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*There might be a thread on this topic already, but I havent found it.*
I've been reading Vladimir Nabokov's Lolita this week and have become even more than normally disgusted with the idea of an older man having an intimate relationship with a teenager.
We know that there have been numerous couples throughout history with huge age differences and yet functional relationships. Many societies, like often our own, have no problem with a man in his 30s marrying a 17yo.
Are we really suppose to blindly follow the onset of puberty or should other aspects be considered? Provided the younger counterpart is ready for the given type of relations, is it ever right? Can they be a real couple by our standards?
This fall, I dated a 23yo (Im 19), and had no age-related issues, probably because we were at similar places in our lives. Imagining myself with a guy who has finished school and gotten into a career, however, I can see all sorts of issues coming up. Then again, its not all about the place. Last month, I was asked out by a student from Greece at my college who told me that he was 26yo. I felt sooo uncomfortable. How could three years make such a difference? Thoroughly confused.
So what do you think about the issue of age difference in a romantic relationship? Is it just another socially conditioned reaction? Is it unnatural after a certain point?
Would you ever marry a person significantly younger or older than you? (Significantly meaning enough to raise the eyebrows of your friends and family, I suppose) Personally, I love it when the guy is noticably older, but I guess 7 years is too much even for me. (And my mother did raise her eyebrow at 23)
I've been reading Vladimir Nabokov's Lolita this week and have become even more than normally disgusted with the idea of an older man having an intimate relationship with a teenager.
We know that there have been numerous couples throughout history with huge age differences and yet functional relationships. Many societies, like often our own, have no problem with a man in his 30s marrying a 17yo.
Are we really suppose to blindly follow the onset of puberty or should other aspects be considered? Provided the younger counterpart is ready for the given type of relations, is it ever right? Can they be a real couple by our standards?
This fall, I dated a 23yo (Im 19), and had no age-related issues, probably because we were at similar places in our lives. Imagining myself with a guy who has finished school and gotten into a career, however, I can see all sorts of issues coming up. Then again, its not all about the place. Last month, I was asked out by a student from Greece at my college who told me that he was 26yo. I felt sooo uncomfortable. How could three years make such a difference? Thoroughly confused.
So what do you think about the issue of age difference in a romantic relationship? Is it just another socially conditioned reaction? Is it unnatural after a certain point?
Would you ever marry a person significantly younger or older than you? (Significantly meaning enough to raise the eyebrows of your friends and family, I suppose) Personally, I love it when the guy is noticably older, but I guess 7 years is too much even for me. (And my mother did raise her eyebrow at 23)
thanks for the rules, please please NO MORE RULES! anony already killed the rules thread with his blah blah blah!... 
(love you dearly anony) 
LOL. So I'll probably marry the person and divorce them when they get too old to handle! HAHAHA (jk, I only meant the first part of my post.... I think.... 
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- hoenstly- age doesnt matter- but i wouldnt feel comfortable dating someon yungr than i- i like having someone a bit older....
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