Can guys and girls be friends?

[winoman]

Where did you get this definition? I find for example that the more successful marriages often involve couples that in addition to being lovers are best of friends. By the way, I hope you realize that you are basically saying only ugly girls can have friends of the opposite sex Now that's just plain silly ...

Well said Sip....(my - how did you manage such wisdom - )

I agree that this is exactly what Bruin is saying...(how little she understands [certain things about/aspects of] guys)...and how little credit she gives us sometimes eh?

[winoman]

Don't worry old man (you don't mind if I keep calling you that, do you? ), I go on plenty of dates with my boyfriend. I work during the day and while I am waiting for reactions to run I browse AC. So there! Have fun packing. Be a good Armenian and take your kids to Armenia too.

...guess I've been called worse...and been called a sort of varient of such recently...we'll see about Armenia..perhaps...

Unless you're not Armenian?

This is currently being debated on another forum....(but yeah...at least half anyway...even by the more descriminatory definition)

[winoman]

I hate it when a guy and a girl are extremely good friends and find eachother very attractive but they just remain friends. Why? For what stupid reason would you want it to be like this.

If the guy and the girl are that close and obviously love eachothers company because they are the best of friends and love doing things together and hanging out then why the hell shouldn't you just be together if you find the other attractive. You can't get a better girl or guy than that.

Yes - but sometimes it just doesn't work out - and/or there are other things going on that prevent it....circumstances and such - still - can be friends and good friends....(heck her folks wanted her to marry me! LOL - maybe thats part of why we never got together "that way" - she was/is a rebel!)

[anileve]

No one said they needed to make a lifelong committment to each other. Can't they just get it on every now and then as long as both are single?

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[loseyourname]

One rule can't apply to 6 billion people.

Except the rule that all people should marry within their own ethnicity, right Fire?

[loseyourname]

1) Maybe one or both of them is married already?
2) Maybe their future goals are not compatible?
3) Maybe there are cultural, religious, and racial factors making it hard for them in society to be "together"?
4) Maybe they live geographically far apart?
5) Maybe one or both of them have significant commitments (like taking care of an elderly/sick parent/sibling) that makes it hard to be with someone else?
6) ...

No one said they needed to make a lifelong committment to each other. Can't they just get it on every now and then as long as both are single?

[HyeJinx1984]

when did i say the ugly thing???


hey, when a guy says he's your friend and has the hotts for ya to want to do you in an elevator...that is no 'friend'!


nope! i stand by what i say damn it!!
"if there is lust, there can be no true frienship"--'bruin

this changes sort of with married folks..they can be friendly i guess..cuz they have to worry about household chores and expenses and everyday stuff and not just hot nites and weekends

Well, everyone's different, you can't apply the same ideology to everyone. I know people who do have sex with their friends and don't seem to have a problem, and I know people who wait until their married. One rule can't apply to 6 billion people. All you can do is choose whatever philosophy on sex applies best to you.

[ckBejug]

Don't worry - we do plenty of all those things...right now I am sitting here paying some bills and checking various sites...kids are playing some games and are about to go to bed...We went camping last weekend BTW...and well Friday we'll be taking them to Europe for the better part of a month...and we are packing as well...so why aren't you out on a date or something?

Don't worry old man (you don't mind if I keep calling you that, do you? ), I go on plenty of dates with my boyfriend. I work during the day and while I am waiting for reactions to run I browse AC. So there! Have fun packing. Be a good Armenian and take your kids to Armenia too.

Unless you're not Armenian?

[dstyle]

In every relationship a guy and gal have, I believe there has been an attraction by one of the sides at least, if not both. Every friend that I have that is a girl, either I've been attracted to, or they've been attracted to me.

[Sip]

1. Obviously I'm talking about people that are not married.
2. Can you give me an example of future goals not being compatible? It would have to be something drastic to make them not be together.
3. Who cares what society thinks, if you love someone and are attracted to them, you're telling me you won't take it further because of what others might think?
4. I already said friends that enjoy eachothers company. I wasn't clear enough. I meant they see eachother often.
5. If you really love someone then that is an awful reason to not be with them.

2. One wants to form a family and have kids right away, the other is pursuing higher education, a career, or wants to travel before settling down.

3. In certain segments of society, that doesn't work. Just look at our more traditional "Armenian" culture where a girl is supposed to get married then move out of the house. Or just picture an interracial couple ... mexican guys get shot in Glendale for going out with Armenian girls and vice versa so don't tell me "what others think" doesn't matter in this world.

4. People these days can "see" each other often by traveling frequently, using internet/video conferencing, but still not live close enough to form the kind of relationship you are talking about. Believe me, I know.

5. If you really love someone, you may not want to burden them with your personal hardships ... it's not always as clean and clear cut as romance novels .... people have serious problems in life that you can't just dismiss and say just because there is love, the problems don't matter. How can you say having serious personal commitments to others is an "aweful" reason to put "love" (and personal hapiness) aside and focus on the more important things in life? Believe it or not, there are those in this world that put others and their needs above their own and they should be admired for it.