Being in love

[angelik22]

well my whole point in the post about the love thing wasnt to say whether i believe in it or not, i mean i know love exists, but i just wanted to know how it feels to be "in love" is it any different than what people usually say>? or it all depends on the individuals?...i know its a stupid question and i just had too many margaritas when i came up with that post...so i guess u guys understand...

but yeah, i think there is someone out there for evryone, more than one possibility, and that when you find that person, and know what you have together, ....its priceless...

not to say that i dont believe in love, but i just dont think itll happen soon for me, it takes alot for me to warm up to a person, but then again you never know, people are unpredictable, thats human nature, and i myself can be quite unpredictable...and things just happen...

[hyebruin]

Aaaaaaaanyways, I'm going to go against the AC club tradition, and get back on topic here.



WELCOME TO REALITY! "Love" in its current form is nothing more than just taking the first person you're mildly attracted to and who makes you feel good in the slightest bit, and forming a relationship around it. Falling in love and getting married to have children has become an item to mark off on the "To Do" checklist of life. People don't feel right not being married by a certain age, or not being able to find someone, etc. They look at this as a failure on their part. So what do we do? Grab the closest thing possible (aka "good enough"), and con ourselves into believing we're in love with that person.

Just think about it for a minute for those of you that believe in the whole "only one for me" theory. Look at the size of our planet, and the number of people living on it. Think about the number of potentials that gives you from the opposite sex (or....not opposite, if you prefer...). Narrow it down how you will, no matter what your credentials, that STILL leaves an enourmous amount to choose from. Now, out of what's left, is it realistic to think that "the one for you" goes to your high school or college, happens to live next door, works at your same job, was at a bar you happened to be in one night, or anywhere within the vacinity of the town you live in, etc? It doesn't make sense. Yet, people keep choosing people they're not in the least bit compatible with, and calling them their "soul mate", claiming they have found "the one" out of the BILLIONS out there. What a crock of sh*t.

It would be nice if it were that easy, but it's not. These people are only nourishing society by hastily trying to meet another one of it's many requirments, whole heartedly fooling themselves into believing they're in love with this person. This is evident by the number of abusive relationships (physical, sexual, emotional, or otherwise) that go on for extended periods of time regardless. They'll put up with anything so long as they're not "alone".

"And it's so wrong that I need you.
And it's so wrong that I need abuse.
And it's so wrong that I need you,
so wrong but I'm scared I'll die alone."

- Stabbing Westward

It is unfortunate, but the VAST majority of people out there right now have boyfriends/girlfriends or husbands/wives just for the sake of being able to say they have one. And it's evident by the way they LOVE mentioning it in conversations where it isn't even relevant. They have this gleaming look about them when they say it, like "ha ha! I did MY job! I landed my husband/girlfriend, etc". This in spite of the fact that the relationship itself sucks and they hate being in it. They just hate being alone even more, and now at least have the ability to say they have fulfilled their obligation. Ahhhhh, there! I feel more adequate already!

We've torn apart the meaning of the word love, and turned it from a deep emotion, to the trifling and pathetic idiom; "the person I'm currently 'with'".

this might be the first time, but i totally agree with what you say...wish it weren't so, but that's how it is with many folks these days!

[Genuine_Stud]

Aaaaaaaanyways, I'm going to go against the AC club tradition, and get back on topic here.



WELCOME TO REALITY! "Love" in its current form is nothing more than just taking the first person you're mildly attracted to and who makes you feel good in the slightest bit, and forming a relationship around it. Falling in love and getting married to have children has become an item to mark off on the "To Do" checklist of life. People don't feel right not being married by a certain age, or not being able to find someone, etc. They look at this as a failure on their part. So what do we do? Grab the closest thing possible (aka "good enough"), and con ourselves into believing we're in love with that person.

Just think about it for a minute for those of you that believe in the whole "only one for me" theory. Look at the size of our planet, and the number of people living on it. Think about the number of potentials that gives you from the opposite sex (or....not opposite, if you prefer...). Narrow it down how you will, no matter what your credentials, that STILL leaves an enourmous amount to choose from. Now, out of what's left, is it realistic to think that "the one for you" goes to your high school or college, happens to live next door, works at your same job, was at a bar you happened to be in one night, or anywhere within the vacinity of the town you live in, etc? It doesn't make sense. Yet, people keep choosing people they're not in the least bit compatible with, and calling them their "soul mate", claiming they have found "the one" out of the BILLIONS out there. What a crock of sh*t.

It would be nice if it were that easy, but it's not. These people are only nourishing society by hastily trying to meet another one of it's many requirments, whole heartedly fooling themselves into believing they're in love with this person. This is evident by the number of abusive relationships (physical, sexual, emotional, or otherwise) that go on for extended periods of time regardless. They'll put up with anything so long as they're not "alone".

"And it's so wrong that I need you.
And it's so wrong that I need abuse.
And it's so wrong that I need you,
so wrong but I'm scared I'll die alone."

- Stabbing Westward

It is unfortunate, but the VAST majority of people out there right now have boyfriends/girlfriends or husbands/wives just for the sake of being able to say they have one. And it's evident by the way they LOVE mentioning it in conversations where it isn't even relevant. They have this gleaming look about them when they say it, like "ha ha! I did MY job! I landed my husband/girlfriend, etc". This in spite of the fact that the relationship itself sucks and they hate being in it. They just hate being alone even more, and now at least have the ability to say they have fulfilled their obligation. Ahhhhh, there! I feel more adequate already!

We've torn apart the meaning of the word love, and turned it from a deep emotion, to the trifling and pathetic idiom; "the person I'm currently 'with'".

Unfortunately that's sooo true.

WELCOME TO THE REAL WORLD.

[fIReBuRntInHeLL]

"Love, its a mother ****er"

Agreeable comment!

[XxgoeyxX]

This all sounds like a bunch of dog poo to me. If you "love" someone, it has to be a mutual feeling. Meaning, the person must feel the same about you! All love between men and women are artificial....they fade. The only true love that I know is the love felt by parent for a child.

I agree with the attitude that love is mostly felt from a parent or child. Look at a mother's love for her kids. You think she wants to get up at 12 and 4 am for 6 months? No. She does it because that's what the baby needs and the baby's needs takes priority. Ask any devoted mom if she loves her kids and she'll say "Yup." Is that mindless focus?

The thing I find interesting is that in this society how much love is "compartmentalized." This is not how things are looked at in other countries. A mother's love, a nurturing love, the supportive love of two lovers, a God's love for his creatures, etc. There's overlap there. Even obsessive love and love have overlap.

Love should not be JUST hurt. Then something is very wrong. But as my mother always said, "The people who make us maddest and hurt us the most are the ones closest to us."

[hyebruin]

...Love should not be JUST hurt. Then something is very wrong. But as my mother always said, "The people who make us maddest and hurt us the most are the ones closest to us."

yes, that's why not giving a f**k often helps

[XxgoeyxX]

yes, that's why not giving a f**k often helps

HAHAHA...COULDNT AGREE MORE...but being the emotional person that I am...That's never gone happpppppeeennnnn!!!!

[Anonymouse]

I think all you people are confusing there are different states and forms of love.

[Tres Bien]

I agree with Mousy.

[hyebruin]

we're referring to romantic love here and what hopeless b.s. it turns out to be most of the time