What matters most?

[hyebruin]

That's a lie, and you know it.

yes! you are 100% accurate, i don't buy it either.

[sad_eyes]

Believe what you want.

I live my life according to what I believe. I do not want people to look at me and not want to be with me because I may be not attractive in thier eyes, so I dont do it to others. If you choose to think I am lieing, then go ahead, it is your decision, but I assure you on Gods holy name that I am not lieing. Why would I, when it is something I know is truley accurate for me? The physical appearance cannot make me happy. The physical appearance cant make me feel love, it cant comfort me, and tell me it loves me, it cant give me a family. It never has and never will. Believe me, I have dated some unattractive guys in the past because their hearts were good,and have had awsome personalities and they have been good relationships too. They just happened to end because Ive moved away or family interfierance, etc. I am not saying I dont appreciate the beauty some men have in this world. In fact I can assure you I am in awe of it sometimes (tarkan..hehe ) but what people have to realize is that there is so much more beauty in people, even the "ugly" that lies beyond the physical appearance. I am just being honest. So please, dont try to put your thoughts and personals ways and lable them onto me. I dont appreciate it.

And on a lighter note, I finally figured out how to crop my picture enough for the avatar. Took me a while because of my stupid computer. Not that no one cares, but what the heck, just felt like shouting that out.

[Anonymouse]

I live my life according to what I believe. I do not want people to look at me and not want to be with me because I may be not attractive in thier eyes, so I dont do it to others. If you choose to think I am lieing, then go ahead, it is your decision, but I assure you on Gods holy name that I am not lieing. Why would I, when it is something I know is truley accurate for me? The physical appearance cannot make me happy. The physical appearance cant make me feel love, it cant comfort me, and tell me it loves me, it cant give me a family. It never has and never will. Believe me, I have dated some unattractive guys in the past because their hearts were good,and have had awsome personalities and they have been good relationships too. They just happened to end because Ive moved away or family interfierance, etc. I am not saying I dont appreciate the beauty some men have in this world. In fact I can assure you I am in awe of it sometimes (tarkan..hehe ) but what people have to realize is that there is so much more beauty in people, even the "ugly" that lies beyond the physical appearance. I am just being honest. So please, dont try to put your thoughts and personals ways and lable them onto me. I dont appreciate it.

And on a lighter note, I finally figured out how to crop my picture enough for the avatar. Took me a while because of my stupid computer. Not that no one cares, but what the heck, just felt like shouting that out.

I believe your opinion truly epitomizes what we mean when we say humans are spiritual beings. Cheers.

[sad_eyes]

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[Sip]

I live my life according to what I believe. I do not want people to look at me and not want to be with me because I may be not attractive in thier eyes, so I dont do it to others. If you choose to think I am lieing, then go ahead, it is your decision, but I assure you on Gods holy name that I am not lieing. Why would I ....

Because:

[spiral]

How disturbingly ugly.

Thank you Seapahn, for proving that lovely point.

[thedebutante]

Because:

Point very well made. I mean, personality may be what makes you want to stay with a person, but it's the physical attraction that gets you to talk to them in the first place. Well, at least that's true in my case.

[sSsflamesSs]

For the record, I too believe that humans are spiritual beings, first and foremost.

That being said...

Sad_eyes, it wasn't my intention to upset you by what I said. Although we're spiritual beings (note to atheists: shut it!), you cannot deny that our physical form is a significant part of us. As shallow as it may be, people judge us based on it. Why do people wear clothing (even if the outside temperature is comfortable)? Why do we take pictures? Why do we groom ourselves? I could go on and on with the examples. Truth of the matter is, physical attraction, although not at the top of the list, is very important to the well-being of the relationship. Feeling that way does not make one shallow, as long as it's not the dominating factor in the relationship. Even the simple thing of posting your picture as your avatar (although it's a lovely picture, if I may say so myself)...why did you post it? I mean, physical appearance means nothing, right? Zero, neit, non.

[sad_eyes]

For the record, I too believe that humans are spiritual beings, first and foremost.

That being said...

Sad_eyes, it wasn't my intention to upset you by what I said. Although we're spiritual beings (note to atheists: shut it!), you cannot deny that our physical form is a significant part of us. As shallow as it may be, people judge us based on it. Why do people wear clothing (even if the outside temperature is comfortable)? Why do we take pictures? Why do we groom ourselves? I could go on and on with the examples. Truth of the matter is, physical attraction, although not at the top of the list, is very important to the well-being of the relationship. Feeling that way does not make one shallow, as long as it's not the dominating factor in the relationship. Even the simple thing of posting your picture as your avatar (although it's a lovely picture, if I may say so myself)...why did you post it? I mean, physical appearance means nothing, right? Zero, neit, non.

Thank you for the comment. I should have been more specific in saying that the physical appearance of others mean nothing to me. I am simply more interested in the heart. Yes, I cannot say my physical appearance means nothing. I worry about it and yes I try to look my best but truthfully it is not for others. I do it for myself, to make me feel good about myself. If others will think I am unattractive then so be it. I cannot please everyone. And to be honest, I dont really care. I am who I am. I am how God made me. What I am trying to say is for me, no makeup, no fashion or beauty products can make me beautiful. Or so I believe that natural beauty shines through anything I can wear or put on my face. God created us for higher purposes than our physical appearances. I understand your point of view though, so please do not think I am not aware of it.... I know its crazy, but its just the way I think....

" for the Lord does not see as mortals see; they look on outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart." (1 Samuel 16: 6-7).

[hyebruin]

Because:

i hadn't laffffed sooo hard in months...almost had a "six pack spasm"...

hey, i like that tigery look in his eyes
seapahn, we may disagree from time to time, but that picture was worth a whole damn pagefull essay of mumbo jumbo....
good job on your search