I have a problem??

[nairi]

And that's exactly what I mean. Typical Armenian/American shallowness. You don't care about the person being present; you only care about what they are wearing. And indeed, since I know I'll be judged not only by other guests, but more importantly by the host, I avoid weddings and funerals as much as I can. Selfish? Yes, as long as others make me feel uncomfortable around them, I avoid their presence whenever I can. Hence the reason why I have not been to LA/Glendale in a long time.

[winoman]

hm - what about going naked?

[nairi]

I think it's against the law to go naked anywhere, except for nudist beaches

I'm talking about wearing anything but necessarily a suit or dress with high heels or pointy shiny shoes. Apparently it's a disgrace if you wear sneakers and jeans.

[winoman]

I think it's against the law to go naked anywhere, except for nudist beaches

I'm talking about wearing anything but necessarily a suit or dress with high heels or pointy shiny shoes. Apparently it's a disgrace if you wear sneakers and jeans.

Most people are caught up in certain expectations. I for one am not bothered by such conventions. In fact I wanted to have our wedding out on a lake with everyone on canoes and rafts and such (in swim gear) where we would all take a swim for the reception....buuut...my wife saw it a bit differently....still we did have our wedding at a nice old lodge and not in a church - and though my best man and I wore a tux and my wife wore a wedding dress and her best friend (maid of honor) wore a very nice dress it was otherwise casual....still often one must make a decision to sacrifice ones own "freedoms" and such to apeal to the pre-conceptions of others - its just life really...and for "special occasions" and such you just do what you have to do - within limits - and otherwise why care what other's think?

[CatWoman]

I think it's against the law to go naked anywhere, except for nudist beaches

Not really... you can still pretend to be drunk and get naked at public pools in palm springs ... It happened yesterday (one of our guy friends decided to get naked all of a sudden) NOT a nice view at all .... Thank God no little kids were around! lol

I don't really like Armenian weddings myself. If it was up to me, I would have my wedding by the beach or something with only 50 close friends and family. Way more romantic. No loud Armenian music or anything. BUT my mom says I have to do it the Armenian way.

[Anonymouse]

And that's exactly what I mean. Typical Armenian/American shallowness. You don't care about the person being present; you only care about what they are wearing. And indeed, since I know I'll be judged not only by other guests, but more importantly by the host, I avoid weddings and funerals as much as I can. Selfish? Yes, as long as others make me feel uncomfortable around them, I avoid their presence whenever I can. Hence the reason why I have not been to LA/Glendale in a long time.

Oh no you branded me a "typical Armenian/American" when I showed you how silly your position is, namely that it's all about you, and not about others. Woe is me. And you conveniently get around that by saying "everyone is so judgemental they only care about image and not about me". As "proof" of that you cite that example of wanting to go to someones wedding wearing your jogging suit. Not once do you step out of your shoes and try to see that this is their wedding, their event, and it is out of respect for them and they have their standards. When you go to someones house do you respect their rules or are they "judging you" just by having their rules. There is a standard and a convention for everything whether you like it or not and if you don't like that, don't bring it up. Don't ask them if you can go to their wedding knowing there are standards, and knowing that you are oh so unique and you don't want to be "judged". No one is asking you to "conform" or give a crap what others think. So when people say they do mind if you pranced into their wedding with your jogging suit they aren't "judging" you. Get over it. It's not even about you. Technically speaking, laws and jurisprudence are about judgement. Civilization is about judgement. Being a parent and raising kids is about judgement. Being human and choosing PEPSI over COCA COLA is about judgement. Just get over it already. Evertime people that complain about those "evil judgemental people" are the ones at fault for giving a crap to begin with. All your strife and woes could have been avoided if you stopped thinking this is all about you. So when self-centered individuals who are too unique and fear the constant spectre of "judgement" the blame must surely fall on that ever guilty Armenian community. Oh the Armenians are so evil they are oh so evil they have caused all the strife and woes that plague so many unique individuals who are "judged".

[hyebruin]

going to a wedding or to a job interview (one that you actually care to get) in a jogging outfit or whatever comfy-cozy thing it is 'comfortable/natual' people want to wear will get you noticed not for violating some l.a. dress code but for being...well, how shall i say this?..a bit off

[nairi]

Of course it's all about me. Hence I already said, I avoid places where I am not appreciated for being me.

Bruin, it's all about what work you're looking for.

[nairi]

Well, I recently got invited to the wedding of a very good friend of mine. I asked her if there was some sort of dress code, and she said "no! wear whatever you want! everybody will!". For that alone, I will do my extra best to look nice.

[sad_eyes]

I wonder if the personality you portray on here, Anonymouse, is that of the same one you show at home, with friends, etc. Its quite unique....