Need some help...

[Crimson Glow]

I know there is this whole preserving the culture thing but if you are going out with someone who emraces/loves your culture because it is such a big part of you, why should it matter if he's/she's not Armenian? I know some white guys who actually went so far as to LEARN Armenian so that the parents of the Armenian girls they were dating would be more welcoming to them. I think that unless a parent REALLY gets strong negative feelings towards a person, they shouldn't judge him/her based only on the fact that he/she is not Armenian!

Yeah...well....newsflash, Bejug, bejan. How things should be is a lot different then what Armenians actually do. Perhaps you are a rare exception, but that whole embracing non-Armenians thing doesn't happen too often. Being non-Armo will provide all the "strong negative feelings towards a person" they need. Even if the parents don't lock you in a basement, or can't stop you, they're never comfortable with it. If my parents could tell me no dating non Armenians in a place WHERE AREMENIANS HAVE NEVER EVEN BEEN HEARD OF, I highly doubt that doing it somewhere where Armenians are readily availiable is going to be too accepted. I didn't say it's the way it should be. Obviously it's retarded thinking. But it's the way it is. Heh...sounds like the Bob Fissel book.

*On an off topic side note: Oh, incidentally, I have several friends that take interest in the culture. One keeps giving me links to stuff he finds on the net, like "usefull Armenian swears", which he'll use out of the clear blue on IM. He even went so far as to look up my last name on some database thingy at work, and then reported to me "did you know that there are only 3 sets of families in the entire US with your last name (one being us, the other is my Grandma in Glendale, and a family in....CT )? And you're one of only 3 males (one obviously being my dad, who's hopefully done making babies), so if you're going to keep the name going, you'd better get busy!" Yes....he's wierd like that....

[Anonymouse]

I wouldn't want my daughter to date any black and white guys like me.

[Hogg]

Damn right Dan. Fight for your right like the Beastie Boys and fight the power like Public Enemy.

Rapper style.

[DvlzAdvocate]

For some reason this sounds awfulllly damn familiar. But anyway my suggestions are...

Don't kiss her infront of them
Don't make jokes, especially sex jokes and bad american jokes (which is every american joke)
Don't talk about anything that has to do with anything sexual
Don't try to think you know everything about Armenians
Listen!!!!!!!!
If the dad makes a joke laugh even if it wasn't funny
If they offer you food or anything, don't take it right away, say no thank you, if they offer twice say thank you and take it
You can hold her hand but not tooooo much
Be honest, explain to them how much you love, care and will take care of their daughter and tell them how you understand their feelings
And try to learn how to say hello and goodbye in armenian and other things like yes and no and thank you etc..., its a big plus to speak.
Other than that you should do good!

[nLuvWitArmo]

Well jus alittle update, ive visited her house and eventhough her parents are being punks to me- it seems like the still somewhat arn't accepting me? Her father atleast introduced himself while her mother probably said 3 words the whole day i was there, she seemed in a bad mood, over what? i dont know. Possibly me. I havnt really gone outta my way to talk to them and they havnt either but oh well im in their house and in love with their daughter, so if they dont want to know who their daughter will be spending alot of time with thats their bad! I would jus like to thank everyone for their help!! Im still here for 4 more days so maybe they will come around.. who knows.

[Anonymouse]

Okay, I still think this is bullshyt.

[violette829]

LOL Dude, you need some help. Give them time to adjust. If their other daughter is dating a black guy, your chances are pretty good. I guess you're lucky that you came across a more "mixed" Armenian family. Thank your lucky stars you're not dating Kenkoush Mesropyan from Hollywood, CA.

[Tres Bien]

I guess your ´girlfriends family just wants to protect their dauther. I know my family is like that, it doesnt matter what colour you are or if youre an American / or Swede, or armenian, as long as your a guy .. ,they often get very over-protective. At least my family is like that . waht can you do

[Anonymouse]

Look at all these bourgeois kids who think they know something.

[dusken]

Look at all these bourgeois kids who think they know something.

This is just bourgeois music that is being fed to the masses to keep them from thinking about the working class, that's all.

People are just precious when they learn new words.