a poll about us...

[nunechka]

No, I didn't say that my dad only helps out when my mom can't do it. You made up that part about her being sick or having large events to cater.
My dad cooks maybe 3 or 4 meals a week on average and washes the dishes about 30% of the time by himself. There are many times that he'll help with both tasks, but not do it himself. He also does his own laundry, does yardwork, helps with gardening type things, does home improvement stuff (like putting in hardwood floors a few months ago).

It seems you are saying that even if it's like 60/40 split that we should vote for one because it's "most" or the majority. I'm sorry if stating that your poll lacks appropriate options upset you or whatever, but the fact is, you still don't have a "both" option for members for whom it is 50/50.

Speaking as a researcher now, the point of surveying people is to try to get an accurate description of certain characteristics/habits/etc of people. Not having options that would do that, prevent you from doing that. You lose information that way. For a more extreme example, why ask does your mom do all the housework: yes or no when you can list more options to see if it's the dad, if it's the member, if it's another member of the family, or if it's divided up pretty evenly among family members?

well then you should change your pick, beacuse 4 times is more then half... right??? 4 out of 7 days in the week??? yes? no?
the reason i didnt have both is because MOST people would have chosen both; the fact of the matter is that most people love both their parents the same, and want to give them both credit for everything that they do, however when we look at reality, and think about it a little more, we realize that our mothers, in general, are the bearers of the burden of not only WORKING outside the home, but also taking care of the home, they were the primary raisers when it came time to rear the baby, like feeding, showering, etc...

if we are pressed to choose, and we must pick the reality of the situation, on most occasions, for most people, its our mothers. however, when our father does something like 1 or 2 times out of 7, we give him as much credit as our mothers when they are doing, generally, less work around the house? why? our mother does it EVERYDAY! she does this without being specifically noticed, without being acknowledged as much as our fathers...

if everytime our mothers cooked, we were as ackowledging as our fathers BBQ, then we would be in constant THANKING mode, because they do it everyday! they even clean up after us... we just say, mama JAN! can you make my favorite dish today? and she says, ba vonts bala jan! ko sirtov togh lini...

[loseyourname]

well then you should change your pick, beacuse 4 times is more then half... right??? 4 out of 7 days in the week??? yes? no?
the reason i didnt have both is because MOST people would have chosen both; the fact of the matter is that most people love both their parents the same, and want to give them both credit for everything that they do, however when we look at reality, and think about it a little more, we realize that our mothers, in general, are the bearers of the burden of not only WORKING outside the home, but also taking care of the home, they were the primary raisers when it came time to rear the baby, like feeding, showering, etc...

If you're so certain that that's the case, why do you even bother asking us? My father is my only parent that ever held a job. He also planted both of our lawns and all of the gardens and designed and installed the irrigation system. He's painted the outside of the house several times, put in a new roof, new insulation, rebuilt both bathrooms, built all of the storage space in the garage, built a space on the side of the house for our dog, put in all of the carpets and hardwood floors, has fixed every plumbing, heating, and electrical problem that we've had, and maintains everybody's car. I'd say he does his share.

[nunechka]

so loseyourname, your father is not like othe fathers... he can do things and does things that are not AVERAGE!

[nunechka]

see this is why... look i respect what my father does as well, he has done the same things for our house... my question isnt about your yard work... it isnt about paining a house... it isnt about the car... or any other once a month, or once every 5 year, or even a one time activity...

many women have this type of service done (on those occasions, when the time comes) by professionals... however cars dont break down daily, (unless they are dieing), houses dont need painting daily, and many women have gardens and do the same thing...

[loseyourname]

I would estimate that my father performs about 9 hours of work on any given day, and my mother about 6. That said, my mother never really gets any days off. I guess I just don't feel any need to value one over the other. I value the contributions that both of them make. The kids could be doing more, I suppose, but I didn't do much when I lived there so I really can't say anything.

[Siggie]

well then you should change your pick, beacuse 4 times is more then half... right??? 4 out of 7 days in the week??? yes? no?
the reason i didnt have both is because MOST people would have chosen both; the fact of the matter is that most people love both their parents the same, and want to give them both credit for everything that they do, however when we look at reality, and think about it a little more, we realize that our mothers, in general, are the bearers of the burden of not only WORKING outside the home, but also taking care of the home, they were the primary raisers when it came time to rear the baby, like feeding, showering, etc...

if we are pressed to choose, and we must pick the reality of the situation, on most occasions, for most people, its our mothers. however, when our father does something like 1 or 2 times out of 7, we give him as much credit as our mothers when they are doing, generally, less work around the house? why? our mother does it EVERYDAY! she does this without being specifically noticed, without being acknowledged as much as our fathers...

if everytime our mothers cooked, we were as ackowledging as our fathers BBQ, then we would be in constant THANKING mode, because they do it everyday! they even clean up after us... we just say, mama JAN! can you make my favorite dish today? and she says, ba vonts bala jan! ko sirtov togh lini...

Alright let me say this differently. I can't speak for anyone else, but I have no problem telling the truth rather than trying to paint anyone in favorable light.
I think there should be a distinction between not doing anything and helping, but not doing an "equal" part. I didn't pick a response by the way, so I have nothing to change.