“Love and Loyalty”: Marriage in secret, in an environment of fear

[Sip]

Re: “Love and Loyalty”: Marriage in secret, in an environment of fear

I don't know about you guys but no matter how many sausage fests are going on, I NEVER feel like trying it out or joining in. All this talk about a kid growing up to be gay by watching gay behavior is just homophobic bull IMO ... unless ... eh ... maybe some people feel threatened by gay behavior? But why would that be? I don't know ... I just don't get it. Given the choice between having sex with girls or having sex with guys, I highly doubt ANY kid would "choose" the guys for fun or to immitate some sort of behavior unless he was actually gay.

[Fedayeen]

Re: “Love and Loyalty”: Marriage in secret, in an environment of fear

So your saying gay people were born gay? gayness has to be in their blood?

[Sip]

Re: “Love and Loyalty”: Marriage in secret, in an environment of fear

I don't know ... but would YOU choose to be gay? I certainly can't see myself making that choice under any circumstances so there's got to be a more profound reason people end up being gay. Heck I rather do the pickle jar than some guy's rear.

[Crissy]

Re: “Love and Loyalty”: Marriage in secret, in an environment of fear

I'd say it's about who they are attracted to, more about how they feel rather than it being a choice.

[theServant]

Re: “Love and Loyalty”: Marriage in secret, in an environment of fear

it's a gay-at-birth thing, how can someone "turn" gay?

[Anonymouse]

Re: “Love and Loyalty”: Marriage in secret, in an environment of fear

it's a gay-at-birth thing, how can someone "turn" gay?

It is not a 'lifestyle' it is not a 'disease' or something you are born with. It is more akin to a behavior or tendency.

What are behaviors and tendencies? They can be both genetic and learned, however, the jury is still out so all we have are the endpoint, the action. The action of being gay is therefore then based on choice. The participants make a conscious choice to pursue that based on whatever impulse it is since we do not know.

If being gay was something you are born with, we wouldn't have bisexuals. In other words, there is fluidity in the behaviors and tendencies, as opposed to these static polar opposites of you are either gay or straight. As for turning gay, I remember there was a study conducted a few years ago, ironically, a study carried out to disprove notions that somehow gay parents who adopt children will not have any effect on their sexuality. They wanted to prove that children can actually grow up in gay households without turning gay. Strangely enough, the results were the opposite of what the group intended, and found that there is measured effect. However, I could have you told you that without a study.

[ddd]

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If they keep it to themselves, I couldn't care less.

And for the issue of what's on TV...sure, one can control what their child watches, but when a family is sitting together surfing channels, the images can unintentionally pop up, which may spark a desire in the child who views those images for a split second. Obviously the spark won't happen to most teenagers and adults because we've already grown out of that stage, but it can affect a child who is younger than 5 and taking in an enormous amount of information daily.

[Fedayeen]

Re: “Love and Loyalty”: Marriage in secret, in an environment of fear

What about teachers at school? having gay clubs, etc


This is classic

[Anahita]

Re: “Love and Loyalty”: Marriage in secret, in an environment of fear

Good for them! God bless Harut and Misha and their marriage.
I wish them a long and happy (monogamous) life together.

[Anonymouse]

Re: “Love and Loyalty”: Marriage in secret, in an environment of fear

What about teachers at school? having gay clubs, etc


This is classic

See, that sort of flaunting their gayness I can't stand. You wanna be gay fine, I support your right. Why shove it down my damn throat? Straight people don't have parades on streets flaunting their straightness. It's like they are trying to convince themselves morethan anyone that they are gay. Seriously folks.