Theories of Love

[loseyourname]

Originally posted by anileve I don't understand the concept of controlling who you chose to fall in love with. If the statement is true then it is also true that you can condition yourself to fall in love as well. People seem to accept one theory without a consideration and acceptance of the other. Love is indeed an act of harboring ones selfishness by allowing the illusion of altruism . It is the idea of love that we fall in love with, not the person. The reason why you might fall in love or love someone is because in the essence that person makes you feel wonderful about yourself, the feeling that the person gives you, rather than just the need to compromise your interests with an absolute indifference to the self-gain, in which case it isn't love for every human action unconsciously seeks self gratification.

Love is not an empirical matter, it is one formula that cannot be explained or controlled. Our existence revolves around various definitions of love and if one would be able to control love then it would mean that it is no longer a necessity to function in which case it would invalidate our existence.

You're mistaking the whole point of this thread. What you describe is the act of falling in love, not the act of loving. They are two separate things. One is a feeling, the other is an action. The two need not coincide. The feeling is not quantifiable, as it is a feeling, and as such is intangible to anyone but the feeler. The action is not the same.

[Wise]

Excuse me? May i have your Pardon?

Loseyourname- The Supreme Wisdom whose distinctive name is Wise and here i go ...if you are not in the act of LOVE you will never and EVER describe the act of falling in love.To describe something means YOU understood something and in your thread you just stopped the sense when you put the contrast in between the act of falling in love and the act of loving...To do the action you have to feel it on your body, in your neorons system!! You cant express if you dont feel it! so here is my emlightment and descernment to you my friend.What is love?I never knew until a special person came and whispered something in my ear SHe whispered something so softly these whispering words I’ve never heard these words not going in one ear and out the other just going in and straight to my heart.These words never left me they pondered in my thoughts wondering what to do and what to whisper back.I never had this feeling I never felt this kind of warmth never felt a touch like HERS nor the closeness that we shared I thought and thought of words to say words that would mean the same as the words SHE once whispered words that would lead straight to HER heart after being in HER loving arms.SHE hold me and me holding HER never wanting those moment to pass always wanting this to last...so all i want to say is that YOU have to feel the whole meaning of word not only hear about it or study about it!thats not enough and with all my convinience i really appriciate for this communication...
Wise

[loseyourname]

You can very easily separate the action from the feeling. You can behave in a loving manner toward something or someone without having any feelings whatsoever, good or bad. There is usually a correlation, granted, but there need not be. Furthermore, they are two distinct entities. One is a state of mind, and the other is a certain behavior that may or may not be dictated by that state of mind. If you not going to grant that a person can love something without being in love, certainly you will grant that one may act in a hateful manner toward an object of great affection. This is the dichotomy I am attempting to highlight.

All too often it is the feeling that is strived for. A person aims to be in love, rather than to love. You look for a certain person that makes you feel a certain way. I don't feel that is the correct to go about it. I think we should be looking for someone that we can love, whose growth can be fostered, and thinking primarily of what we can offer that person. You are speaking more of being loved.

[anileve]

Originally posted by loseyourname You're mistaking the whole point of this thread. What you describe is the act of falling in love, not the act of loving. They are two separate things. One is a feeling, the other is an action. The two need not coincide. The feeling is not quantifiable, as it is a feeling, and as such is intangible to anyone but the feeler. The action is not the same.

No my dear I am not mistaking the point of the thread, rather I was addressing Anons words:

Anonymouse:So since we agree that there is mind over body, I will never allow myself to fall in love with a non-Armenian.

In this case I was referring to the act of falling in love, I don't see how I misconstrued the point of the thread.

[spiral]

Re: Excuse me? May i have your Pardon?

Originally posted by Wise Loseyourname- The What is love?I never knew until a special person came and whispered something in my ear SHe whispered something so softly these whispering words I’ve never heard these words not going in one ear and out the other just going in and straight to my heart.These words never left me they pondered in my thoughts wondering what to do and what to whisper back.I never had this feeling I never felt this kind of warmth never felt a touch like HERS nor the closeness that we shared I thought and thought of words to say words that would mean the same as the words SHE once whispered words that would lead straight to HER heart after being in HER loving arms.SHE hold me and me holding HER never wanting those moment to pass always wanting this to last...so all i want to say is that YOU have to feel the whole meaning of word not only hear about it or study about it!thats not enough and with all my convinience i really appriciate for this communication...
Wise

oh, geee, tell us what she whishpered in your here... woulda ya'

[PASAMONSTER]

Wise, you are fool, but the luckiest fool i know and I would give countless lifetimes just to feel how you feel for one second.


I'm happy someone still has the spirit of Love!

[Wise]

GOD IS LOVE so am iI

[Wise]

Thank YOU PASAMONSTER!!!! You are my kind on this forum... Love makes you feel special...

[Wise]

Children Deserve to Be Wanted and Loved

Love and You will Loved Back!

"GIVE a little love to a child, and you get a great deal back." So wrote the 19th-century English writer and critic John Ruskin. Probably most parents will agree that it pays to love one's children, not only because of the love received in return but, more important, because of the positive effect this love will have on them.
The book Love and Its Place in Nature observed, for example, that without love "children tend to die." And Ashley Montagu, noted British-born anthropologist, went so far as to say: "The child who has not been loved is biochemically, physiologically, and psychologically very different from the one who has been loved. The former even grows differently from the latter."

"Children raised without being regularly hugged, caressed or stroked . . . have abnormally high levels of stress hormones." Indeed, physical neglect during infancy "can have serious long-range effects on learning and memory."

These findings emphasize the need for the physical presence of parents. Otherwise, how can strong ties develop between parent and child? But sorry to say, even in affluent parts of the world, the tendency now is to try to supply a child's needs apart from his or her parents. Children are sent away to school, sent away to Sunday school, sent away to work, sent away to summer camp, and given money and sent away to places of recreation. Thrust out of the family nucleus, circling in orbit at a distance, as it were, millions of children naturally come to feel—if only subconsciously—neglected, unwanted, and unloved, surrounded by a hostile world of grown-ups. Such a prevailing feeling among children may be one reason why there are an estimated 3,000 street children in Berlin. Typical is young Micha, who said: "No one wanted me anymore." A nine-year-old German boy similarly complained: "I would rather be our dog."

Love is all we got

[sleuth]

That was the mission of Jesus...show humans the real love...everything HE did and said ,we can conclude in one word LOVE.HE showed love ,HE taught love and HE preached love.LOVE will save the world.

wise do you know Ruskin?hmmmm....

I love this forum ...full of surprises.