Act like a peon and be treated like a peon.

[Anonymouse]

This is something I have noticed a lot of lately namely if you act like you are under someone in a hierarchy, a peon, an underling, that is how you will be treated. The human psyche is not hard to figure out at times like this, when you instinctively feel that someone "thinks" they are inferior to you, that is how you will treat them, you will speak down to them and this will force their own beliefs into fruition like a vicious self fulfilling profecy. They think they are inferior to you = they ARE inferior to you.

This is partially a confidence issue, and partially an upbringing issue, the old school mentality of respecting one's elder's is in my opinion bullxxxx. My thinking is, so what if you are xxxxing old? What have you done for me lately? If you want my respect, you earn it just like everyone else, don't wave your age around like a cleaver cause I'll slap it out of your hand and spit on it, and give you an atomic wedgie with your constinance pad. It might have worked in days gone by, but in this day an age of cuthroat competition especially in the world of work, behaving and eventually being inferior is detrimental to both one's health and career.you will be walked over by any and everyone who does not harbor this same mentality.

Leave the "Yes sir, no sir, feel free to stick your xxxx in my mouth sir" in the past and know what you want and have the balls to move forward with this mentality, be assertive, treat people as equals no matter what they drive, no matter what they own, no matter who they xxxx, no matter what food they eat and you will be a much happier and much more successful person.

[patlajan]

Yes but what about the backlash to someone who is perceived as superior or acts like it. Then the person that is full of themselves is disliked the same way the person that has no self confidence.

[Anonymouse]

Originally posted by patlajan Yes but what about the backlash to someone who is perceived as superior or acts like it. Then the person that is full of themselves is disliked the same way the person that has no self confidence.

Indeed, so best keep a happy medium, don't sway too far into a superiority complex, yet maintain your stance and don't give in as inferior either.

[spiral]

Very good point. I've actually been noticing this a lot lately as well.

I've tested it out too.



If a person, is not very confident in him/herself, even if others don't know this person, and they meet this person for the very first time, and the person's body language exudes even the least bit of discomfort, and lack of self-confidence, the other will notice, may it be consciously/unconsciously, and act accordingly, treating that person in a different manor. Like you said- If that person thinks they are inferior, he/she will be treated as inferior.

Though I thinkThis is often done unconsciously.

If a person senses a weakness in another, they will always use it to their advantage.

excuse my run-on sentence,

[sSsflamesSs]

I don't want to repeat what has already been said, but I agree with it very much.

I have also noticed, from the people that I have encountered throughout my life, that the nicer you are to them, the more they think that they can push you around. Even if you are the most confident person...if you show excessive kindness to someone outside of your family, sooner or later, they are going to do something that is going to disappoint and offend you. I simply cannot understand this reaction. If I treat someone well, I except for him/her to do the same. Baic shat jamanak, hakarakne katarvum...lekestvum en. They get spoiled by this kindness, which makes no sense to me. Has this happened to anyone else?

Or is kindness another form of inferiority?

[spiral]

you're right flames.

Some people do take advantage of kindness, and those are usually the least confident ones, who are trying to do to others what has been done to them. They see the kind ones as "easiest targets" I guess.