Being in love

[ckBejug]

Ddddd-dear ddddd-diarrrry,

what does it feel like to be "in love" ?
i was discussing this with a friend of mine, but i still cant fully grasp it...
well i know what its liek to like someone, or have a "thing" for someone, but i dont think i know how it feels like to actually love someone romantically- yeah i do love my parents and family/close friends, but that's different...
ive heard alot of thiings like, you cant take your eyes off the person, you take my breath away, i cant live without you, you are my everything... but that all seems tooo cliche' i just want to know how it feels... its just something that i have yet to learn i guess, m just confused at what is actual love and what is just a fling/a crush...lust..its weird becausel i knwo the difference between them, but it seems too cliche-as i said before.... aaaaaaaa screw this!! im out

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dear diary,

hmmm how can i describe this to angelik...ahhh dear, 'being in love' as most people experience is a temorary state of fantasy (at least in the beginnig, then it tones down a bit and you still may be very much into the person) it's a state where it's more about YOU than it is about the other person...it's a time when YOU make the other person bigger than life than they really are and give then more positive qualities than they probably deserve and vehemently choose to ignore and become blind to their flaws and shortcomings...one thing's for sure!!!! the first love is often the deepest and the hardest to get over and losing it is worse than death and grief itself...after that experience you don't really love anyone as deeply as you 'loved' that first person, rather you love more wisely and don't get carried away by emotions, rather YOU lead and decide where emotions may take you; you become more resilient and can 'get over people' ohhh so much quicker (all thanks to all the pain you went through the first time your heart was shattered)---once the initial 'love' /in love phase comes to a close, then you get to know the person and if reality matches closely to your infatuation/fascination with that person then the relationships stands a chance, and if not..then bette luck next time!

Wow, how much do I DISAGREE with just about everything you said Bruin. Sounds like you've been hurt bad. Hey, I've been there! But I still think being in love again will be the most wonderful, REAL, feeling in the world. Pretty much the only thing I agree with you on is that 'first love is the hardest to get over...'. The rest of what you said just sounds too damn cynical.

[IvyLipstick]

Wow, how much do I DISAGREE with just about everything you said Bruin. Sounds like you've been hurt bad. Hey, I've been there! But I still think being in love again will be the most wonderful, REAL, feeling in the world. Pretty much the only thing I agree with you on is that 'first love is the hardest to get over...'. The rest of what you said just sounds too damn cynical.

I was once in love and I got hurt and since it is my birthday I will cry if I want to and have a good reason.

[ckBejug]

I was once in love and I got hurt and since it is my birthday I will cry if I want to and have a good reason.

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[Tres Bien]

To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage.
-- Lao Tzu

[violette829]

This all sounds like a bunch of dog poo to me. If you "love" someone, it has to be a mutual feeling. Meaning, the person must feel the same about you! All love between men and women are artificial....they fade. The only true love that I know is the love felt by parent for a child.

[HyeJinx1984]

There are usually three situations when it comes to love.

1) Both people love each other and everything is great. I think we all want this one

2) You are madly in love, but the other person isn't and you get rejected. This hurts yes, but time heals, you get over it and find someone else.

3) Two people love each other, but due to forces outside of their control they can never be together, but the same time can't see anyone else because they really really love each other. This is the absolute worse thing to feel in the world... why'd I have to get stuck with No. 3?

[dstyle]

"Love, its a mother ****er"

[IvyLipstick]

Love is sometimes mistaken for extreme blind lust, hence why I hate it.

[sad_eyes]

Love in all its forms is evil and pure, right and wrong, good and bad, and yet strangely enough it can be the most liberated feeling. Either way, we cannot live with and without it.

[hyebruin]

This all sounds like a bunch of dog poo to me. If you "love" someone, it has to be a mutual feeling. Meaning, the person must feel the same about you! All love between men and women are artificial....they fade. The only true love that I know is the love felt by parent for a child.

YESSS!!! so true!! sad, but true!