Just Wondering

[kkashian]

My pal, Josh claims that guys are more forgiving in their initial assessments of the opposite sex, than women. He says that men can see a woman's potential, were as women figure, what they see is all that there is.

I was wondering if any of the guys out there agree with my friend.

[Anonymouse]

Don't you read before posting? There is the love and romance forum for this.

[karoaper]

Interesting question:
I think it doesn't depend on gender. It depends more on the state of mind and being at the moment. I know girls who stubornly stick around the same shytehead guys because of some "invisible" qualities that only they see.

A person who is not overly oversexed or undersexed or someone with normal self-esteem will make much wiser decisions, but take someone who just really wants a relationship for the sake of it, he/she will probably overlook the other person's shortcomings.

As an offshoot, are women more likely to reveal more of their less-than-wonderful qualities early on than men?

[thedebutante]

As an offshoot, are women more likely to reveal more of their less-than-wonderful qualities early on than men?

hmm, well, i donno about women in general, but i put my cards on the table right away. however, what i have noticed is sometimes people think they can handle the "less-than-wonderful qualities," but realize in the long run that they can't.

[karoaper]

hmm, well, i donno about women in general, but i put my cards on the table right away. however, what i have noticed is sometimes people think they can handle the "less-than-wonderful qualities," but realize in the long run that they can't.

Damnit, happens to me every single time, the girl says "Oh I guess it's not a big deal that you're a Rabiz", but 5 months later I always find her in bed with our next door neighbor .... wait ... what?

[thedebutante]

Damnit, happens to me every single time, the girl says "Oh I guess it's not a big deal that you're a Rabiz", but 5 months later I always find her in bed with our next door neighbor .... wait ... what?

well at least it's the next door neighbor and not some strange woman

[karoaper]

well at least it's the next door neighbor and not some strange woman

I should be so lucky!!!

[thedebutante]

I should be so lucky!!!

this should explain why i said it

[Sip]

It all depends on how good looking the woman is. The better the woman looks, the more likely the males are to see "potentials". I suspect it's the same the other way around, except it's not just looks. In other words, if a guy possesses certain other qualities (such as prestiege, fame, power, etc), then the women might be faaaaar more willing to see "potentials" there that may not even really exist.

[loseyourname]

The only potential a man sees in a woman is the potential to get her into bed, which is why he is willing to forgive any personality quirks, at least initially. Soon enough they'll become annoying.