Your relationship with your parents.

[Emil]

Siggie,

With 4 jobs you can't afford to move out?

[patlajan]

Make an announcement that you think you're pregnant and you are not sure who the father is. Then a few weeks later say that the pregnacy test was wrong and it was a false alarm. This will lower their standards, and have them worry about you being a sl*t and not a failure. I think it's a good opening strategy.Also Emil is right. If you're working 3 jobs then you need to take your money and get the hell outta there.

[Darorinag]

Originally posted by Emil This thread is going good so far. Violette and Dan stop taking it off topic.

It is not off-topic. It's no more off-topic than what Siggie posted.

[violette829]

Hey Ani jan..I'm so sorry to hear about that..I guess I didn't realize how different some families can be. The only thing you can do now is prove everyone wrong. Do your best and achieve it ALL!!!!!

Emil, how are we going off topic?

[Siggie]

Originally posted by patlajan Make an announcement that you think you're pregnant and you are not sure who the father is. Then a few weeks later say that the pregnacy test was wrong and it was a false alarm. This will lower their standards, and have them worry about you being a sl*t and not a failure. I think it's a good opening strategy.Also Emil is right. If you're working 3 jobs then you need to take your money and get the hell outta there.

Thanks... that great advice.
That's exactly what I want them to think... that I'm a wh0re.

[SagGal]

Siggie I am really sorry to hear that. You need to just yell it all out to your parents and show a comparison between them and your boyfriend's parents. How they are better to you than your actual parents. That should make them angry and feel bad. Show that you are strong enough to actually say that because that will hurt them. Make your parents feel guilty for the way they are treating you. Ask them things like, "What do youw want from me? I work and go to school and I've been nothing but good to you." You obviously said this already but continue to bug your parents about it. SCARE them about the idea of moving out and that they are the reason for that. That you can't put up with all that crap anymore. I wouldn't suggest moving out though, and you did say that you are not financially ready to move out anyways. When you do decide to move out, at least finally let it all out and tell them exactly what you want to tell them and how they treat you like crap. I think that you do want your relationship with your parents resolved of course becasue you said that you still have that hope. But by moving out, it is not going to help much unless of course your parents are not going to change and will be stubborn. Then unfortunately you have to save enough money and move out. I'm just saying, try to find ways to make your parents feel guilty for how they are treating you. Make them feel bad and maybe their eyes will finally open to your pain.
I hope everything does work out and I wish you all the best.

[sSsflamesSs]

You know Siggie? I think that the resident eggplant might have a point. Although his means are rather shady, the end will certainly help you out. So, lower their standards and change your attitude. This doesn't mean that you have to fail in your life, just make them think you are. If the only times that you do come home are only to sleep, I doubt that this would be difficult.

I don't know if my advice makes sense, but the idea should work.

[Inna]

I understand where your coming from Siggie...my parents do the same thing to me..I'm constantly labeled the "smart" one in my family and they expect me to get all A's...my dad wants me to be a lawyer, my mom wants me to be a doctor, I want to be neither of those. They upset me to a point that I just wanted to fail all my classes in high school just so they could see that I'm human, and that I'm not perfect, but I didn't see a reason for me to ruin my own future of going to a good college just to prove them wrong.
Now that I'm in college and live away from home things are better, I think the best thing for you to do is to move out. Because then every time they get to see you they'll just think about how much they miss you and start asking you questions about whats going on in your life rather then pin pointing everything that you do wrong. Since I've been away from home, my parents listen to me more and are proud of me, not because I'm doing good in school but because I'm their daughter.

Don't ever say that your better off with out them, because, like Violette said, you never know what your missing until you loose it, and then it's too late.

[Anonymouse]

When I grow up, I want to be myself. My parents agree.

[loseyourname]

I definitely keep to myself. In principle, I will tell just about anyone just about anything, and I'll answer any questions my parents have, but I'm not very involved in family and I really don't talk to them unless they talk to me first.