Sex before marriage

[Xpeed]

The problem is that females associate sex with love and men don’t sex is just for pleasure.

[spectra]

Originally posted by tortoise26 grrrr.... this whole thing is getting irritating. I'm going to base my comments on this hypothesis: that marriage comes in at least the mid-twenties. Given that, I dont understand which guy thinks that it is normal for a girl who has lived a quarter of a decade or more to never have loved someone before them. Who the hell cares? Obviously, the relationship she had with the person before you didn't work out, so get over it. The only time that sexual history should be a problem is that if she has been promiscuous or irresponsible in her decisions. I mean, if she went home with many guys after clubs or something, thats a totally different story than if she had sex with a boyfriend in a long-term relationship or maybe she even thought she would marry. It all comes down to morality and the feelings/motivations behind the actions.

And all these things apply to guys too. Dont think youre the only ones that are picky about your mates sexual past. I personally would not want my guy to have hooked up with girls in Palm Springs over a Spring break vacation or something. I hope the sex he has had (if he has had sex) has been out of love and respect, not some booty call.

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I think we all came to an agreement that such topics should not be discussed, since it's something connected with persons privacy. I will stop responding to this thread

[loseyourname]

Originally posted by patlajan My thoughts exactly.

Same here. Thank you for saying that, Tortoise.

[patlajan]

Originally posted by tortoise26 grrrr.... this whole thing is getting irritating. I'm going to base my comments on this hypothesis: that marriage comes in at least the mid-twenties. Given that, I dont understand which guy thinks that it is normal for a girl who has lived a quarter of a decade or more to never have loved someone before them. Who the hell cares? Obviously, the relationship she had with the person before you didn't work out, so get over it. The only time that sexual history should be a problem is that if she has been promiscuous or irresponsible in her decisions. I mean, if she went home with many guys after clubs or something, thats a totally different story than if she had sex with a boyfriend in a long-term relationship or maybe she even thought she would marry. It all comes down to morality and the feelings/motivations behind the actions.

And all these things apply to guys too. Dont think youre the only ones that are picky about your mates sexual past. I personally would not want my guy to have hooked up with girls in Palm Springs over a Spring break vacation or something. I hope the sex he has had (if he has had sex) has been out of love and respect, not some booty call.

My thoughts exactly.

[tortoise26]

grrrr.... this whole thing is getting irritating. I'm going to base my comments on this hypothesis: that marriage comes in at least the mid-twenties. Given that, I dont understand which guy thinks that it is normal for a girl who has lived a quarter of a decade or more to never have loved someone before them. Who the hell cares? Obviously, the relationship she had with the person before you didn't work out, so get over it. The only time that sexual history should be a problem is that if she has been promiscuous or irresponsible in her decisions. I mean, if she went home with many guys after clubs or something, thats a totally different story than if she had sex with a boyfriend in a long-term relationship or maybe she even thought she would marry. It all comes down to morality and the feelings/motivations behind the actions.

And all these things apply to guys too. Dont think youre the only ones that are picky about your mates sexual past. I personally would not want my guy to have hooked up with girls in Palm Springs over a Spring break vacation or something. I hope the sex he has had (if he has had sex) has been out of love and respect, not some booty call.

[spectra]

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Originally posted by Artsakhtsi I hear you.

I am also an armenian girl from a decent armenian family.I just think that we look at this aspect of live with so much negativity.Sex is not bad!As long as you know what you are doing and are aware of consecvences.That's it!
cheers

I am not a psychologist to give an advice on this issue. But here what I’d think. Let say I love X girl so much that I am ready to do anything for her, and she is not a virgin. First, before I find out she is not a virgin I would know what kind of a person she is. So lets say we have been together for over a year, and it’s kind of a slow relationship, which I like the most… And I see she is a very kind person and then she tells me that she is not a virgin. Then I’d ask her, as a friend, about her past. I am sure she’d tell me she had met this person, they had sex, and then they didn’t understand each other. I’d ask myself a question, why didn’t they understand each other. Then I’d find out the answer by having little bit more relationship with her. Then I’d choose to take the serious step and marry her, and make a family. This rule doesn’t apply to American-Armenians*.

* Some may be exception.

[Artsakhtsi]

Originally posted by loseyourname I don't choose a woman based on the status of her hymen. I guess I was trying to say that there are more important things.

Halleluja

[Artsakhtsi]

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Originally posted by spectra I just said my opinion about non-virgin girl is an absent-minded. Others, maybe majority of people, may prove me wrong but if you look closely to this issue you will also agree with me. Sex is a fun thing to do, but to get to that point is a little tough in normal people’s life. Unless you’re not Armenian and you don’t have feelings of being embarrassed in public for the steps that you are making. In normal Armenian families (Mostly Armenian families from Republic of Armenia) girls are very careful in marriage or sex issues. Since I’m from an Armenian family from Armenia I have very high respect towards girls who are more serious in their life and relationship with others.
Anyway, I know Armenians from Diaspora will bash me for this post… Please don’t take my post very personally; I am just saying my opinion.

I hear you.

I am also an armenian girl from a decent armenian family.I just think that we look at this aspect of live with so much negativity.Sex is not bad!As long as you know what you are doing and are aware of consecvences.That's it!
cheers

[loseyourname]

I'm a native-born Californian and I take girls seriously based on who they are and the totality of their experiences and outlook, not on their sexual history. Furthermore, I do not equate waiting on something with taking it seriously.

[spectra]

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Originally posted by Artsakhtsi So to be a non-vergin is equal to be an absent minded?! Did i understand you right?

That is the most absurd comparison i've ever heard.

I agree though with the part about gift.

thank you

I just said my opinion about non-virgin girl is an absent-minded. Others, maybe majority of people, may prove me wrong but if you look closely to this issue you will also agree with me. Sex is a fun thing to do, but to get to that point is a little tough in normal people’s life. Unless you’re not Armenian and you don’t have feelings of being embarrassed in public for the steps that you are making. In normal Armenian families (Mostly Armenian families from Republic of Armenia) girls are very careful in marriage or sex issues. Since I’m from an Armenian family from Armenia I have very high respect towards girls who are more serious in their life and relationship with others.
Anyway, I know Armenians from Diaspora will bash me for this post… Please don’t take my post very personally; I am just saying my opinion.