Can guys and girls be friends?

[dusken]

Oh yeah? Why don't you just shut up then?

Because I am too charitable and humanistic by nature to effect such deprivation.

[anileve]

Anileve, youre my new rolemodel.

Well don't get me wrong I am immensely flattered, but what exactly lead you to that conclusion? Will you please feed my ego, it's a bit starved lately.

[winoman]

except for very few rare cases...TRUE SINCERE friendship in its most PURE form is next to impossible to have with the opposite sex!!!
someone always develops something for the other person...that's just the way it goes...

I don't agree. And what if one has a "thing" for the other person...whats wrong with that? (or even if they both have a thing for each other - but choose to just be friends because of circumstances/other involvements...can happen you know...) It doesn't even mean that anything will happen...or that anyone even really wants it to happen...it could just be sexual attraction...and that is natural...or it could even be love....even in the latter case (or either) it doesn't at all have to mean a sexual relationship...or even if it does...there are cases where the friendship could still be the paramount factor in the relationship....I know because I've been there...

[anileve]

It is apparent from this thread that I was right and some can do it and others cannot. However if everyone wants to keep going back and forth with their rock solid, highly educated, anthropologically sound arguments supporting absolutes, there is entertainment to be gained from it.

Oh yeah? Why don't you just shut up then?

[dusken]

It is apparent from this thread that I was right and some can do it and others cannot. However if everyone wants to keep going back and forth with their rock solid, highly educated, anthropologically sound arguments supporting absolutes, there is entertainment to be gained from it.

[Tres Bien]

Anileve, youre my new rolemodel.

And as dusken said- its depends on the person, some can have freinds of the opposite sex and some cannot without having other things in mind, like , taking advantage of you.

[hyebruin]

except for very few rare cases...TRUE SINCERE friendship in its most PURE form is next to impossible to have with the opposite sex!!!
someone always develops something for the other person...that's just the way it goes...

[winoman]

Too racy for me. You are exactly one of those guys I stay far from. You are....how should I say this....too extravagant for my little mind. DAAANGER!

shame...

...and just because I may lust for you (hypothetically of course) - doesn't mean we couldn't still be (platonic) friends...

[anileve]

I have one very long time (female) friend - who was just gorgeous (and still is!) - that I often flirt with. At one time I was very interested (and she knew it...and an interesting aside - I had a girlfriend who was also very attracted to her and who encouraged me to make something work out for the 3 of us ...never did though..I actually presented/offered...but...she wasn't interested...ah well..would have been great fun...)

I also have been able to maintain good (platonic) relations with some of my ex's - 2 are still good friends....sometimes there is still a bit of flirting and even touching/kisses etc and affection and such - and attraction on this level - but never more...I would be lying if I said I still didn't have (perhaps) interest in more...

Too racy for me. You are exactly one of those guys I stay far from. You are....how should I say this....too extravagant for my little mind. DAAANGER!

[winoman]

I have always wondered about this and I dare not ask my guy friends for obvious reasons. Would men refuse a sexual offer from an attractive, close platonic friend? I cannot be just friends with someone who I find sexually attractive, it always leads to different path, thus I would never ever have a fling with anyone of my friends. Although, some of my male friends are my ex boyfriends, but once again I don’t feel even slightly attracted to them anymore. Men, on the other hand for some reason can be great friends with a woman and if she is attractive and decides to break the rules they will gladly welcome the opportunity without being afraid that it might ruin things in the future.

I have one very long time (female) friend - who was just gorgeous (and still is!) - that I often flirt with. At one time I was very interested (and she knew it...and an interesting aside - I had a girlfriend who was also very attracted to her and who encouraged me to make something work out for the 3 of us ...never did though..I actually presented/offered...but...she wasn't interested...ah well..would have been great fun...)...so nothing ever happened between us...she was never attracted to me (that way) - seemngly (and I never really pushed it - beyond flirts and suggestions etc) and she ussually was in other relationships anyway - etc...but we always had fun together (and still do)...and are still very good friends...

I also have been able to maintain good (platonic) relations with some of my ex's - 2 are still good friends....sometimes there is still a bit of flirting and even touching/kisses etc and affection and such - and attraction on this level - but never more...I would be lying if I said I still didn't have (perhaps) interest in more...but its not serious as my situation is not condusive to it and the interest certainly isn't great enough to risk anything...etc