does age matter?

[mariposa]

Re: does age matter?

Hi mariposa;

You are quite right to ask that question. Mental age does matter a great deal. Someone could be 50 years old; but very childish with his mentality, behaviour and maturity. Some women would say that men usually don't grow up as much as women (maturity wise). I disagree. I have seen some very immature women in my time too.

Basically you cannot go by age. You have to judge and see a man you meet to figure it out yourself. Some guys could be 25 year olds but a great deal maturer than some 45 year old men.

A good way of learning and judging behaviours apart from living it; is either reading effective psychological books or having a few good sessions with a psychologist just to be educated. Sometimes it pays.

Hi Anoush.

I agree.

The problem with learning to judge behaviours is that it eliminates many of them.

[Sip]

Re: does age matter?

Siamanto is right. ... You made rather silly comments while she was being deep, intelligent and very philosophical in her approach. That's why she said what she said.

It takes a well read, deep, intelligent and a philosophical person to communicate her thoughts as she did. You didn't want to understand it nor was able to appreciate it.

I have to admit this thread JUST got very very very entertaining again.

Sorry Anoush I don't (and didn't) mean to disrespect what you have said at all and I appologize for anything stupid I have said (or might say) about what you have posted. But don't be shocked if some people end up not taking Siamanto (new nickname Emotianto?) very seriously.

[Anoush]

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Unfortunately, isn't it easier - and more likely - to take advantage of a sweet person? Most of the time, jerks will not dare abusing someone they do not perceive as fragile, defenseless or weak and that should give you an idea of their sense of fair play.
Confronting those abusive jerks seems necessary - despite the unpleasant tensions that may result - in order to be heard and put them in place; and, no, jerks don't like to be confronted and will do their best to silence you and will have no scruples when being dishonest or immoral.

Yes how true. Doesn't the same applies to some men beating their wives; because they can? When they are built huge compare to lesser built women who are the weaker, the more fragile gender? For so many unreasonable and outrageous reasons and because they are certainly NOT man enough and certainly NOT gentleman enough. And because they are psychologically warped and mental quirks.

As well as when a bully bigger guy beats up a smaller built guy; because he can and because he is a smaller guy as a person and as a human being. In short he is a coward.

I will not go into details because it's a complex, intricate and controversial subject.
Briefly said, I think that children have no "spirit" and their "soul" animates their playful being; however, as they grow, adapt to the constraints of the society and learn "formal techniques" to deal with their emotions, perceptions, feelings etc. - in other words, as they acquire a "spirit" - their "soul" is increasingly constrained by their spirit that gradually control their acts, eventually suffocating the soul. Our lives "evolve" from animated games to controlled acts!
Of course, a pleasant, charming and harmonious blend of the two - i.e. spirit and soul is possible - but is unusual.

But human beings and children being the little human beings yet to be grown iinto full fledged people indeed possess "spirits and souls". We are beings with a soul. It is said that only animals have no souls; but we all do.

However on your next argument about children having no constraints; to this I agree with. I don't know if you ever read though written in Armenian, the 20th century's great Armenian woman writer Zabel Yessayan. She said that as humans we tend to restrict and constrain ourselves to act as society always expects us to act. She says that we let us out of our psychologically, emotionally and soulfully confined cages only when something out of the ordinary happens in our lives; such as the case of a fatal illness, extreme happiness, death or an accident for instance. Then we forget ourselves for a while to get back into our initial beings, "souls" that were God given to us from birth.

Considering the person who used the expression, the context where it was used, the person it described - i.e. Brigitte Bardot - and, finally, a cultural background indulgent of the playful, mischievous and - for lack of a better word - the "eccentric;" I'd say that the "child" in Eternal Child had rather positive connotations, similar to the ones that you have mentioned in previous posts.
As for "eternal," I view it as a "modulator" that simply accentuates the good - or bad - in "child."

For the above highlighted and the underlined paragraph please expand a little so that I can try to respond to this intelligently. Thank you.

The way I understand your views to be the "eternal" as an adjustment, an adjusting periods of times that better specifies the good or bad in a child. Do you simply mean the varying ages of a child as he/she is grown and thus is going through trends and changing ways of the right ethics and mores; till he/she is finally grown to find his/her own path in the world?

Coming to the topic of the thread, it can be argued that the "child" in Eternal Child suggests that age matters because in many/most of us the child dies as we grow older. However, the "eternal" suggests that the child does not have to die - and does not always; therefore, age does not necessarily matter.
(Of course, the child can also die prematurely, that also means that age does not necessarily matter.)

I see what you're trying to say. This same thought applies and it is similar to my above quote from Zabel Yessayan's composition about how a great many individuals tend to place deep hidden their very souls in life to make themselves acceptable and to adjust themselves with the rest of humanity and for their approval.

[Anoush]

Re: does age matter?

i dont think age matters at all its just whether you love them or not

Yes. Whether old, older or young, younger; it is whether you take the time and give yourself the chance to know the person deep inside and appreciate what the person has to offer and is able to give and receive love. If the person touches your better nerves, psyche, intellect or the biological makeup of your being. That's a start and what will or may count for one's future.

[Anoush]

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We had to! We needed them for the "Re" in the title field. *points to the title line above*
How else could we reply?


P.S. Have you heard of the expressions: "Esh@ intch kideh noush@, gerta goudeh poush@?" and "heh heheh?"

LambBoy; Siamanto is right. We were expanding our conversations about the "child" in us or not. In short we dared to understand and expand further about the philosophical words behind the sayings and you and sip came about not understanding nor wanting to understand or communicate on that level. You made rather silly comments while she was being deep, intelligent and very philosophical in her approach. That's why she said what she said.

It takes a well read, deep, intelligent and a philosophical person to communicate her thoughts as she did. You didn't want to understand it nor was able to appreciate it.

[jonoricho4]

Re: does age matter?

i dont think age matters at all its just whether you love them or not

[Lamb Boy]

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In case you're not familiar with the expression, it means something like: "You don't appreciate the finer things in life."

How very judgmental of you ... not surprising.

I would say that you are basically reiterating my notion to you with the lack of romance and excitement in your posts. What is this a "I'm rubber you're glue ..." moment?

Go commiserate in a feminine way somewhere else ... get a room!

[Siamanto]

Re: does age matter?

P.S. Have you heard of the expression: "Esh@ intch kideh noush@, gerta goudeh poush@?"

In case you're not familiar with the expression, it means something like: "You don't appreciate the finer things in life."

[Siamanto]

Re: does age matter?

Ya'll are seriously taking the "R" out of romance and the "E" out of exciting. Back to da topic heh heheh

We had to! We needed them for the "Re" in the title field. *points to the title line above*
How else could we reply?


P.S. Have you heard of the expressions: "Esh@ intch kideh noush@, gerta goudeh poush@?" and "heh heheh?"

[Siamanto]

Re: does age matter?

1. You say "Yes" loud and clear in the remainder of your reply! heh heh

I'm not sure if I understand you correctly: I say "Yes' to what and what do you consider as a "Yes?" Can you please be more explicit, so I won't have to make assumptions? Thanks!

So all I'm saying is that there are probably a bunch of lonely older women who would just like some company. Anyway I'd be happy with a non-cougaresque older woman, but where do you find women who aren't looking? haha Don't say online lmao or in a bar wa waaaaa hee hee

I don't know and it is of no interest to me. Maybe you should try specialized forums???