Can guys and girls be friends?

[ckBejug]

Maybe it's because you're not attractive.

Do you say what people might be thinking in real life too, or only online?

[spiral]

Apparently it's all I can be. I don't get it.. girls say they want guys to be nice and sensitive, then you find one and end up treating him like a cute little brother rather than going out with them. What's the problem? Maybe I should start being more of an a$$hole.

Maybe it's because you're not attractive.

[HyeJinx1984]

Well I'm late to the game and I like complaining. Heh, 'late' and 'complaining'... how Armenian...

[ckBejug]

Apparently it's all I can be. I don't get it.. girls say they want guys to be nice and sensitive, then you find one and end up treating him like a cute little brother rather than going out with them. What's the problem? Maybe I should start being more of an a$$hole.

That's another topic we've beaten to death.

[dusken]

Apparently it's all I can be. I don't get it.. girls say they want guys to be nice and sensitive, then you find one and end up treating him like a cute little brother rather than going out with them. What's the problem? Maybe I should start being more of an a$$hole.

Maybe you should understand the topic at hand before posting.

[HyeJinx1984]

Apparently it's all I can be. I don't get it.. girls say they want guys to be nice and sensitive, then you find one and end up treating him like a cute little brother rather than going out with them. What's the problem? Maybe I should start being more of an a$$hole.

[dusken]

It is my opinion that it is possible for some and not possible for others.

[ckBejug]

The "ladder theory" is fundamentally flawed as it assumes (incorrectly) that you can't be friends with someone you want to have sex with.

Maybe I should make a correction in my initial post with the question. My question is can guys and girls be friends and NOT WANT ANYTHING FROM EACHOTHER SEXUALLY, and NOT BE ATTRACTED TO EACHOTHER SEXUALLY. I have guy friends I am sexually attracted to, in fact all through college I had plenty of these friends. There were no physical 'benefits' per se, other than someone to hang out with and flirt with, drink with, all good clean fun, whatever. My point is, looking beyond that kind of friendship to the point where you are, for example, in a relationship with a gf or a bf and you still have these friends of the opposite sex that at some point in your life you used to be attracted to but for whatever reason you're not anymore... Can you guys still be friends without it hurting your relationship or is there always going to be some kind of sexual attraction because of the whole opposite sex thing? Altready a few people have demonstrated how they have these GREAT female friends, that they wouildn't mind going out with. Well they prove that friendship w/out sexual attraction isn't possible....

[Sip]

The "ladder theory" is fundamentally flawed as it assumes (incorrectly) that you can't be friends with someone you want to have sex with.

[ckBejug]

Yes they can be just friends.. but that doesnt mean on is not attracted to the other in a sexual way as well on a more deeper friendship level.. being attracted sexually is not bad...

If you have a female friend you'd possibly be sexually attracted to, then you can bet your girlfriend will NOT like that at all. On the other hand, if you haven't had, and do not have, a girlfriend, then NO PROBLEM if you have a female friend you're attracted to.