Can guys and girls be friends?

[anileve]

...guess I've been called worse...and been called a sort of varient of such recently...we'll see about Armenia..perhaps...



This is currently being debated on another forum....(but yeah...at least half anyway...even by the more descriminatory definition)

Don't pay attention to any of them. But you are still a little perve, it shall forever be stamped on your forehead.

[Sip]

Well said Sip....(my - how did you manage such wisdom - )

I think I am slowly getting into your old/experienced category ... and you know what? It ain't so bad!

[Sip]

No one said they needed to make a lifelong committment to each other. Can't they just get it on every now and then as long as both are single?

That was in reply to omniscient asking why they can't be "together" ... length of time hasn't been in the picture up to this point. I was listing circumstances under which a male and a female that might be strongly attracted to each other can't be "together".

Being "together" means a lot more than just getting it on

[gevo]

In every relationship a guy and gal have, I believe there has been an attraction by one of the sides at least, if not both. Every friend that I have that is a girl, either I've been attracted to, or they've been attracted to me.

OK WAIIIITTTT!!!! EVERYONE JUST SLOOW DOWN>> I HAVE A QUESTION!!!!!

here it is.. i have said this before;;;;;>> I see a difference between being sexually attracted to a friend, vs. A friend IS sexually attractive *(well for the most part we can take that as fact if someone is sexually attractive or not, maybe if we get too radical we can say it is relative to who is stating the claim.. but nonetheless)* do u guys see this difference???
See i have older friend of the opposite sex who dang well are very "sexy" and "hot".. but i am NOT!!! **got that? NOT* sexually attractid to them in the sense to WANT to have sex with them.. now.. i know this is a little hard to seperate.. but.. here is another thing i should state.. i beleive though that if everything is just wrong *as aposed to right* the situation the place the mood.. and two friens though not sexually attracted yet they do think the other is sexually attractive.. may fall into temptation for pure pleasure and have sex.. now.. lol. hope i didnt confuse anyone.. im barley following my own train of thaught here.. lol

[dusken]

Shut up loser. i hate you!........ and NO!

Wow. That was fun. Let us do it again.

[gevo]

No one said they needed to make a lifelong committment to each other. Can't they just get it on every now and then as long as both are single?

Shut up loser. i hate you!........ and NO!

[ckBejug]

...guess I've been called worse...and been called a sort of varient of such recently...we'll see about Armenia..perhaps...



This is currently being debated on another forum....(but yeah...at least half anyway...even by the more descriminatory definition)

My definiton of 'Armenian' if it can be called that and if 'being Armenian' can be defined as such, is a lot more forgiving than most...

Consider Armenia, it's a beautiful experience...

[ckBejug]

hey, when a guy says he's your friend and has the hotts for ya to want to do you in an elevator...that is no 'friend'!

I had a guy friend who had the hots for me (apparently). He kissed me and it freaked me out a teensy bit because I wasn't sure if I wanted that to happen..... He is my boyfriend now, and still one of my best friends.

Sometimes it works out, I guess. I find that relationships built with friendship as a foundation work really well (for me) because there is already a mutual love and respect for eachother and, like Omni said, you already know you mesh well and love spending time with each other...

The problem I have is that because it has been my experience (twice now) that the good friendship I have with a guy has developed into something more (not friends with benefits, mind you, actual relationships) I am overly cautious about the fact that my current boyfriend, in turn, has various other female friends that I feel like I should be leery of. The history here is that one of my ex boyfriends 'friends' slept with him (because I wouldn't and it was a shaky long-distance relationship, etc...) and ended my last relationship... Even though I trust the new guy there is still my history that makes me have an issue with his other female friends, albeit a small issue...

[angelik22]

heres what i can say from expereince... i have alot of guy friends- but i dont hang uot with them as much- on a regular basis, so i know thatwhen you do spend alot of time with a friend whose the opposite sex- things happen... becaue come on- friends are peopel we share things in common with- and who better than a friend of the opposite sex to consider for a relationship- i myself think that beingfriends with someone before getting into a relationship is good, because you get to knwo the person on a different level...but yet again- i dont see myself with any of my guy friends- maybe thats because i dont spend too much time with them for anythign to happen- but i do believe that two people of the opposite sex can be friends-- just friends...but if they spend too much time together-- things will elad to more tahn friendship

[winoman]

hey, when a guy says he's your friend and has the hotts for ya to want to do you in an elevator...that is no 'friend'!

sounds like it was an unpleasent experience for you - and thats understandable...and I agree - not right - you are right to be upset...but still - don't generalize...