Affair Within The Family

[ArmenianKid]

Ok guys I need advice on something that I'm lost about. I recently found out one of my uncles is cheating on his wife. I found this out because my brother went to my uncles workplace to get a blueprint for something and found condoms on the desk and he could sense he was a little drunk. He told him about how he had just brought a prostitute over and had sex with her. This is really surprising because a lot of people looked up to him. Lately he has been acting weird though and he lost his job about a year ago. Now here is my problem. Since I found out about this do I tell the wife? It's my dads brother. Should I tell my parents? Does the wife need to find out about this? Or should I keep my mouth shut. I really don't know what to do about the situation. And my brother is the one who found out initially so I would be putting him in a bad spot also since he didn't tell anyone and he just had to tell me to tell someone close to him since he was confused too. I told him to not say anything for now to anyone. Well? What should I do?

BTW, I just reworded it in a way where it's happening to me but it's not actually happening to me, it is one of my friends, I just didn't want to explain it in third person because it would be more confusing. So I need to help the guy out because he's been stressing over this and asked me for some advice.

i think u should tell your parents. no one should get away with what hes doing.
but he seems like he needs help in general, but i would still say tell ur parnets.

[violette829]

Wow..I don't think I could keep something like that to myself. I would feel sooo bad for the wife. I'm sure she knows, but maybe she needs a bit of a push so she doesn't let her husband walk all over her.

[Anonymouse]

Wow..I don't think I could keep something like that to myself. I would feel sooo bad for the wife. I'm sure she knows, but maybe she needs a bit of a push so she doesn't let her husband walk all over her.

I think most of the time men and women will differ in opinion at an issue like this, mostly because women are more emotional and tend to associate more with the victim.

[violette829]

I think most of the time men and women will differ in opinion at an issue like this, mostly because women are more emotional and tend to associate more with the victim.

That's not a bad thing, is it?

[ArmoBarbi]

It's called caring. Are you suggesting that men don't care as much?

I feel sorry for the wife, but it is not something that is clouding my judgement of the issue. The man is messed up, she needs to know. Good thing he used condoms, what if he hadn't? What if he doesn't one time? He cannot be trusted, and as long as she does not know she is in danger.

[Inna]

you shouldnt tell your parents directly what you know..but you should just say, "I think somethings wrong with the uncle, I dont think he is acting himself lately." If your parents look completely clueless to what your talking about then you could insert something like, "I think he is cheating on the aunt." Dont say you know for a fact, just make it look like your assuming. If your parents know about it then they'll either explain to you the situation or try to hide it (which would be more than likely obvious if they tried to cover it up).

[spiral]

I say stay out of it.

Plus, you're related to the uncle not the wife right?

[winoman]

I hate to say this but if this isn't really about you then it makes it much much more difficult to really give you any good advice (to pass along...etc). You see - before I would offer you advice I would ask you how close you are to any of these people - what you think of them - how much do you care - etc. And I would also ask about the brother and if it might make sense to come to an agreement with him concerning an approach (I certainly wouldn't do anything without talking it over with him first...OK there is some advice ). In general its best to stay out of such things as all facts are likely not known and you never know what you'll be stirrign up - obviously it depends on your closeness to the people and the situation - but proceede with caution regardless - don't be rash (I'm talking as if its you - easier like you said...). Doing a prostitute in ones office (when married etc) is pretty nasty stuff - IMO - but who knows about the details - could be much more to it...and it might be worth talking it through with the Uncle first - but again not knowing the personalities and relationships and how close everyone is etc etc hard to say....

[omniscient]

Thanks for the help guys, he's not going to say anything. I told him what a few members said, just let it unfold. So that's what's going to happen, thanks guys.

[Anonymouse]

Thanks for the help guys, he's not going to say anything. I told him what a few members said, just let it unfold. So that's what's going to happen, thanks guys.

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