How to Date an Armenian Guy

[Anonymouse]

I could, and still can make traffic lights change just by staring at them. If a girl wants to date a Armenian guy like me, she must display her own uncanny ability at controlling traffic lights.

[SagGal]

You creyzii kidz.

...nearly married but it didn't work out because she didn't want to learn Armenian etc.

Isn't this a bit jerk like? hmmm.

[umnatamaria]

Isn't this a bit jerk like? hmmm.

It's kind of harsh and demanding, possibly jerk like, I am not sure. But if he wanted to marry her and have kids with her, he insists they should learn Armenian, I kind of know how he feels.

[HyeJinx1984]

I never understood why Armenians would like to teach other people Armenian... this will sound sappy but I consider it a secret and special language that only Armenians should be able to speak. Of course if he was marrying her, I guess thats sorta like letting her into the tribe, so she would need to know.. but I'd never have that problem cause I wouldn't marry a non-hye. A lot of my neighbors (who aren't Armenian) like to come up to me in the mornings and say "Bari Loos!"... I'm not really sure what they're trying to accomplish, i don't walk up to them and try to be cute by sayin some word intheir language... unless you count English,

[XxgoeyxX]

It's kind of harsh and demanding, possibly jerk like, I am not sure. But if he wanted to marry her and have kids with her, he insists they should learn Armenian, I kind of know how he feels.

Again I am giving my 2 cents on this. But if he wanted his kids to know Armenian and be Armenian and understand the history then why does he want to marry out of race.

Come on if I marry and non-Armenian and make my kids learn the language what does that make me a hypocrite. “Hey our mother did what she wanted, married out of race but now she wants us to be Armenian when she herself let go of that.” It just doesn’t make sense to me. I mean even if I marry an Armenian its still going to be hard for my children to understand their culture because they live in a society where there is so much difference in race. Now, if I marry out of race then it would be a hundred times harder for me to teach them who they are.

[umnatamaria]

Again I am giving my 2 cents on this. But if he wanted his kids to know Armenian and be Armenian and understand the history then why does he want to marry out of race.

I guess that he really loved her and wanted to marry her but this didn't mean that he would give up on his kids learning Armenian.

I mean, if you live in a society like American society, you are surrounded by different races and you are not in your home country but that doesn't mean you suddenly become American. The same with marriage. If you marry a Hungarian, you won't suddenly become Hungarian (hm, try that) and neither will the Hungarian stop being Hungarian.

But he wanted to be able to pass on whatever he thinks is valuable in his culture to the kids and she was unwilling to assist him in this, which is a big problem. But let me point out that he could have married an Armenian who didn't want to do that either. I have some friends whose parents never taught them a word of Armenian and who act and feel American but have an Armenian name and maybe some baby pictures from back in Armenia, you know.

[XxgoeyxX]

I guess that he really loved her and wanted to marry her but this didn't mean that he would give up on his kids learning Armenian.

I mean, if you live in a society like American society, you are surrounded by different races and you are not in your home country but that doesn't mean you suddenly become American. The same with marriage. If you marry a Hungarian, you won't suddenly become Hungarian (hm, try that) and neither will the Hungarian stop being Hungarian.

But he wanted to be able to pass on whatever he thinks is valuable in his culture to the kids and she was unwilling to assist him in this, which is a big problem. But let me point out that he could have married an Armenian who didn't want to do that either. I have some friends whose parents never taught them a word of Armenian and who act and feel American but have an Armenian name and maybe some baby pictures from back in Armenia, you know.

I completely understand what you are saying. But don’t forget that just cause you know some people like that doesn’t mean all Armenians are that way. I know Armenians that can’t speak a word and they are ashamed of themselves and with their parents because they didn’t teach them anything.

Of course his kids would stop being Armenian no matter how much he thought them. I myself sometimes end up speaking English with my parents without realizing it. That is because I have raised here all of my life. So just imagine how it would be if my parents married out of race.

People talk about love and that they married for love and did this for love. But sometimes people forget the love of their culture, the things their culture has gone though and struggles they has faced in order for the generations to survive. I know this seems I’m giving the same argument that everyone else would give, but that is major fact. You can feel and be in love with anyone, there isn’t just one person out there for you. As much as he loved an odar he could have loved an Armenian. And Vise-versa. That a poor argument on his part.

And let me add. I don’t know how to read and write in Armenian, and I have no one to blame but myself. However, I wont make the same mistake again and not teach my children.

[umnatamaria]

Of course his kids would stop being Armenian no matter how much he thought them. I myself sometimes end up speaking English with my parents without realizing it. That is because I have raised here all of my life. So just imagine how it would be if my parents married out of race.

And let me add. I don’t know how to read and write in Armenian, and I have no one to blame but myself. However, I wont make the same mistake again and not teach my children.

If your parents had married out of race, maybe now you would speak another language,too, like my cousin who speaks Czech and Bulgarian. But it would be diffucult, you are right.

And it scares me that my kids will be American. I mean, all kids are a wonderful thing, but American kids are less sensitive and intellectually curious than kids from other places, and less passionate about things, less opinionated.

But the reason why I respect Armenians a lot is precisely because you have such firm convictions and attachment to your culture. I mean,on one hand, most Armenians speak at least one other language very well (which does say a lot, too) so at first I thought, why am I sitting writing one and the same letter 100 times when I can communicate with Armenians without knowing their alphabet. But now I am thinking it is a very valuable thing to learn an alphabet that was created in the 5th century and learning a language just orally is kind of not the same.

[sad_eyes]

I believe if you know the language of your nationality, it increases the definition of your culture in yourself. I am german and french, I speak neither and am greatly dissapointed in this too. My father is a very proud German man, he speaks the language and often influences us to increase our pride as germans too. However, I feel like this would be more of an easy thing to accomplish it if were that I spoke German.

Umnatamaria- I completely agree with your thoughts about your children growing up American. My children will grow up Canadian. And although I am proud of this country I do not want my children to grow up here due to the negative influence that resides in our every day life. I dont want my children to grow up to hate me and my husband for no reason, I dont want my children to curse and swear as if there is no shame in it. I dont want my children to beat up other kids just because they are close with their siblings. It isnt a way a child should grow. I want the best for my children, and I just dont think they can have that kind of life here.

[gevo]

....I want the best for my children, and I just dont think they can have that kind of life here.

I think they can, with real parental influence, and with a little bit of luck.. lol.. but i do understand exactly what you are saying.. its a scary thing to raise kids these days. ......