Engaged and now stuck

[ckBejug]

Is this possible!?!?!!!!!!???????!

OMg, someone agrees with me.

I don't know what you're talking about.

[omniscient]

First of all, no matter what anyone says, she will still feel that way. I know it's hard for you to have a friend who is engaged, while you're still single. I'm sorry to tell you this, but you have to let them deal with their issues. If she is such a cool girl and everything is going well with them, why can't he take her with him? Vegas is KNOWN for sinners..cmon now...Omni jan, DO NOT tell me that he's not gonna be lettin it loose out on the town As far as Europe, OMG, WHYYYY would he NOT want to share that experience with her? It doesn't make sense to me. I understand people need their fun with their friends. Hell, I need it all the time. Even IF I get married, I'm still going to want to spend quality time with my friends. However, I don't think I would go on trips without him. What's the fun in that?

There's also another issue. If her parents are not cool with letting her go out of town, then I completely understand and you 2 should go, even if it makes her a little tiffed. Just tell her that you would take her along, if her parents were okay with it. Also, it's not fair for your friend to pay for her parents' ignorance. (ok maybe not ignorace..but you get the point).....


I hope this helped.

You're telling me to go to Vegas with my best friend and bring along the girlfriend have you lost your mind Violette. I'll be a third wheel in the room and everywhere that just won't work. I proposed we go to Vegas and I kept saying how fun it will be let's just go so he agreed and is coming with me. Her parents are not cool with her going to Vegas either but that is beside the point even if they were I still wouldn't want it to be us three like I said before. The whole Europe thing is my idea, I keep telling him how we have only 1-2 more good years before he gets married and we should go to Europe together and see Europe together, and I can tell when I tell him that he thinks about the girl getting mad at him for coming with me.

[omniscient]

I agree.

But I also wonder why he wants to go to Europe without her.

He doesn't want to go without her, he just want to go with me also and I keep telling him we have to go this Summer before you get married and we never have the chance.

[omniscient]

Vegas is KNOWN for sinners..cmon now...Omni jan, DO NOT tell me that he's not gonna be lettin it loose out on the town

I forgot about this one. There is no way in hell he would let loose like you are thinking it's just not in him. He has never been the partying type nor does he care about "getting some" from other girls. The girl even knows that part for sure, we all do, that is just how he is.

[omniscient]

I guess no more trips with my good friend

[thedebutante]

He doesn't want to go without her, he just want to go with me also and I keep telling him we have to go this Summer before you get married and we never have the chance.

Umm, why didn't you do this last year? Seems to me that you're trying to get your friend's attention. haha

[violette829]

I guess no more trips with my good friend

Umm..Why don't you take someone with you? That way, you can do your thing, and still be there with your best bud. Janaaa I think you either need to get serious with someone, or get new friends. JK. If you want a Vegas partner, I'm always there!!! I DO HAVE TO WARN YOU-I AM NOT MYSELF IN VEGAS!!

[Yuro]

This doesn't really involve love and romance so I posted it here unless the moderators don't think so.

I have a problem that I wanted to see what your opinions on this matter is. My best friend since I was 4 got engaged a few weeks ago and I'm really cool with the fiancee and we are also real good friends, I like her a lot.

The problem is me and my friend want to go to Vegas for 2 days and she isn't cool with us going since they are engaged now. She says she wants to experience everything he experiences and doesn't want him to go without her. She also says it's going to look bad if my fiancee is going to Vegas with his friend and we just got engaged. This is really frustrating, we are still going but she is still upset and I don't know how it will be in the future. We are really going to just hang out, gamble , and relax. She and I both know that he will never cheat on her so that's not even a problem. She just thinks it looks bad to everyone else and also wants to experience everything with him. We want to go to Europe also this upcoming Summer and I don't know how we are going to deal with that. She is Hayastansi, so I think a lot of it comes from that, since she is engaged now things are different to her.

I don't know what to do? Who is right and who is wrong? What can we do about this or say to explain to her that things like this shouldn't be a big deal.

They just became a couple, and offcourse it's going to look bad if she doesn't go with him. What's that saying? If you're so into this Vegas trip with just you and your friend, organize it at a later time. For now, she should come along, or else people may start talking about it; how she didn't go to vegas with her fiancee, and there could already be problems.

See what I'm getting at? Stop being so selfish. Looks like the only problem for their marriage is you! You must be giving them the eye.

Love and Relationship councilor,

Yuriy.

[omniscient]

Umm, why didn't you do this last year? Seems to me that you're trying to get your friend's attention. haha

We have done this before, it's not like it's the first time. I am not trying to get his attention I am trying to spend the last 2 years having fun before he gets married.

[ckBejug]

I forgot about this one. There is no way in hell he would let loose like you are thinking it's just not in him. He has never been the partying type nor does he care about "getting some" from other girls. The girl even knows that part for sure, we all do, that is just how he is.

So it really sounds like she is being pissy about being left out of something. I mean, if she knooows he is not 'that type of guy' and if she trusts him, etc and knows he would never do anything to hurt her (which obviously she should by now considering the fact that they are engaged) then she is just being very unfair to him by being so disagreeable about his going somewhere without her. I think she needs to be a tad more understanding of his feelings about being able to spend time with a good friend before he gets married.

He doesn't want to go without her, he just want to go with me also and I keep telling him we have to go this Summer before you get married and we never have the chance.

I think you should have suggested Europe before he got engaged but obviously monetary and time concerns are important so maybe you couldn't... still, Europe being such an amazing place to go with someone you are with it is probably a good idea for you to start looking for a Europe buddy, so you can go with his fiancee too and not feel like a third wheel. It's not like Europe is Vegas where you can go whenever you feel like it without very much prior planning.

This you only mentioned in passing but I had to comment, she is engaged but is still not allowed by her parents to go to Vegas?? How does that make sense?