Lets get married!!! Lets wait.

[SagGal]

I was on the phone with a friend today and she told me that one of our friends (18 years old) is engaged to be married. It shocked me since she's only been going out with her boyfriend for a few months and that she's only 18. This just got me thinking. What is a reasonable time for a couple to be ready for marriage? A day? A week? A month? A year?

How long would it take you to pop the question or to say, "Yes"?

[sSsflamesSs]

Needless to say, the time frame varies from person to person. For me, I'd say at least a year. I wouldn't want to be looking at a divorce a few years after the marriage. Yea, year is good. At LEAST a year.

[Genuine_Stud]

I was on the phone with a friend today and she told me that one of our friends (18 years old) is engaged to be married. It shocked me since she's only been going out with her boyfriend for a few months and that she's only 18. This just got me thinking. What is a reasonable time for a couple to be ready for marriage? A day? A week? A month? A year?

How long would it take you to pop the question or to say, "Yes"?

The "reasonable time" varies with each couple. You really can't say "Oh, after about x amount of months or years... it should be fine"

You gotta ask yourself:

- Is the chemistry there?
- How have you handled yourselves after a few arguments.... did you hold a grudge or did you both learn from it?
- How does your b/f or g/f act in front of your friends?
- Are you secured financially for both of your futures?
- Have both parents met each others parents and did they have the same/conflicting views on culture, life, and other things?
- Have you been on trips together and how has your b/f or g/f acted?

and probably many other things I'm probably forgetting.

The point is... YOU REALLY HAVE TO KNOW THE PERSON.
You're going to spend the rest of your life married to that personality. When all the beauty fades, can you deal with that personality you married?

Marriage is not a joke, it's a beatiful thing... but with it comes a lot of responsibilities on both parties. Frankly, 18 is a very bad age to get married.

The ideal age should be after 24 or 25 years of age. Most people have matured by then, are secure with themselves, and know exactly what they're looking for in a partner.

[hyebruin]

haha like judge judy says: "beauty fades, but stupid is forever!"....that woman is hillarious!

i'd say AT LEAST a year to two!! if you wanna be happy later on!

[gevo]

As soon as you meet the mother in law, you will know if you wanna marry now or later.. sadly this is too true.. and not a minute before should you make your decision..

[MARAL]

HOw old is the guy?

[Anonymouse]

Everyone should wait until marriage to get married.

[MARAL]

Everyone should wait until marriage to get married.

Thank goodness you're here to point out the obvious!

[Anonymouse]

Yes my dear, I live for the obvious things such as remembering to flush the toilet after I am done.

[leo007]

HOw old is the guy?

78. Will turn 79 in 2 months. Oh,and he's an oil tycoon.