How To Pick Up Chicks At Parties

[Vigilante]

Re: How To Pick Up Chicks At Parties

I actually don't have any body hair, and how the hell am I troll?

There is hardly any life in these threads, and I'm just posting threads so we can talk about something different.

Mouse man, how can state a comment like that trying to help, yet make an avatar with my face on it? I think thats flattering, but I'd prefer the head to be inside a white star, instead of an onion. With a red background! Can you do that for me?

Thanks.

[jgk3]

Re: How To Pick Up Chicks At Parties

All jokes aside, why do you care so much about picking up chicks? Let them come up to you.

So I'm not crazy then for thinking that way.

[Anonymouse]

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So I'm not crazy then for thinking that way.

Not at all.

The few times I have gone to bars in the past, I have never approached chicks. I couldn't give a rats ass.

It's been about 6 years since I've been in a club. I dislike clubs. The whole point of "dress to impress" and paying a ridiculous entrance fee, to have these girls who visited the ugly tree turn me down on the simple fact that their stock value goes up in the environment because men outnumber them and context determines that they are wanted, when if I had seen the same broad at a laundromat I would have continued to sip on my slurpee as I passed by not even giving a rats ass.

My point is, I see no point in approaching girls who are oogily, to have them turn me down. If you're at a bar (don't go to clubs or house parties, that makes you gay), you should just chill by the bar, sit there, watch some sports, talk to the bartender, enjoy your alcohol, and just do your thing. You are not there to "hook up" you are there to loosen up, enjoy, have a drink and go. If in the process you meet a lady, fine. Don't go out of your way. They will only flock to you if you don't give a crap for them.

And if they don't, screw em. You probably had to put too much work into it to begin with, you may as well go home and post on Hyeclub.

[ara87]

Re: How To Pick Up Chicks At Parties

So, how do you guys pick up chicks at parties? Whats the secret?

Do I have to watch The Pick Up Artist with Mystery to learn? [which I do, cause the shows interesting]

So yeah, Any thoughts?

-Moses

When i go to a party i just place a giant bag over a girls head and carry her on out like Borat. But seriously um...if you can't dance, don't ask a girl to dance, or at least give her a warning before hand in a flirtatious manner. Also take dancing lessons whether it's by a pro or just get someone you know to show you, then you can dance and not embarrass yourself, b/c pretty much anything you do that embarrasses yourself, embarrasses her also, whether it be dancing or doing something stupid, etc.

[jgk3]

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Not at all.

The few times I have gone to bars in the past, I have never approached chicks. I couldn't give a rats ass.

It's been about 6 years since I've been in a club. I dislike clubs. The whole point of "dress to impress" and paying a ridiculous entrance fee, to have these girls who visited the ugly tree turn me down on the simple fact that their stock value goes up in the environment because men outnumber them and context determines that they are wanted, when if I had seen the same broad at a laundromat I would have continued to sip on my slurpee as I passed by not even giving a rats ass.

My point is, I see no point in approaching girls who are oogily, to have them turn me down. If you're at a bar (don't go to clubs or house parties, that makes you gay), you should just chill by the bar, sit there, watch some sports, talk to the bartender, enjoy your alcohol, and just do your thing. You are not there to "hook up" you are there to loosen up, enjoy, have a drink and go. If in the process you meet a lady, fine. Don't go out of your way. They will only flock to you if you don't give a crap for them.

And if they don't, screw em. You probably had to put too much work into it to begin with, you may as well go home and post on Hyeclub.

I don't like parties either and when I do go out, it's at this specific bar with metal music that usually never has more than 10 people there. I go there with my guitarist, which is rare now because of his leukemia. I actually have fun there when I'm with him.

I too have become extremely dissatisfied with house parties and I've never been to a club. I much prefer walking my dog in the wilderness by myself than to go to any of those places.

[Siggie]

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I actually don't have any body hair

Didn't you say exactly the opposite? Did you wax/shave?

http://forum.hyeclub.com/showthread.php?t=11417

[Sip]

Re: How To Pick Up Chicks At Parties

I took a hit of weed from this guy. It was a pretty good hit, so I was a lil high.

I think I see your problem

I have 3 pieces of advice for you in this case if you really want to impress girls:

1. Don't get high
2. Don't get drunk
3. Don't refer to them as "chicks"

Girls like a guy that is in-charge, smart, funny, honest, caring, and respectful. Don't believe the hype about girls liking bad boys and jerks. The important point is "in charge".

"In charge" means in charge of yourself and your destiny. It doesn't mean you are a jerk and it also doesn't mean you are rude or mean. It just means you are confident, you can take care of yourself, you have a plan in your life, and you are not a spoiled baby who has everything handed to you in life. It means you can compliment a girl (and show genuine interest in her) while not having to resort to ass-kissing or coming off as overly desperate.

Whether you can dance or not is not nearly as important as how you carry yourself. You can make a complete fool of yourself on the dance floor and still have "chicks" go crazy over you if you are something they will be able to show off to their other girl friends.

And no, NO one wants to show off a drunk, doped-up loser. I am not saying don't drink at all ... just don't do stupid sh!t like weed or drugs or get so drunk you have no clue where you are or be able to form complete sentences when talking to someone.

[Vigilante]

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Didn't you say exactly the opposite? Did you wax/shave?

http://forum.hyeclub.com/showthread.php?t=11417

I used nair on my back, and tried to make my sides look natural, but I ended up messing up my chest hair, so I shaved my whole upper body, and parts of my thighs, and yeah, its a mess.

I think I am 90% sure that I actually like body hair now. Being hairless, I feel, I donno, less of a man I guess.

[Vigilante]

Re: How To Pick Up Chicks At Parties

I think I see your problem

I have 3 pieces of advice for you in this case if you really want to impress girls:

1. Don't get high
2. Don't get drunk
3. Don't refer to them as "chicks"

Girls like a guy that is in-charge, smart, funny, honest, caring, and respectful. Don't believe the hype about girls liking bad boys and jerks. The important point is "in charge".

"In charge" means in charge of yourself and your destiny. It doesn't mean you are a jerk and it also doesn't mean you are rude or mean. It just means you are confident, you can take care of yourself, you have a plan in your life, and you are not a spoiled baby who has everything handed to you in life. It means you can compliment a girl (and show genuine interest in her) while not having to resort to ass-kissing or coming off as overly desperate.

Whether you can dance or not is not nearly as important as how you carry yourself. You can make a complete fool of yourself on the dance floor and still have "chicks" go crazy over you if you are something they will be able to show off to their other girl friends.

And no, NO one wants to show off a drunk, doped-up loser. I am not saying don't drink at all ... just don't do stupid sh!t like weed or drugs or get so drunk you have no clue where you are or be able to form complete sentences when talking to someone.

Yeah, I think thats my problem too. I'm gonna quit smoking soon though. But for this party that's coming up on saturday, Monster Massive, I plan to take like 1 or 2 ecstacy pills....maximum 4.

But yeah. I want to learn how to dance, and I want to be the kind of guy that my girl [whoever it may be in the future] shows off to her girl friends. I think it'll be flattering and great.

I am not super confident yet, but I will be someday. But my confidence does get better over time, no joke. I also know what I want in life and how to get there, its just taking long, because half the time, school is involved. IE, I have to go to school to get my degree, and school time is taking up my time from other things such as drawing for my company and making money and stuff.

I think I should stop going online as much too, but yeah.

Thanks for your advice, I appreciate it.

Me starting this thread was not to humiliate myself [which I probably already did], but I just wanted to start another conversation. And I know it seems weird asking for advice in forums, but it always happens in any forum you go to.

So yeah.

-Moses

[Sako]

Re: How To Pick Up Chicks At Parties

Another great thread, Vig. I have a question, are you ever at home, lol? It seems like you do a lot of partying, more then usual, when I look at the stripping thread and this one. Not bad but a lot of the advice on this thread was written in gold. Here's my two cents, see what you think and I'm not the crazy partying type and I don't think you are either. With a bit of practice, I think you'll do much, much better. One golden truth, many people mess up because they aren’t themselves. Let’s start.

Rule 1. Don't do anything that doesn't match your character or background. Be yourself. If you don't like sports, don't just say you like sports to a girl so she'll like you because she'll find out anyways.

Rule 2. Don't "prepare" for anything. I mean, don't do something so people will like you, do something that will make you like yourself or how you look. It will make you feel awkward if you don't. Don't THINK that someone will probably like you more like this or that. Most of the time, it's never the way you imagine it, it's the same in life. Appreciate yourself and then others will appreciate you. Don't back down and don't think you can't do something because you soon really won't be able to if you always think that way. Think positive, always, even if you’re the guy walking home. Live today, fight tomorrow. Life is a fight, really, I think we all know that and feel the same way.

Rule 3. Be honest. The "Lie, lie, and lie some more" trick is for those who can't be honest or are embarrassed of who they are. In the end, they all have to become honest. Tell me if I'm wrong. Lying is ok to some very short extent but it shouldn't become a rule.

Rule 4.

Girls like a guy that is in-charge, smart, funny, honest, caring, and respectful. Don't believe the hype about girls liking bad boys and jerks.

Very true. Even the movies say that. And most girls that do are just going after money most of the time. Being a bad boy doesn’t mean breaking everything either. It’s good to some extent. We all have a bad boy in us but it should have a very short leash.

Rule 5. Don't try to match a girl’s personality. She likes horses; you don't have to as well. Keep your stance but don't be like "Horses Suck". Sometimes be like "Wow, really?" This seems easy but many get this wrong.

Rule 6. Don't hook up with a girl and keep thinking which bedroom to go to. You'll mess up. Girls can sense more then you think, kinda like dogs (sorry ladies, I know how that sounds). I mean, you know why dogs attack you? Well, the smart ones at least. They can smell a special chemical your body produces when you are tense, kinda like sweat and they think you are probably doing something wrong, otherwise why would you be tense? See where this is going? Don't be afraid, the girl isn't going to bite you .... Well, sometimes they do, hahaha.

Rule 7. Don't be too fast to tell anyone how you feel, she might be just testing or playing you.

Rule 8. Don't be ashamed if there isn't a girl next to you. Ush ulni, nush ulni. Fast and furious doesn't always get you to the finish line.

Rule 9. You are NOT a loser. Don't practice that line, remember it. You have no idea how dumb some people behind those fancy wheels are. Don't think they are all great flirters and all. Most were all like you and still are. Girls just play with them most of the time because of their money. They started up dating very lightly and then became what they are. They most have gone through what you have, anyways. And remember, you have something most girls want. That which money can't buy. You can start out as anyone you want, those rich kids can't. Hope you get my point. Many people also simply get lucky so don't think they are all perfect flirters.

Rule 10. Don't wait for a girl to come to you at all times. Have fun and people will notice you more. That doesn’t mean drink and smoke weed. Don't just wait OR search for girls with a magnifying glass.

Rule 11.

Don't refer to them as "chicks"

Definitely. I can’t even get myself to say that. Babe and baby can be used after a few dates but not the first time. Chick can be used after you know her personality, which you can’t know on the first day really well.

Rule 12. There will come a time when you’ll have to start talking, whether in a club or bar. Be honest and never be embarrassed. Maybe say it in a funny way if you are. My family laughs a thousand times a day because of my jokes. When I make a mistake, I accept it and I reply in a way that they both acknowledge that and laugh at the same time. It all comes down to words, bro. You have to learn to talk, more then dance, which is also important, no doubts there. If you can make a girl laugh, you are someone interesting in her life or at least more interesting then all the other guys in the city she doesn’t know. That’s a great step. Most laughs don’t come from jokes though, they mostly come from talking or saying pickup-lines at the right times. Don’t practice that, just be mentally ready for anything. Be ready for the worst, not the best.

Rule 13. Screw the rules. Be yourself and appreciate yourself no matter if you have hair or not. There are people who don’t have half of what you have but talk to girls a lot. How did they do it? Do things you would be proud of yourself and don’t be afraid to walk up to a girl and invite her to do something, EVEN IF SHE BACKS DOWN AND GIGGLES. Remember that. I know how bad it feels when you approach a pack of girls and they all giggle, making you feel like an ass. It’s like a test. If you get the balls to approach them and speak your mind, you’ve got cohunes. If they reject you, just smile, and walk off, acting casual the rest of the evening. That very same girl who rejected you may come and apologize, it happens. Those clubs are like exams and if you aren’t yourself, you will be soon enough. Many girls sense that.

Oh, and before I forget. Don’t get too happy when girls think you’re hot. It makes it more difficult for you to impress them. The better your standards, the more they expect. That’s why, try your best and never think you’re the best. Girls sense A LOT, that’s very important to remember. Also, they definitely like someone who can smile, NOT show-off, and be able to stand up for himself. If they see you can’t, how can you stand up for them?

Final words. Learn from your mistakes and don’t be afraid to make them. Those who don’t try don’t do anything at all. Be a conversationist (whether that’s a word or not) and have FUN. Going to a club isn’t supposed to be a chore.

Good luck, bro, and remember, you aren’t the only one in the club having a hard time. You aren’t the worst flirter in the world so never feel down or sh!t. Fear won’t get you a girl. Be happy, be clear, and be proud of who you are, never back down from that. All the best, hope I could help.

EDIT: Had to add this. Vig, we weren't here to humiliate you or make you feel disgraced. We've all gone through it, and we all will at different times. Practice makes perfect. I think I speak for the entire forum when we wish you luck in the future and it isn't strange to ask questions in forums, it's just strange to live by the answers. Your heart will never let you down and sorry if I sound like Dr. Phil, but it's true.