Question for the Women

[PASAMONSTER]

Ehhhhhhh the young ones have so much yet to learn, so much pain to feel.

but this subject can't be learned from a teacher, a book. etc., it comes with experience and for each person its different.

[whitelotus]

Originally posted by jahannam you guys are so bleh.
and you're pissing me off.
how can silence be the solution for a question like "did you sleep with her?"
you guys are selfish...
so selfish that you'd rather someone stay freakin silent, LOOKING IN YOUR EYES,(which translates into lying when it comes to me) instead of hurting your feelings??? what kind of a life are you guys conducting?
tell you what... your feelings will be more secure if you just keep people out of your life. just live on your own.
what is this? some kind of a joke?
"either tell me you love me so that I'm happy, or lie to me cuz I dont wanna be sad"???
start thinking damit.

err the silence part WASNT for xxxx like ' did you sleep with her '
like i said , the silence issue is for something else that we were talking about, it has NOTHING to do with the lieing issue.

keeping silence is for stupid things, so that a relationship doesnt go down the tubes because you tell her every stupid little thing wrong with her.

like when they piss you off and you are fighting, you choose not to continue it, or stab them with heart wrenching insults. You keep silent, in order not to hurt the other person big time with something petty that you feel at the moment. You choose not to make it a bigger thing that it is, because later people are both going to be hurt.

as for the lieing issue, i said we should all be honest, because we cannot live a lie.

as for the silence issue, dont think we are saying ' stay silent' when someone asks you if you are having an affair, for example.
we were talking about something entirely different, we arent talking about saying nothing to the person and lieing.

what we were talking about was off topic, and had nothing to do with the original question the thread asks about.

we are talking about a entirely different ' silence' , so please dont mix them up

uff i give up
no matter how many times i explain, someones going to misunderstand

[jahannam]

you guys are so bleh.
and you're pissing me off.
how can silence be the solution for a question like "did you sleep with her?"
you guys are selfish...
so selfish that you'd rather someone stay freakin silent, LOOKING IN YOUR EYES,(which translates into lying when it comes to me) instead of hurting your feelings??? what kind of a life are you guys conducting?
tell you what... your feelings will be more secure if you just keep people out of your life. just live on your own.
what is this? some kind of a joke?
"either tell me you love me so that I'm happy, or lie to me cuz I dont wanna be sad"???
start thinking damit.

[PASAMONSTER]

see that shoud be the number one rule in a relationship

GOLDEN RULE #1 --shut the xxxx up and pretend you're listening.

all the guys are using this rule, so girls its you're turn to apply it


Hold on if thats the case then what happened to communication is the key to a good relationship. HUmmmmm we gonna have to find a new way to communicate.. any sugestions? LOLLL

I could alrady guess some peoples answers.

[whitelotus]

Originally posted by jahannam Jessica Simpson.


and about this thread...I also prefer the truth.

i dont think anything i said was anything close to jessica simpson / brain dead blondeish.

what i meant is, silence is not a lie.

sometimes we make small sacrifices to save a relationship, its not necissarily lieing to the person. we put up with little flaws in people because we love them. We dont always insult the person and tell them how annoying you find that flaw to be etc. There is always a better way of telling them instead of hurting them.

i guess im talking about something else completely... rather then lies.

honesty in a relationship is key.
but we dont always hurt people for stupid things we find wrong with them, we put up with it for the sake of the relationship and peace.

for example if you are having an arguement, sometimes one of the partners keeps silence, and doesnt insult the person back, in order to keep peace in the relationship, a small sacrifice for not insulting them with what you think. I think this is important to do at times for certain reasons.

i think what you guys are talking about are big lies that are false in a relationship. That i dont like. I rather get the truth then be lied to, with something that big.

but what im talking about is different, im talking about keeping silence on certain things for the good of the relationship between two people ' to zohel' .

*pats her light brown hair* *cough*

[Aphrodit3]

Truth-I'd rather deal with a few moments of pain rather than live a lie and later deal with the magnified version of that pain.

[loseyourname]

Funny that you mention in the principles thread how important honesty is to you. This is exactly my point. People are so weak that they will compromise their own ethical stances to appease their fickle emotions.

[SexyAries]

Truth hurts, if it's gonna hurt me i dont want to hear it. If you dont have something nice to say dont say it at all. Silence is a virtue.

[loseyourname]

Originally posted by sSsflamesSs Are you calling me a sissy?

I'd rather be hurt, then be commited to a superficial relationship.

I referred only to my own experience. Unless I am mistaken, I have never experienced you. If you truly do feel this way, then you are rare, and I am glad. I respect you 100 times more than the average woman.

[PASAMONSTER]

silence is not a lie

so its always good to keep yer trap shut!

exept for questions that should be answered automatically without delay not even a millisecond of delay.


Am I getting Fat---- No

Do you love me---- Yes

what are you looking at---- her shoes

do you take this woman...... yada yada-----you better not hesitate on this one God help you if you do.