are just as important.

hmmm, you said that to your ex-gfs? you're cute! haha...i see what your point is but depends on how it came out i guess i'd wanna put my career on hold or at least work part time if i ever have a kid...you don't get a second chance to raise your kids; it's also great to know that you can be self reliant too in case the husband wasn't able to provide for whatever reason...worst case! what if he died, what then?? just raise the kid on your own without education and skills? ohhh God, i can't imagine anything worse than working all day and night and still not be able to feed your kids and pay the bills...i feel for those poor women but they also had a choice..i mean one or two kids..ok..but when they have like 4 or 5...you start thinking about the thought process (or the lack of) of becoming pregnant one after the other....no judgment here, we're all sinners...but what a way to live!

oh yeah! women...yeah they shackle men down too! by being sneaky and lying and deceitful and becoming pregnant! lucky are the ones who get the guy to marry them (though what a pathetic way to get a husband ) and sucker them into all that responsibility...when i hear of such things all i can do is lafff and think suckkkkeerrrr!!! next time use a condom! hahahaa....karma has its ways! what goes around comes around

[Crimson Glow]

Aaaaaaaanyways, I'm going to go against the AC club tradition, and get back on topic here.

if you don't like someone that much you have a need to mold them, then dont' marry them for God's sake!

WELCOME TO REALITY! "Love" in its current form is nothing more than just taking the first person you're mildly attracted to and who makes you feel good in the slightest bit, and forming a relationship around it. Falling in love and getting married to have children has become an item to mark off on the "To Do" checklist of life. People don't feel right not being married by a certain age, or not being able to find someone, etc. They look at this as a failure on their part. So what do we do? Grab the closest thing possible (aka "good enough"), and con ourselves into believing we're in love with that person.

Just think about it for a minute for those of you that believe in the whole "only one for me" theory. Look at the size of our planet, and the number of people living on it. Think about the number of potentials that gives you from the opposite sex (or....not opposite, if you prefer...). Narrow it down how you will, no matter what your credentials, that STILL leaves an enourmous amount to choose from. Now, out of what's left, is it realistic to think that "the one for you" goes to your high school or college, happens to live next door, works at your same job, was at a bar you happened to be in one night, or anywhere within the vacinity of the town you live in, etc? It doesn't make sense. Yet, people keep choosing people they're not in the least bit compatible with, and calling them their "soul mate", claiming they have found "the one" out of the BILLIONS out there. What a crock of sh*t.

It would be nice if it were that easy, but it's not. These people are only nourishing society by hastily trying to meet another one of it's many requirments, whole heartedly fooling themselves into believing they're in love with this person. This is evident by the number of abusive relationships (physical, sexual, emotional, or otherwise) that go on for extended periods of time regardless. They'll put up with anything so long as they're not "alone".

"And it's so wrong that I need you.
And it's so wrong that I need abuse.
And it's so wrong that I need you,
so wrong but I'm scared I'll die alone."

- Stabbing Westward

It is unfortunate, but the VAST majority of people out there right now have boyfriends/girlfriends or husbands/wives just for the sake of being able to say they have one. And it's evident by the way they LOVE mentioning it in conversations where it isn't even relevant. They have this gleaming look about them when they say it, like "ha ha! I did MY job! I landed my husband/girlfriend, etc". This in spite of the fact that the relationship itself sucks and they hate being in it. They just hate being alone even more, and now at least have the ability to say they have fulfilled their obligation. Ahhhhh, there! I feel more adequate already!

We've torn apart the meaning of the word love, and turned it from a deep emotion, to the trifling and pathetic idiom; "the person I'm currently 'with'".