If you couldn't marry an Armenian.....

[Azad]

Re: If you couldn't marry an Armenian.....

Looser? not a big problem. I do not intend to marry with a female-husband.

Well said. Little she knows her early honeymoon will end before her marriage. Makes us wonder why she is on an Armenian forum since she found her temporary "female-husband". Do I get to pinch his azz too.

[yerazhishda]

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I agree with a lot that you have said in the above post, but let me ask you, is there any point in perserving the Armenian culture in the Diaspora, if we plan to make it our permanent home? Why should Armenians marry other Armenians, if they don't plan to repatriate?

In clearer terms: inchu hye bidi @llank yete hayrenikin gab m@ chunenk?

I think that the new Armenian communities (20~ years old) have a lot to learn from the older (80~ year old) Armenian-American communities: Armenianism in America turns culturally stagnant at best and a cultural wasteland at worst. Just come see the 'Armenians' over here in the northeast or even in your own backyard in Fresno. The new generation doesn't speak Armenian and they think being Armenian consists of eating baklava and pilaf and going to rabiz-infested and mugham-infested 'kefs'! Seriously! Is this what is worth going out of our way for and preserving? I would hope not.

There's an Armenian nation out there that needs help...should diasporan Armenians stand idly by enjoying fancy cars and homes?

[yerazhishda]

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You're twisting words and definitions around as if I didn't understand the point you were trying to get across. The point you were trying to get across was:

We have a choice in deciding whether we marry an Armenian or not.

Is this not correct? My question, in turn, was:

Why marry an Armenian, if you plan to make a life in the diaspora?

It was a valid question, yet somehow it too got 'bastardized' and interpreted as an attack on you or something. I don't know, nor do I care. All I know is that you are assuming some sort of 'high and mighty' position that is uncalled for and unbecoming of a young man such as yourself.

Needless to say, I think this could have been avoided by clearer definitions on both of our parts.

[jgk3]

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Anon implies that it is more important to satisfy the requirements of racial and cultural continuity than to repatriate. Repatriating just allows you to live in an environment or join a cause that could help you reach the former end perhaps, or to satisfy one's sentiment of nationalism. Though as he previously stated, he has a relative from Yerevan who chose to marry a Russian and this choice somehow managed to cripple the Armenian-ness that he wished to pass down on his children. This isn't necessarily what happens when you marry an odar, but the fact that it turned out this way, in Yerevan, should be rather eye-opening.

[TheGreat]

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The answer is simple, I would marry a Swedish girl ofcourse. Sweden is a great place where the grass is green and the girls are pretty

[Azad]

Re: If you couldn't marry an Armenian.....

The answer is simple, I would marry a Swedish girl ofcourse. Sweden is a great place where the grass is green and the girls are pretty

As I agree with you ... certain things should not be said to offend the opposite sex of our race. Your comment is as offensive as the gale that is happy humping a Polish guy.

[Anush]

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What about a Turk?

If an Armenian learned how to speak Japanese would that make him/her Japanese, and would the Japanese accept him/her as such?? I dont think so.

Regarding the initial "If you couldnt" question, in reality If I ever married there doesnt seem to be any lack of Armenian men in the society in which I live so its really not a realistic question for me.

BUT if I lived somewhere that there was a lack of an Armenian community I think it would be very difficult to marry an odar.

Even though I have been raised here in the states I have been raised in a very traditional family and would like to be able to raise children in the same manner in which I was raised. I would want my family to be united in nationality, language, culture, tradition and lets face it a way of life that in a traditional home is different from that of most odar.

I know people in mixed marriages of various combinations and unfortunatly what I have witnessed is not always a marriage of continued happiness after the initial newness wears off. Family pressures from both sides play on the emotions of both people, differences in tradition, culture, language seem to errupt into obsticles that cant be overcome. I am not saying this happens in all mixed marriages, but in general this is what I have witnessed.

I consider myself to be open minded, "worldly", educated and tolerant of others and most of the people that I associate would fall into that category as well. We might be the people that some say are too americanized, but at our cores and in our heart of hearts we stay within our people, we value what our parents have handed down to us, we are proud of who we are and we stay together as such.

These issues may not be the issues that others consider as important when seeking a partner outside thier own race and culture, it is just my own opinion.

[Azad]

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AnushA26 agree on everything you said. You are an excellent person a TRUE Armenian gale.

[Anush]

Re: If you couldn't marry an Armenian.....

AnushA26 agree on everything you said. You are an excellent person a TRUE Armenian gale.

Thank you Azad for your very nice comment!!

[Palavra]

Re: If you couldn't marry an Armenian.....

Odds are that the "Turk" we are talking about is really Greek and/or Armenian, genetically anyway.