Becoming emotionally attached. [Archive]

Wise

03-01-2004, 01:40 AM

Anonymouse!
Hogg!
Emil!
Miss Butterfly,anileve!! How are you Guys?
We cant be silent like this with Jenny. I am sure in every question there should be a reason so dont you guys think that she needs some acquaintanceship, discernment and enlightenment?? I agree with Emil that Jenny's question is really boring and unvaried but we cant ignore her like this! i am sure there is a sensation in her question ,dont you think?
we cant be cruel,primitive and graceless like this!!I guarantee for you that she is the kind of,sensibility,sensitivity and tactility so let us give her a hand in this question!! The 2nd chance is always required In my Hard disk so why not??
Here is my 1st step...
Miss Jeeny:p your question is: How long does it take for u to get emotionally attached to some1? and the Wise answer is : YOU have a white HEART therefore you can emotionally attached anytime so be ready!!and Maybe its YOU whos cold and empty And in YOUR darkness YOU cant see the light so just pray for God if theres an angel HE could send YOU because YOU realy need help...
I am Done Guys!! It's your turn....

I have something to add for Miss Jenny!
That Love is not limited, but it sacred to the heart...

Anonymouse

03-01-2004, 09:53 AM

Originally posted by Jenny I don't care

I still don't care

Anyway i just wanted to hear ur experiences with this issue coz i usually get attached so quickly and end up having issues.

So if nobody cares let no1 reply. barzabes

Well hey, listen if you get attached to easily that's asking for something.

Despite all the "love is blind" and indeed you are ruled by emotions, you gotta have an ounce of reason along with it, if you don't want to get hurt. Having some rational approach is for the long run. If you don't care whether you end up having issues or not, then just dive in by all means.

anileve

03-01-2004, 11:31 AM

Originally posted by Wise Anonymouse!
Hogg!
Emil!
Miss Butterfly,anileve!! How are you Guys?
We cant be silent like this with Jenny. I am sure in every question there should be a reason so dont you guys think that she needs some acquaintanceship, discernment and enlightenment?? I agree with Emil that Jenny's question is really boring and unvaried but we cant ignore her like this! i am sure there is a sensation in her question ,dont you think?
we cant be cruel,primitive and graceless like this!!I guarantee for you that she is the kind of,sensibility,sensitivity and tactility so let us give her a hand in this question!! The 2nd chance is always required In my Hard disk so why not??
Here is my 1st step...
Miss Jeeny:p your question is: How long does it take for u to get emotionally attached to some1? and the Wise answer is : YOU have a white HEART therefore you can emotionally attached anytime so be ready!!and Maybe its YOU whos cold and empty And in YOUR darkness YOU cant see the light so just pray for God if theres an angel HE could send YOU because YOU realy need help...
I am Done Guys!! It's your turn....

I swear this guy cracks me up! :D :D :D The most twisted dude I've encountered. I wonder if he took the blue or the red pill?

Emil

03-01-2004, 12:29 PM

Originally posted by anileve I swear this guy cracks me up! :D :D :D The most twisted dude I've encountered. I wonder if he took the blue or the red pill?

He probably took both.

violette829

03-01-2004, 01:48 PM

This is what happens when you guys pick him over me! I can't believe it! :rolleyes:

Back to the subject: I never get attached. The only people I am attached to are my immediate family members. Everyone else can go suck a lemon for all I care. I have an incredible ability to forget people VERY easily...sooo....I just never have a chance to get attached....except.....

:( to Anonymouse! I mean...he got me twisted over him!

You know you are my lover,
You got me twisted over you,
I know I got what you need,
So what do you wanna do...

I love that song. The only thing I don't understand is when singers ask questions in their lyrics..>What's that about? I mean....."So, what do u wanna do?" What the hell are you asking? How are you going to know the answer to that? I don't understand this!!!!!!!!:mad:

Anonymouse

03-01-2004, 02:06 PM

The lesson is, don't get attached so quickly. Use they mind.

violette829

03-01-2004, 02:46 PM

Originally posted by Anonymouse The lesson is, don't get attached so quickly. Use they mind.

How can I learn a lesson once you have broken my heart into a zillion pieces? DAMNIT ANON ! I will never learn! I will stay in this misery forever and ever!:(

Anonymouse

03-01-2004, 02:47 PM

Originally posted by violette829 How can I learn a lesson once you have broken my heart into a zillion pieces? DAMNIT ANON ! I will never learn! I will stay in this misery forever and ever!:(

I broke your heart? How did I do that? I'm sorry, being that I am missing chromosomes and all, I'm not too fast on perception nor cognition.

violette829

03-01-2004, 02:52 PM

Originally posted by Anonymouse I broke your heart? How did I do that? I'm sorry, being that I am missing chromosomes and all, I'm not too fast on perception nor cognition.

You're fast on everything Anon jan. I know you'll get this one soon! Alright...I'm leaving work. Have a wonderful rest of a Monday guys!

Anonymouse

03-01-2004, 03:17 PM

Apparently not fast on this one.

SexyAries

03-02-2004, 02:52 PM

bla bla blaaaa people....dont you get it, there is no such thing as LOVE. Better off not getting attatched.

Plus you only get attatched to someone because you are infatuated with that someone, believe me its not love.

Jenny

03-02-2004, 11:01 PM

umm if u don't get attached don't u care about the person at least? I care about every person I know and it gets him mad. He doesn't like it when i say meghke or togh chi neghvi, he says I'm acting like he's not there.That's just me sure i care a lot I agree, but I can't help it. Should I try to change? and how can i not care?

If the person is next to be I feel so close and attached to him, if his not I kinda have second thoughts about the relationship. Why is that?

In conclusion I'm a mess and I don't know what I want. I should never be allowed to go out. thank you for reading this thread, if u like to help out and answer my q. I'd be grateful if not u can just make fun it's ok.

PASAMONSTER

03-03-2004, 05:20 AM

You see thats where you got it wrong....

Attachment has nothing to do with love, you shouldn't be attached to someone in order to love them or the other way around.

There should be no attachment, couples should be a whole, one unity.

attachment hurts,

Ahhhhh what the helll do i know....

sleuth

03-03-2004, 06:12 AM

Originally posted by PASAMONSTER You see thats where you got it wrong....

Attachment has nothing to do with love, you shouldn't be attached to someone in order to love them or the other way around.

There should be no attachment, couples should be a whole, one unity.

attachment hurts,

Ahhhhh what the helll do i know....

jenny pennyyyy :P..don't give out your power and never get attached to ppl..that's the most stupid thing to do ,because emotions,feelings,ppl come and go YOU stay...did you get my point????
oh well...some girls are just drama gueens...embrace all emotions and feelings that comes to you,and let them go ,make enough space for something more powerfull and exciting...never get attached,,just enjoy the moment and let it go,be free and make enough room for ppl around you to be free...attachment is a cage.

PASAMONSTER

03-03-2004, 06:56 AM

She's right you know....sleuth that is.

Don't let yourself get caged, find the wind that will guide your wings.

One escapes from home calling it a cage and yearning to be free. That same one crys to be in her cage, as she is raped by the same freedom she yearned for.

jenny you're asking questions on the forum, yet deep inside you know what the answers are. If you require reassurance, don't bother, you know whats best for yourself. Any choice you make that you belive in, can't be wrong.

Anonymouse

03-03-2004, 01:31 PM

Originally posted by PASAMONSTER She's right you know....sleuth that is.

Don't let yourself get caged, find the wind that will guide your wings.

One escapes from home calling it a cage and yearning to be free. That same one crys to be in her cage, as she is raped by the same freedom she yearned for.

jenny you're asking questions on the forum, yet deep inside you know what the answers are. If you require reassurance, don't bother, you know whats best for yourself. Any choice you make that you belive in, can't be wrong.

Are you sure you're not Wise?

PASAMONSTER

03-03-2004, 01:38 PM

no i am not wise.

i have a soft side yeah, but come on.

I can slit a guys throat and gut him infront of his family and then go out to eat some spagetti with extra sauce.

I doubt he can sstomach the sight of blood.

Anonymouse

03-03-2004, 01:49 PM

Originally posted by PASAMONSTER no i am not wise.

i have a soft side yeah, but come on.

I can slit a guys throat and gut him infront of his family and then go out to eat some spagetti with extra sauce.

I doubt he can sstomach the sight of blood.

I bet I can slit your throat faster than you can say "OH MY MONSTER HE'S MISSING CHROMSOMES!" and I still wouldn't be emotionally attached.

PASAMONSTER

03-03-2004, 01:57 PM

Ahhh you getting emotionally attched again

spiral

03-30-2004, 12:21 PM

How does one become emotionally attached?

ckBejug

03-30-2004, 03:06 PM

Originally posted by spiral How does one become emotionally attached?

You start spending time with someone and caring about them a lot. You value their opinion and consider them a friend and like spending time with them. As time goes by you like them more and more and the time you spend together becomes more and more special and boom before you know it you're attached. Even if say what you have started as a no strings thing, all of a sudden you can't imagine what it would be like if they weren't there anymore. Like if you couldn't talk and see how they're doing. etc, etc...

Although, don't take my word for it, I tend to care too much about people, even if I'm not that emotionally attached I care about them and wish them well, etc.

This is why @$$holes are your best bet if you want a no strings relationship. They can give you the illusion of being in a caring 'relationship' and the comfort of having someone to spend time with but then the minute they say something jack@$$-ish you remember how much you don't actually like them (because being an @$$ is part of their personality). Voila. No problem.

OGBUGZY

04-16-2004, 12:10 AM

it took me a quick second one time when i met my girl, now my ex. i thought she was my soulmate, but i guess there is no such thing in life. if there is, please god send it my way, i'm gettin old and i need my wife already.

dstyle

04-16-2004, 08:24 AM

Forget emotions, forget aobut it, by forget i mean yaaaa.

ExtraHye

04-16-2004, 11:13 PM

There's no such thing as soul mates, or love at first sight. One needs to start of as friends before getting emotionally attached.

I'm new here by the way :)

ExtraHye

04-17-2004, 09:26 AM

if there is, please god send it my way, i'm gettin old and i need my wife already.
Some people find love later in life then others. You'll find the right person when you least expect it. Age is nothing but a number when it comes to love.
You suppose??? :rolleyes: Danny, Danny... Is that a way to welcome an old friend?? :rolleyes:

Darorinag

04-17-2004, 09:31 AM

if there is, please god send it my way, i'm gettin old and i need my wife already.
lol... you're waiting for God to send you a wife? How does that work? :o

Old friends don't delete friends off MSN lists, do they? :cool:

violette829

04-17-2004, 09:50 AM

Awww.Dan....>JANA~~ :naughty:

violette829

04-17-2004, 01:21 PM

Good one Nairi..... :laugh:

So, really...I think the only way a person would get "emotionally attached" to someone is if he/she has MAJOR SELF ESTEEM ISSUES! It all stems from that because if you don't have a strong sense of self...then you are bound to cling on any buttcrack that comes your way.

Good Luck with the buttcracks Jenny jan! :D

hyebruin

04-17-2004, 10:36 PM

emotional attachment is believing that your happiness is based on things external! and according to buddha that's why one of the 4 noble truths is the state of human suffering....we suffer 'cause we're attached to family, friends, significant others, pets, places, things...etc.

to be truely free of any kind of attachment and pain is to realize that everything is a transitory illusion and the only 'reality' or truth is within each one of us and that despite the fact that much of the universe is composed of dark matter, we all are beings of light :)

sSsflamesSs

04-17-2004, 10:40 PM

I'm emotionally attached to chocolate.

Darorinag

04-18-2004, 12:10 PM

I'm emotionally attached to everyone here. Especially we-know-who. :naughty:

And to answer the initial question: it takes me exactly 2 minutes to be emotionally attached to someone. :rolleyes:

loseyourname

04-18-2004, 04:25 PM

I'm emotionally attached to myself. Very badly so. I don't think I'll ever let go.

Jenny

04-18-2004, 09:24 PM

Albeit the inextricable problems of being emotionally attached, I like the thoughts of caring for ppl, of being there for them. Last night, an older classmate of mine called me. A classmate that, during my 4 yrs in school, never approached me; a classmate that made fun of me when i first entered. Yes, she called me, she asked me to hang out together and I knew exactly why. It's bcoz her old so-called-friends don't give a crap about her anymore so who's left? nice girl jenny. Despite the bitter past, I was glad, I realized that somehow I had forgiven her for everything, the rage I felt towards all my frigid classmates have just...gone. Yes, I am nostalgic; yes I am emotionally attached to most ppl that have been a part of my past; no I don't expect anything in return. I hope I did give that Friend the comfort she was reaching out for.

sSsflamesSs

04-18-2004, 09:47 PM

Aww, Jenny. That's sweet. And I'm being serious. :)

Jenny

04-18-2004, 10:12 PM

So why do u advise me to impede attachment? I started this thread not long ago, bcoz I thought of it as a 'problem". But now I see that it's quite the contrary, what could be wrong in giving care? Is it the pain, you'd prefer indifference over pain? The aim of life isn't limiting pain, the focus should be on the more essential feelings of love. In other words, our lives should reflect how God wants us to live and not our own selfish desires of living a happy life.

sSsflamesSs

04-18-2004, 10:23 PM

Where exactly did I "advise you to impede attachment"? I think what the others were referring to was getting attached to people that more often than not, will end up hurting you. Some people can spot these people with ease, whereas people like you (from what you have told us) are naive and get attached to people who end up hurting them. Being a compassionate and caring individual is not the same thing as being a self-destructive emotional mess that clings on to people without really knowing them.