Feelings or Not

[loseyourname]

I recently has a little discussion with an ex-girlfriend of mine. She was bagging on me a bit because I haven't had a lover since her. I explained to her that it isn't worth it to me, for whatever reason, to have sex with a girl that I don't have strong feelings for. She said she was the exact opposite - she would rather that no feelings were involved, that the act be purely for physical pleasure and nothing more.

What do my fellow forumers think? Is sex better with someone you love? Or is it better with someone you don't give a xxxx about, but who is wonderful in the hay? Which would you rather have? I'm guessing I'm in the minority here.

[surferarmo]

Originally posted by loseyourname I recently has a little discussion with an ex-girlfriend of mine. She was bagging on me a bit because I haven't had a lover since her. I explained to her that it isn't worth it to me, for whatever reason, to have sex with a girl that I don't have strong feelings for. She said she was the exact opposite - she would rather that no feelings were involved, that the act be purely for physical pleasure and nothing more.

What do my fellow forumers think? Is sex better with someone you love? Or is it better with someone you don't give a xxxx about, but who is wonderful in the hay? Which would you rather have? I'm guessing I'm in the minority here.

They are different experiences in different situations. Both are chill. They just feel different because different passions are involved. However, it is up to preference of the person which is determined by their experiences with sex and relationships.

[Anonymouse]

Originally posted by loseyourname I recently has a little discussion with an ex-girlfriend of mine. She was bagging on me a bit because I haven't had a lover since her. I explained to her that it isn't worth it to me, for whatever reason, to have sex with a girl that I don't have strong feelings for. She said she was the exact opposite - she would rather that no feelings were involved, that the act be purely for physical pleasure and nothing more.

What do my fellow forumers think? Is sex better with someone you love? Or is it better with someone you don't give a xxxx about, but who is wonderful in the hay? Which would you rather have? I'm guessing I'm in the minority here.

Such a spiritual little boy lost who yurns for a spiritual moment of love and doesn't want to revel in just the mere physical pleasures, denies a soul. How ironic indeed.

[violette829]

Ahhh men and sex...You should already know what all the guys are going to say. I mean, they'll take sex anytime...with or without feelings. In the case of women, I think I speak for the majority when I say that we need to have an emotional bond with a guy in order for sex to be more enoyable. It is a proven fact that men are more stimulated by "physical" rather than "mental" when it comes to sex and sexuality.

This is probably the reason why a woman's name gets dragged through the mud when she has sex with men just for the pure enjoyment of sex. I don't agree completely with this, but that's how our society is. Men and women have different, if not opposite views on this subject.

I personally will never sleep with a man unless I am completely in love with him and have an emotional attachment to him. I think you all know this, but I am a very open-minded person when it comes to my sexuality. I am not afraid to express it in any way...but, when it comes down to it, I would never just have sex with a guy I don't have strong feelings for. But, then the question remains...When are feelings strong enough and who determines the strength?

I guess every person has their own answer to that question, thus making this topic a matter of choice and preference.

Ew.:confused:

[loseyourname]

Originally posted by Anonymouse Such a spiritual little boy lost who yurns for a spiritual moment of love and doesn't want to revel in just the mere physical pleasures, denies a soul. How ironic indeed.

When have I ever denied the existence of a soul?

[loseyourname]

Originally posted by surferarmo They are different experiences in different situations. Both are chill.

I like that attitude.

[fstkhnan]

never experienced any, but I have to love the person or have really strong feelings for in order for me to have sex with him. So, that's why I totally believe in sex after marriage......

[Emil]

Let's try this again.

[fstkhnan]

Originally posted by Emil Let's try this again.

that's really nice of u .... THANX!

[Hogg]

I'm sure it's better (never ravaged a random girl) but I wouldn't turn down ass just because it's a girl I don't care about.

[surferarmo]

Originally posted by loseyourname I like that attitude.

On one hand, it is exciting to get with a chick who is not in your heart. You just met her, she just met you, and the fact that you can win her trust, and she can win yours in one night is amazing.

With a woman you care about, passion is involved and is a main ingredient in making love. The act itself means more than having a good time, it is an act which is earned by love and dedication, and it purveys that you both have earned eachother.

Like I said before, both are chill.

However, which one you prefer, is up to you. Refer to Hoggs post above mine. It makes a lot of sense to me.

[Dan]

Hmm, Emil, at least you could've kept my initial reply to fstkhnan...

Well, anyway, seems like SELECTIVE censorship is becoming the norm here too. What, maybe we can talk about hetero sex? :mad: That way nothing would be censored, huh? :mad: W-H-A-T-E-V-E-R. People need to grow up.

I'm done with here for now.

[dstyle]

I think you should wait for someone you care about, but thats just me.

[fstkhnan]

Originally posted by dstyle I think you should wait for someone you care about, but thats just me.

ur one of the few guys I know who think that way....good thinkin!

[loseyourname]

Originally posted by Emil Let's try this again.

Thank you, Emil.

[sleuth]

In my personal point of view sex without strong feelings is just an animal act,brutal and means nothing.Act of love has nothing to do with brutal sex...love is a dream ,beautiful dream big enough to hold both of them.they should explore the most closely guarded corners of theire hearts and souls before being intimate.Personally i have never experienced sex without love( i have been intimate only one person so far).But i think nowadays body drives ppl more than heart ,spirit or emotions.Even more i refuse any connection between sex and love...They both are different extrims..they just different..they have nothing common.And expression sex with love or sex without love is just wrong..sex is sex and love is love...i will never share my body with someone i don't know..or i feel nothing..

[fstkhnan]

Originally posted by sleuth In my personal point of view sex without strong feelings is just an animal act,brutal and means nothing.Act of love has nothing to do with brutal sex...love is a dream ,beautiful dream big enough to hold both of them.they should explore the most closely guarded corners of theire hearts and souls before being intimate.Personally i have never experienced sex without love( i have been intimate only one person so far).But i think nowadays body drives ppl more than heart ,spirit or emotions.Even more i refuse any connection between sex and love...They both are different extrims..they just different..they have nothing common.And expression sex with love or sex without love is just wrong..sex is sex and love is love...i will never share my body with someone i don't know..or i feel nothing..

thank you!