Are You Currently In A Relationship?

[Anahita]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

Wow. After reading all that, that's really horrible. You're ex-husband sounds like an IDIOT. He's mad at your for ruining his affair, so now he's trying to ruin your dates? Lol, what the hell..?

He's a smart, cunning jerk much of the time. He uses his intelligence to compensate for his very low emotional (and moral) IQ. He is smart enough to know how to act 'dumb,' when it benefits him. He knows exactly what he is doing. I am smart enough to see, and now forsee, his chess moves. Good for me I catch on quick and I'm smarter than him. But, still, this nonsense still makes me cry.

[One-Way]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

Wow. After reading all that, that's really horrible. You're ex-husband sounds like an IDIOT. He's mad at your for ruining his affair, so now he's trying to ruin your dates? Lol, what the hell..?

[Anahita]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

Guy #1: Total loser. I HATE people that are rude to waiters.

Guy #2: I mean come on ... demanding to pay is basically our modern day version of the bigger monkey slapping the xxxx out of the little monkies in the monkey tribe to establish hierarchy. But there is a fine line between it being a nice social gesture vs a completely rediculous macho fronting behavior.

Guy #3: LOL

LOL. Yes, I thought the same.
#1, Jerk. Not only was he very rude, but he seemed to create an absurd and crazy reason to be rude. (Plus, if someone treats a waiter this way, how would he treat a girlfriend?)
#2, That was only a sample of the things he did that added up to 'no way.'
#3, I really think that guy intentionally had me call that number to make his girlfriend jealous. That guy pissed me off on so many levels.

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The BIGGEST nightmares I’ve had on dates have been things that had nothing to do with my date, but rather my ex-husband. He tried to sabotage my dates. I have no time for that crap, either, but that's hard to avoid. He told me he was ‘messing up my dates, like I did with his.” What he is talking about is the ‘date’ he was on, that ‘I ruined,’ WHILE we were married. One night, I called my (then) husband’s cell wondering why he was late. A woman answered it while he was in another room. I asked for him and she asked me, “Who is this.” I said, “I’m his wife.” The girl (his girlfriend) got really upset and started yelling at him and apologizing to me. Poor girl. I told her it wasn’t her fault. He’s a con man. I had zero tolerance for infidelity and dishonesty in marriage. He knew that. I divorced him.

I always leave my plans and a phone number with my roommate so that I could be reached for an emergency. My ex once called my house and asked where I was. My roommate told him ...(duh!?) AND also gave him the number (my date’s number) to reach me. My ex then called the number and said a bunch of crazy and terrible things. When I confronted my ex about the call, he told me, “You messed up my date so I did the same.” So he was bitter about how ‘I ruined’ his affair. ?

He has, on more than one occasion, found out that I have a date and backed out of having our child at his house. He would cancel at the last minute (so that I then must also cancel my date.) I’ve learned to set up a backup babysitter in case he ever pulls that. Once a date picked me up at my house and we were waiting for my ex to pick up my child. When my ex arrived he said in front of us, “You’re going out with this loser? You can do better.” I felt terrible and mostly spent the date apologizing to him about my ex’s behavior.

It is hard enough to find someone who I am interested in spending time with… (plus someone who doesn’t mind ‘dating’ a single mom). Add the mean ex to the equation and dating becomes very stressful. I think my ex is insane, though I remain amicable with him for our child’s sake. Thank goodness he now has a fiancée and seems to have lost much interest in revenge and jealousy about my personal life! I’m glad that the ex-husband crap seems to have subsided, because that layer of nonsense made dating, and my life in general, very difficult.

Relatively speaking, One-way, your date sounds more than ok, to me.

[Sip]

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Guy #1: Total loser. I HATE people that are rude to waiters.

Guy #2: I mean come on ... demanding to pay is basically our modern day version of the bigger monkey slapping the xxxx out of the little monkies in the monkey tribe to establish hierarchy. But there is a fine line between it being a nice social gesture vs a completely rediculous macho fronting behavior.

Guy #3: LOL

[One-Way]

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I wish you luck. I don't know why those guys did whatever they did.

First guy sounds like one of those weird types. Where they ask for something, and when they don't get it quick enough, they explode. I would've fuck with that type of guy. Assholes.

Second guy seems like he just wanted to say he doesn't want girls to be paying, but might have said it in a wrong way. But it also sounds like he's an asshole because of what he did to your friend.

Third guy.. All I have to say is, lol. Don't be messing around with people who "travel" a lot, then give their girlfriends numbers and want you to call them back. Sounds like the "nice" type, who has a wife and kids on the side.

And as for the guy who hasn't called you back, that's his lost. If he asked you out, but didn't call you back, there's nothing you can/should do. Give him time to call, or else, move on.

Good luck again.

[Anahita]

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Happy St. Patrick’s Day. Hope for some good luck for me, soon. I’ve had some odd luck with dates recently. Here is a sample of some of the bizarre dates I’ve had in the last few months. I should have clarified earlier that I don’t really brag about dates, but I don’t mind telling my friends about something really odd... like....

Date 1: Aerospace engineer. We had many conversations prior to our date. He took me to dinner at a nice restaurant. The dinner and conversation was fine. However, at the end of our meal, the waitress came to the table and asked if we’d like anything else. I said, no thanks. He said, “Yes, I’d like to order a meal. Could you bring me a menu?” She laughed a little and said something like, “Ok, well let me bring you your check then.”

He blew up at her. He started making a scene and said, “What about bring me a menu don’t you understand!” I was mortified. She brought a menu. He sat there looking at the same page for a long time, closed the menu, and said to the waitress, “I’m full.” (WTF ?? I thought.) So then he said he’s going to order drinks. He said to her that we needed a minute to decide. She returned in about three minutes, four max. He, again, launched into her, “What is wrong with you. You said one minute, then a minute turned into a half hour.” I drank my wine and asked him to take me home.

Date 2: Researcher. We went on several nice dates. Once, he invited me over (to his several million dollar home) for dinner. He gave me a tour around his property and gardens. I was feeling a little uncomfortable there, so I asked if we could go somewhere else. We went to a movie. I have very little money, but always think it is polite to pay, or at least offer. So I asked if I could get the movie. He said, “NEVER ask me that again.” Um, ok. I don’t have a problem if a guy wants to pay all the time, but he was mean about it.

The oddest part, though, was that a few days later, I went on a trip with one of my best girlfriends (we always have odd coincidences). She was telling me about this guy she’s been dating and how, after a few dates, he started getting a little too pushy for physical stuff. She gave me a few details about him, and I said, “His name isn’t ____, is it? and laughed.) I found out we were dating the same guy!

Date 3: Owner of a company. I had known him for a long time and he asked me out. Since he travels lots, I asked him to call me when he is in the area. I got a voicemail from him with a number to call. I returned the call, but there was no answer. Then, late that night I get a call from a woman asking for him. “Is ______ there? Do you know him? How do you know him? I know he’s there, just let me talk to him. Where do you live?” This, I find out was his GIRLFRIEND! He gave me HER cell number. Needless to say, I didn’t ever go out with him.

Sheesh.

I’ve also had decent dates and some great dates (like the guy from a year ago. I must be into SM to torture myself for so long over him.) Now, a friend of my other friend asked me out (nice, smart, fun guy) and gave me his phone number. I called and left a message, but haven’t heard back. How do I interpret that?

Ahhh! I would much rather be in a relationship than be dating. I'm ready to give up.

[Anahita]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

Just reinforcing an idea...

MY point was a bad date isn't so bad, in the context of a 'bad day that is war.'

[One-Way]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

What?

[Anahita]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

A bad date is nothing in the whole scheme...

REM

A public service announcement followed me home the other day.
I paid it nevermind. Go Away.
xxxxs so thick you could stir it with a stick-free Teflon whitewashed presidency.
We're sick of being jerked around.
Wear that on your sleeve.

Broadcast me a joyful noise unto the times, lord,
Count your blessings.
We're sick of being jerked around.
We all fall down.

Have you ever seen the televised St. vitus subcommittee prize
Investigation dance? Those ants in pants glances.
Well,look behind the eyes.
It's a hallowed hollow anesthetized
"save my own ass, screw these guys"
smoke and mirror lock down.

Broadcast me a joyful noise unto the times, lord,
Count your blessings.
The Papers wouldn't lie!
I sigh, Not one more.

It's been a bad day.
Please don't take a picture.
It's been a bad day.
Please.

We're dug in deep the price is steep.
The auctioneer is such a creep.

The lights went out, the oil ran dry
We blamed it on the other guy
Sure, all men are created equal.
Heres the church, heres the steeple
Please stay tuned-we cut to sequel
ashes, ashes, we all fall down.

Broadcast me a joyful noise unto the times, lord,
Count your blessings.
Ignore the lower fear
Ugh, this means war.

It's been a bad day.
Please don't take a picture.
It's been a bad day.
Please.

Broadcast me a joyful noise unto the times, lord,
Count your blessings.
We're sick of being jerked around.
We all fall down.

It's been a bad day...


Bush just launched some other military killing idea, today. I cry. A bad day, though, is always better talking to great people that make me smile.

[One-Way]

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Boomerang, lmao. What an awesome word.

Once again, I love you.