Hmm. Check out my situation.

[Emil]

What I've noticed is that when you have the sort of relationship with a girl where you just insult each other all the time (though you both know that it's all in good fun), there's chemistry there. I guess it's that sarcastic S.O.B. thing that Emil was mentioning. But to paraphrase the great Emil once again, you must also have "episodes" of niceness in between. It's a complicated balancing act. If you go too far one way, you're just a jerk, and if you go too far the other, you're a pushover.

Now if somebody's a complete jerk and the girl still falls for him...just be thankful that she doesn't like you. She just has issues.

Yep. I am friends with one girl in particular. I am really sarcastic with her, blunt with her, I'll straight up tell her things, but I know my limit. I'll tell her to shutup in a sarcastic way and she'll give it right back to me. But, I will be nice to her also, I have found my middle ground with her. Like the great Baron said we both know it's in good fun and there is some chemistry there. The other night I told her "It's over! I am not talking to you anymore," she replies with "Nooooooo, I don't want it to be over."
You are the great one Baron, not I.

[patlajan]

What I've noticed is that when you have the sort of relationship with a girl where you just insult each other all the time (though you both know that it's all in good fun), there's chemistry there. I guess it's that sarcastic S.O.B. thing that Emil was mentioning. But to paraphrase the great Emil once again, you must also have "episodes" of niceness in between. It's a complicated balancing act. If you go too far one way, you're just a jerk, and if you go too far the other, you're a pushover.

Now if somebody's a complete jerk and the girl still falls for him...just be thankful that she doesn't like you. She just has issues.

OK you and Emil need a reality check. None of what you're thinking is actually true. This is highschool stuff here. Wait...in Baron's case I guess that's ok.

If you don't have a relationship where you can be honest with your feelings you've got pretty much nothing. Who wants to put up with a sarcastic b!tch anyway.

[Emil]

OK you and Emil need a reality check. None of what you're thinking is actually true. This is highschool stuff here. Wait...in Baron's case I guess that's ok.

If you don't have a relationship where you can be honest with your feelings you've got pretty much nothing. Who wants to put up with a sarcastic b!tch anyway.

You don't believe nice guys finish last?

[patlajan]

You don't believe nice guys finish last?

I don't even know what "nice" means in this context. I do know that if you live selfishly you'll end up 40 single or divorced talking about how you're gonna get some at the local bar/strip club this weekend and what your favorite kind of women's panties are with people who don't want to hear it. That is some sad sxxx

[xBaron Dants]

OK you and Emil need a reality check. None of what you're thinking is actually true. This is highschool stuff here. Wait...in Baron's case I guess that's ok.

If you don't have a relationship where you can be honest with your feelings you've got pretty much nothing. Who wants to put up with a sarcastic b!tch anyway.

lol, SHUT UP YOU! High school yegher...I'm past high school my friend! Had I been in the States or anywhere else in Canada, I'd be in my first year of university, but since I'm in Quebec, I'm in my last year of CEGEP (Different school system than the rest of the world).

And I don't think what the great Emil (no, Emil, YOU'RE the great one ) and I are saying is false. Notice that I'm not talking about when you're "in a relationship". Raaaaaaaaather, the sort of sarcastic play fighting that takes place when you're friends with a girl is often a sign of chemistry, which then leads to the more serious, honest type relationship.

Bah, look at me...talking like Dr. Phil all of a sudden...

[Emil]

lol, SHUT UP YOU! High school yegher...I'm past high school my friend! Had I been in the States or anywhere else in Canada, I'd be in my first year of university, but since I'm in Quebec, I'm in my last year of CEGEP (Different school system than the rest of the world).

And I don't think what the great Emil (no, Emil, YOU'RE the great one ) and I are saying is false. Notice that I'm not talking about when you're "in a relationship". Raaaaaaaaather, the sort of sarcastic play fighting that takes place when you're friends with a girl is often a sign of chemistry, which then leads to the more serious, honest type relationship.

Bah, look at me...talking like Dr. Phil all of a sudden...

+1
Exactly. We are talking about how to act when you're friends, which might lead to something else.

[patlajan]

+1
Exactly. We are talking about how to act when you're friends, which might lead to something else.

That's how not to act. It will lead to a crappy relationship. Sarcasm is only a mask for anger and or frustration. It's gonna take too long to go from the sarcastic crap to the romantic good stuff. But what do I know, we need some girls to weigh in here.

[Emil]

That's how not to act. It will lead to a crappy relationship. Sarcasm is only a mask for anger and or frustration. It's gonna take too long to go from the sarcastic crap to the romantic good stuff. But what do I know, we need some girls to weigh in here.

So Mr. Patlajan, how do you act towards girls who are your friends?

[Genuine_Stud]

That's how not to act. It will lead to a crappy relationship. Sarcasm is only a mask for anger and or frustration. It's gonna take too long to go from the sarcastic crap to the romantic good stuff. But what do I know, we need some girls to weigh in here.

Not necessarily true.

It's better to have sarcasm and have something going for you from a friendship to a relationship with a girl than to have nothing at all.

Every girl is different... I can't say sarcasm works for all, because it obviously doesnt. However, your chances are better when you set up a comfortable atmosphere with humor to make it lead onto other things eventually.

[SagGal]

___As long as it's all in good fun, to me sarcasm is such a turn on. I think that it will "...lead to a crappy relationship" only if one partner abuses sarcasm. Sarcasm can become playful and fun. Well, I for one love it and it is such a turn on. hehe. Sarcasm does not have to be insulting. If both of the people in the relationship enjoy sarcasm and do not take it seriously or personally, then sparks may fly.