Is age nothing but a number?

[gevo]

Just like I would never marry anyone younger than myself, gevo. It's a personal preference based on our idea of spousal relations. I can have sexual feelings for a younger guy and flirt and even date for fun, but I will never look at him as someone who can ask to be my husband.

P.S. Although my original question had more to do with limit on age differences in couples and not age based on gender roles.

Well.. i always thaught that it had mostly to do with the fact that guys mature slower than girls, physically and mentally.. and i have come to realize that its only a big deal when you are looking at it from the outside.

[ArmoBarbi]

Mental maturation even in guys caps out around 22, after that it (lets hope) isnt an issue.

Its more of a social conditioning thing like Nunechka was saying. My concepts of "marriage" and "husband" are automatically associated with the man being older and me feeling that he is older.

Dont be offended though, like I said, its still a personal thing. You live in the US ( and it is now 2005! ) You are free to date and marry anyone within the limits of the law and your own conscience. Dont pay attention to anyone who tries to convince you otherwise. Its your life.

[Neli]

well,I some guys they don't act as there age I mean they are 29 or young but they behave like a old man like they don't go out or talk ,dance and act!why?they are just 70 years old not a young man,please some body tell me why?!!!!the age is not important its the way you behave or think as muture or not what do you think?can we mariey with younger guys or not?3 difrent QUESTIONS!!!!

[Anonymouse]

why not? .

Because women age faster than men. Men look bettar in their 30s than women do in their 30s. I don't want a wife who is years older than me and already is sagging and aging.

[sad_eyes]

Women tend to live longer lives though..

[Neli]

well age is some times important not always but is what you feel.and act is more important.what do you think?

[Neli]

well actualy my last BF was acting like a80 years old man,and he was just 29.,I hate that

[Anushik]

If 19 years old guy tell us that he is 25, it will be OK to date him, isn't it? But if he says that he is 19, we will think that he is not mature and we will never go out with him... isn’t this wrong?
I have friend who is older that her boyfriend (they are dating 6 years), and because his mother thinks that she is younger than her son, everything is fine... they are lying 6 years... is this normal??? ...
I think age is the last thing we should worry about, when we meet the right guy...

[violette829]

Haha..what a thread!!

The greatest relationship that I've ever been in was with my ex bf, and he happened to be 2 years younger. Of course, I didn't know this when we met, but when I found out later, it didn't seem to bother me AT ALL! He was the most mature man that I'll probably ever meet. Recently, I was talking to a guy, who I thought was 24....well it wasn't until 2 weeks later that I come to find out he's actually 18!! THIS MADE ME SICK! That's 5 years!!! Hell no! I called him and told him that it would never work. I think it was because he LIED to me and led me to believe he was older. OOOOR maybe I just wasn't attracted to him..I dunno However, I was really sickened by it and he hasn't called me since. THANK GOD!

ewww I could be like his step mom or something.lol I wonder if he had a cute dad..... AAAAAAAAAAAAALRIGHTY!

[Metsamor]

You sound quite unbalanced, anxious and confused... The number of the guys you've dated (which by the way brings, little if any respect to you) hasn't made you an adult yet... Such age difference in marrages is of course disgusting...but your ambition to try different dudes at your age just to educate yourself is far more disgusting!