What matters most?

[Stark Evade]

Liking someone for his or her personality is no less superficial than liking a person for his or her looks. As a matter of fact, superficiality is an illusion. Looks, sense of humor, kindness, etc.... all of these are just different aspects of a person and giving one more credibility than the other (or claiming you do) does not make yoiu more virtuous or less "superficial." This reminds me of talk shows I've seen where you have some guy and his girlfriend and the girlfriend weighs about 350lbs. He says something like "I think she's beautiful" and every moron in the audience claps. What the hell is that? Is everyone supposed to be like this guy? Is everyone supposed to have the same preferences? Is he a better person? No! If he is intimate with her and finds her beautiful than he is no less superficial than someone who finds a model to be beautiful. And don't give me any of this "I don't care about looks" nonsense. I don't need to care about looks to love someone either but I need to be sexually attracted to someone if I'm going to be intimate with her. This is a part of nature. It's what animals are. Sexuality isn't a bad thing and sexual attraction isn't either. It is just as valid and just as virtuous as any other judgment yoiu pass on another human being.

[gevo]

I dont think i can love someone as my wife if i wasnt at all physically attracted to her. I may love a person for their heart, regardless of their looks etc... but if i am not attracted to someone sexually/romantically then i wont be myself around her and that is mostly based on physical attraction. again, i may be friends and love a person for who they are regardless of their looks, but for my wife there has to be that extra level of attraction

[SagGal]

You can develop physical attraction towards someone because of their personality. It happens, I know.

[sleuth]

You can develop physical attraction towards someone because of their personality. It happens, I know.

I can say that, its based on my personal experience.Being way too much emotional creatures ,girls are still more practical.

Physical appeariance is evaporating with time.Personality is a developing process.

Personally i developed physical attraction towords someone because of his sublime personality.

[gevo]

You can develop physical attraction towards someone because of their personality. It happens, I know.

well.. not with seaphans picture.. but it can..

as in, at first you may think.. ummm well.. ok. i gues not "ugly" but then when the person prooves him/herself as one with great caraco, and an interesting person all around to be with, then yes u begin to see "him/her" instead of "his/her" body

[hyebruin]

...Sexuality isn't a bad thing and sexual attraction isn't either....

noooo!!! thanks for pointing that out, now i can rid myself of all this guilt

[sleuth]

well.. not with seaphans picture.. but it can..

Sip has been driven to extremities....golden middle folk

[gevo]

Sip has been driven to extremities....golden middle folk

*scoot over!* ahh thanks, ill stand here in the middle myself

[SagGal]

....golden middle folk

Kto pa seredinke, szhenitsya na svinke. That used to sound so cool to me. haha.

[sleuth]

Kto pa seredinke, szhenitsya na svinke. That used to sound so cool to me. haha.

Gde moya svinya???